HereToRockYourWorld said:

yes, but then have sex with them.




I think it's silly to say one thing or act is more intimate than another. Sure, you behave differently with those you are close with, but overall if there's that kind of connection and you're both feeling it, anything can be/feel incredibly intimate. Or not. It's more about the moment than the action.

CarrieMpls said:

Well, sure, yeah, then I want to have sex with them. But I've been known to have sex with people when there was no such thing to be found.

It is about the moment, and with some (most?) people that connection can really wax and wane. Sex only feels particularly intimate to me if that's there. It really is about the connection for me.

retina said:

I got namedropped on a GD thread! Woo-hoo!

Whenever I've fingered a girl,
I don't consider it as sex,
but I do feel a certain amount of closeness to her, during.

Illustrator said:

Are we 13 again?


"have u fingered her yet?" LOL.

A good sign of intimate sex for me is when

a) I have waited a while to sex with the girl

b) I really want to make her cum and will make more of an effort to do so (i.e loads of foreplay, lots of kissing before hand, not just straight to fucking)

c) Laughing during the whole thing. I think its cute

d) Talking, hugging, kissing afterwards.

Illustrator said:

Mach said:

I agree

fantasyislander said:

Masturbation!

Whap!!

fantasyislander said:

You stole my thread you Fg Nerd!

I think sex is the most intimate thing for me sometimes, other times I can be quite detached from the act or the person. Holding hands can almost be more of a connection, and gazing into each other's eyes, even from across the room.

Ace said:

Never fucked anyone I just met. Don't want anyone touching me that I don't have a personal attachment to. Strangers aren't in that category.

fantasyislander said:

Emotional and spiritual intimacy is much deeper (and more dangerous) than anything physical

Janfriend said:

I don't like emotional intimacy because I always get yelled at.

heartbeatocean said:

wha? why?

Janfriend said:

how should I know why? I'm not doing the yelling.

heartbeatocean said:

Well, most people get yelled at because of something they did or said

If sex is intimate then how do you explain the porn industry or sex addicts. It's work/physical need with no connecton to the mind.
With the exception of one night stands, there's "invisible strings". Some use sex as an excuse to wanting a greater commitment.
Intimacy is defined as innermost; familiar; closely related; to hint,to imply.
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thedribbler said:

it's different!! really, it is. it stems from your thread, but i wanted to explore the sex aspect of it. the thought that sex isnt as physically intimate as you can get is astonishing to me, and i wondered what everyone thought about that.

sorry.

fantasyislander said:

You seem really sweet if what you said above is true. As i said, i think sex CAN be intimate, but yes, i have sometimes had sex which has meant nothing to me really. Its not a nice way to do things. Waste of time. I always try to find someone who actually means alot to me now.....

..... Not that, that is easy, because I look horrible LOL, but in a way, if a girl really likes me, despite my looks, then I know I really mean something to her. So being repulsive can have its occasional advantages LOL
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Sex can be intimate, but it isn't so by default. Sometimes it can be the most impersonal thing possible you can do with somebody else.

I'd have to agree with whoever it was that said masturbating in front of each other was more intimate than sex. For anything other than basic fucking, it usually requires a greater amount of comfort with the person IMO.

Once you star refering to her as a stupid ass whore

ZombieKitten said:

OK, fucking, whilst holding hands and staring into each other's eyes - doesn't get more intimate than that

ZombieKitten said:

intimacy for me is all about conversation. confessions, hopes, dreams, fears.

it really has nothing to do with physicalness.

JustErin said:

oh shat! LOL

ur a soldier.

my answer... i don't think sex is necessarily intimate... if it's 4 the purpose of just wanting 2 fonk then it serves its purpose without being especially intimate.

intimacy begins 4 me when my spirit/soul is involved... and it takes on many forms and practices...

Sex with "the one" is the most intimate thing for me, sex without her isn't.

mdiver said:

So do u like intimacy or not?

When she is gargling my balls like listerine

Loud arguments.