Key west is being postponed till end of Feb or early March for me.

Here's my delima. I'm going with the current girl I'm seeing, as her parents are going to be flipping the bill for her (don't ask), but as of the last 3 or 4 weeks, we're experiencing one of many historical "cooling off" periods (we've been on again/off again in cycles since 1996/1997). The last "off again" lasted 2 years or so.

Anyways, to make a long story short, If I end up calling it off with her, she has plenty of friends she could invite to key west to go with her instead of me. But if I end up staying with her until the mini-vacation, I'll feel kind of shitty about doing that .

I'll be kind of relieved if she just called the whole damned thing off altogether.
The weather here in Tampa is very warm and pretty, so I have no real desire to "flee to warmer places".









When do you call it quits? Have you ever timed it for minimal impact? Or do you just do it regardless of the consequences?

Has somebody called it quits on you, while you never saw it coming?

I certainly don't know your story, but if you can only make it a couple of months before you need to take time apart, well, wtf is that?

I would think either you decide to make it work and make it work or you decide it's not going to and move on. I can't imagine how difficult all that limbo would be. It would make me absolutely miserable.

But who am I to say? I'm not you.

CarrieMpls said:

I'm not miserable about the whole thing. We've been through this so many times, that I'm not even dissapointed--that would mean I had expectations.

But I do think it'll be over in a matter of weeks or less. Two people being "used" to each other doesn't constitute much of a foundation for any kind of relationship.

Sorry. Maybe that came out a bit harsh.

If you really plan on carrying on, I wouldn't cancel the trip. I would wait and see what happens. She can always find a friend to go in another few weeks, or months or whenever. If you're committed at the least to seeing things through the cooling off period and figuring out what's what after that, then I wouldn't go changing anything just yet.

CarrieMpls said:

The "Break up" actually won't be a separation of sorts--just a redefining of the relationship.



I'm convinced I will die alone.

Imago said:

Well what are you doing, then?
You 'think' it will be over? Well, don't you have a say? It sounds like neither of you really knows what you want. I guess if you're both fine drifting through it like that, then there you go. Make no promises, have no expectations and take each day as it comes.

Imago said:

If you want to die alone, you will. Of course, I'm convinced of the same for myself, but maybe for other reasons.

Jesus Christ, do you want to die alone???

jerseykrs said:

I want to die in your arms as part of a suicide sex & death orgy.

Imago said:

keep the comedy to yourself, what's up with you dude?

jerseykrs said:

I don't understand your question.

Imago said:

I MEAN, why are you killing this AGAIN man?

jerseykrs said:

I don't think you understand. I NEVER intended to walk into anything serious. I never made long term plans, nor set any types of expectations.

Neither of us are at a point in our lives where we're comfortable with serious commitments. She's very busy, and I'm coasting along life trying to figure out where to go from here. But the end of the road doesn't see the two of us together.

We both know this. It's not like I'm going to mind fucking her with a breakup or vice versa.

Not all relationships start with the intention of forever ever after.


I'm the same way with alot of friendships. We all go through phases in our lives that cuase us to hookup and to depart. I still maintain contact with friends from back in my early 20's, but the dynamics of the relationship has shifted and changed. I don't see this as a bad thing.


My dying alone remark was only semi-serious.

Just end it.

Imago said:

If that's all true, then why are you stressing?

A lot of people say those things, but when it comes down to it, very few can really pull that kind of thing off. Just sayin'.

yeah, then I'm with Erin, end it buddy.

All I can say is this. You will know when it is time to call it quits with her.

You're dating a "girl" Wait, What?!
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Poor Dan.....

This is the weirdest thing I've ever read, for a lot of different reasons.


The main one being, I don't understand what your trying to say or ask.

SureThing said:

Actually, everything is better today.


All's good.



Peace N B wild.

Imago said: