Straight and to the point..... Drop him, there is no love relationship. Move on.

alcohol and sex on the first night ALWAYS make for a meaningful relationship.

alcohol and sex on the first night ALWAYS make for a meaningful relationship.

Confused about the guy I am seeing.

I have been seeing a guy i used to work with for 2 months. When we 1st got together on a drunken night he invited me for a drink we went back to his he said he did not want a relationship. That was cool with me.

However we have seen a fair bit of each other been out drinking with his mates have nights in with a film go to the cinima. I stay over at his (I live at home) he spent £60 on a meal for us on my 25th and I have just gone with the flow.

When we were working people at the work asked if we are going out and I alway said no we were mates. It was New Years Eve he said lets make it official i said ok and then he tells people we are together but not everybody. I have never called him my bodyfriend to people we both know only my friends who do not know him.

However some time days before we had the meal on my birthday (Jan 9th) he said i told him I loved him. We had been out drinking it was a weekend then gone back to his and kept drinking. I do not remember at any point saying I love you. He said was saying how happy i was he had introduced me to new people and blah blah blah (i have been living away and struggled to make a new start when I came home) I can remember that bit I just don't remember saying I love you.
I dont know if it was when we were doing it. before we had a bath together or after or what I really don't remember saying anything to him. I know he has spoken one of his male friends and a female friend about this but i have no idea what either of them said.

Now he has just called me as we have not seen each other since Saturday. He usually rings me I am a texter.
We are going to town Saturday as he need a few things usually i would stay at his but he has family plans on Saturday night. He said he wants us to get togerher and talk as he thinks we should take a step back.

What the hell is this guy on about. Take a step back to what! We spent all our time flirting at work there was a real spark and as soon as we got out of work and i lift we have been having sex from day one.

I have cut back on how much i drink with him because of this anyway i usually only drink a lot when i am with him. But I dont want things to change and if i drink too much i may say soemthing stupid.

I honestly do not remember saying i love you. I really do think a lot of him and I know I would have avoided any other guy if I had made myself look so foolish but we just get on so well.

He says he does not want me to end up getting hurt however I think he contradicts himself as last Saturday he wanted us to have a weekend away and i thought it was too soon. he calls me as its been so long since we last spoke and although he wants us to take a step back he wanted me to go stay tonight.

What the hell is happening. He finishes work at 9 we will speak then. I need advice as I usually open my trap and dig my own grave

I recently met the straight cousin of a good friend. On the night of our first meeting, I ended up rimming, blowing, and getting fucked by him. And he blew me—badly. Since then, I've given him another blowjob. That night he slept with his arms around me and he repeatedly muttered to me—drunkenly—that he loves me!

I have since gone out with the friend and the cousin several times to straight bars and have watched the cousin pick up girls, which is fine. I am not in the market for a fucked-up only-straight-when-sober boyfriend.

But I do want to have sex with him.

So here are the stupid questions: Is he straight? Is he gay? Is he bi? Why does he only want to fuck me when he's drunk? Now he wants to go on vacation with me and I don't know if I want to keep messing around with this "straight" hottie, even if he does have a beautiful, big, juicy cock. It's not like I can see marrying him. What is a confused gay guy to do?

Fucking love you.

LOVE you!

We do a lot of things sober its just i was drunk that night

alcohol and sex on the first night ALWAYS make for a meaningful relationship.

alcohol and sex on the first night ALWAYS make for a meaningful relationship.

jerseykrs said:

If that wouldn't be done over here where I live, the whole Finnish nation would have extinct by now.

I recently met the straight cousin of a good friend. On the night of our first meeting, I ended up rimming, blowing, and getting fucked by him. And he blew me—badly. Since then, I've given him another blowjob. That night he slept with his arms around me and he repeatedly muttered to me—drunkenly—that he loves me!

I have since gone out with the friend and the cousin several times to straight bars and have watched the cousin pick up girls, which is fine. I am not in the market for a fucked-up only-straight-when-sober boyfriend.

But I do want to have sex with him.

So here are the stupid questions: Is he straight? Is he gay? Is he bi? Why does he only want to fuck me when he's drunk? Now he wants to go on vacation with me and I don't know if I want to keep messing around with this "straight" hottie, even if he does have a beautiful, big, juicy cock. It's not like I can see marrying him. What is a confused gay guy to do?

madartista said:

Drop him like a hot potato. You'll end up looking like some desperate ass when he leaves you and gets married to some lady. Better to leave with your dignity. I've been burned by two guys like that, and in both cases, I wished I just called the shots and ended it on my own terms. "Straight" confused guys are fun for a few flings, but thats it.

Keep jumping on that beautiful, big, juicy cock, of course.

We advice professionals are never supposed to advise people--at least in print--to jump on a beautiful, big, juicy cock unless there's a chance they'll ride that cock all the way to the altar. Did Ann Landers--at whose desk I am delighted to be typing the phrase "beautiful, big, juicy cock"--advise a single reader to jump on a beautiful, big, juicy cock once in the 16 decades she was writing her column? Did Abigail Van Buren? Has Billy Graham? No, no, and I'm guessing not. (I don't read Graham's syndicated advice column religiously, so I can't rule out the possibility.)

It's not just that my advice-giving colleagues disapprove of premarital and/or no-possibility-of-marital sex. The whole culture has a problem with it. We all believe that sex should have some noble purpose--in theory, at least. The possibility of marriage is just the easiest and most obvious. But sex can have a noble purpose even when marriage is out of the question. Needless to say, an Ann Landers or a Billy Graham can't see the noble purpose in a fag jumping on the beautiful, big, juicy cock of a drunken straight boy. I, however, can: One day BBJC is going to have to reconcile the person he is--and the people he fucks--when he's drunk with the person he is when he's sober. Every night he spends with you, SCUM, brings that day of reckoning eight or nine inches closer. So take the straight boy and his beautiful, big, juicy cock on vacation for his sake, SCUM, if not your own. And finally, an answer to the stupidest question: gay, straight, bi? My money's on gay. Yes, there are a handful of straight men out there who will, when impaired or imprisoned, make do with a little man ass. And, yes, booze can bring out the inept cocksucker in many a bisexual dude. But a "straight" guy who makes drunken declarations of same-sex love is 110 percent faggot.

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Actually, this is the correct answer courtesy of Dan Savage: