Anx said:

One friend I'm thinking about is extremely closeted sexually and emotionally. He reveals very, very little about himself. I almost feel like it's some sort of power trip that he has letting me ramble on the way I do. Or maybe because he's an old friend, I'm trying desperately to reach some level of intimacy and connection by sharing about myself but the more time passes, I think it's just a hopeless attempt to try to connect with this person on anything deep or meaningful. It's like we're planets apart and I'm trying to bridge the gap or something. ugh

And then the other friend is one where our friendship began by her giving me advice and feedback on my life. And to just maintain a relationship I fall back into this pattern, even though I don't want to and then I really get annoyed nowadays when she again offers me advice. I also think she gets something power out of playing the listener/advisor role, and subconsciously I'm just providing her more dirt.

oh here I go again...

Anx said:

as i was saying a bit of snow here today in minneapolis, just flurries i think

Anx said:

XxAxX said:

LATE!

superspaceboy said:

Could you use that emoticon in a sentence, please?

Anx said:

no, i don't think it'll rain. just a few flurries
[Edited 1/10/07 10:28am]

XxAxX said:

My friend and devotion to Anx compells me to post on this crap thread in spite of my better tastes.

Imago said:

blow it out yer madball, buddy

Anx said:

Your improper use of "thanks in advance" makes me a boy.

superspaceboy said:

it was as proper as emily post at a goddamn bridal shower and you know it!

XxAxX said:

knock it off, the two of youse

Anx said:

LOL, some people get so far off track with side-stories and other extraneous crap, that you need a flow chart to keep track of what the hell they're talking about. I've been tempted to pull out a piece of paper and a pen and start doodling one when someone is blabbing to me nonstop, then cut them off after a few mintues, and ask them to look over it to make sure I have it all down correctly so far...

Tom said:

I've noticed people cutting me off mid sentence a lot when I'm on my cell phone. I later found out that some phones have noise filters in them to help reduce background noise, that can sometimes cause a lag in transmitting what you're saying. My old Sanyo I had from Sprint was real bad at doing this. So I might say something to my friend on the other line, and they don't hear it till a second or two later, and vice versa.

Oh i hate that so much i just stop talking and walk away

I'm amazed at how many of you are willing to admit that you're the overtalkers/interrupters/self-question-answerers.

That means you people KNOW that you do it.

My faith in humanity wilts a little further with each passing day.

Mach said:

So, what was your loving way of telling them that they were being rude?

Anx said:

So, so, so true.

You're actually one of those people who I wish would talk more, because when you do, you're fun to listen to.

The friends I have who are the talkers/interrupters/self-question-answerers are not interesting. They are not funny. They are not insightful. They are repetative.

And I know it's my fault for not weeding them out of my life. But I also love them.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

some of them are loveable! some of them are family! there's no way to 100% rid one's life of having to endure the behavior. and i know a lot of people who are quite tolerant of these kinds of people. i'm just not one of them.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

where's the compassion? we need heeeelp

heartbeatocean said:

STEP ONE: Admit you are powerless against the power of your mouth.

STEP TWO: SHUT UP SHUT UP SHUT UP

STEPS THREE THROUGH TWELVE: Gravy.

Anxiety said:

Wait. What the fuck? When did you become a moderator again?

Please, don't say, like, a month ago. I WILL kill myself.

I just interrupted you, what were we talking about?

It's good that you don't tolerate them. I think there is something wrong with those of us who do.

BlackAdder7 said:

to the master

heartbeatocean said:

That's awesome! You can ask for help, and then when one of us opens our mouths to give a suggestion, you can wait for us to take a breath and act as though that were a pause in the "conversation" to go ahead and insert your own ideas, theories, issues, contradictions, etcetera, for however many hours are available. I'm sure it'll be very refreshing for you.

Anxiety said:

HereToRockYourWorld said:

You know, I really have a beef with you power-tripping saint-like listening freaks.

heartbeatocean said:

I talk too. But I hold a deep-seated belief that I'm boring, which helps me to keep it to reasonable levels. Orgers sometimes think there's something wrong with me in person 'cause I don't talk as much. I figure here, if somebody thinks I'm boring, they can just skip my posts. Poor fuckers IRL don't have that option.

Anxiety said:

I think I'm on my way to recovery!

heartbeatocean said:

That's right. We just need people telling us off all the time.