TommyRoss said:

Oh.

Shit.

Anx said:

Huh? Did I say something?

Anx said:

minneapolisgenius said:

i thought you said you were an answer-blocking-questioner!

i hate when people do that to me. I make a point of telling them "do you want my answer or not?"

i do it to other people though...

Anx said:

Is that post answer to something?

ugh.


I hate talker over-ers.

And I'm a total let it go-er, so when I'm with these type of people I pretty much don't get a word in.

minneapolisgenius said:

What?

Mach said:

I've had that same experience. I was a great sounding board while it lasted but as soon as I said ONE honest response that said something about ME and not them, they disappeared.

FunkMistress said:

is that a question or an answer?

Thats when they end up buried in my backyard

Anx said:

DanceWme said:

this is the first good answer in this thread

DanceWme said:

So many was it at last count?

Anx said:

Yes!

minneapolisgenius said:

54

My mom does that constantly. I have to put on boxing gloves just to have a conversation with her. It's exhausting!



By the way, I have one particular friend and maybe two where I find myself doing all the talking. It's like gab gab gab. With everyone else, I'm very self-contained and judicious about my speech. But with certain folks...I babble non-stop. I know they're not really that interested and I'm just taking over the space, but then they don't contribute much about themselves. And then I need to go take a shower because I've just revealed all this nonsense about myself to someone who doesn't care in the first place. I HATE IT! It's like this compulsion that I can't stop and it seems to happen with old attached friendships that have just worn themselves out. Actually, now that I mention it, I really try to avoid these people now. It's like the whole relationship has gone corrupt. Or all the babbling is just a disguise for all the OTHER things that are not being said. Any insights?

DanceWme said:

it takes 8 to make a party!

Anx said:

im scared

i'm trying really hard not to do that to people.

for me i think it's an ADD thing. impatience.

Heiress said:

But for me, it only happens with a couple very select, specific people. What is that about?

Heiress said:

i guess a big part of my impatience with this type of personality is that i'm SOOOO not this kind of person. i am almost always in the habit of being very deliberate about what i say, and if i can't find the words i want, i take my time until they come to me. i'm a very annoying person to argue with face to face, because i will shut down until i can form the exact words i want for my argument. when i feel really really really comfortable, i'll babble a little, but even then - my babble has a ceiling.
[Edited 1/10/07 9:45am]

Anx said:

I'm like that most of the time. In plenty of situations, I gather so much energy before I speak that I can see people eating up my words when I do. I wish I was like that all the time though.

heartbeatocean said:

what is it you're saying, though, after the initial question? do you start offering additional explanations, or do you start answering your own question?

Anx said:

i know that type. i admire this, actually.

heartbeatocean said:

i know some people who are SO quiet that i feel like i am never able to finish a sentence around them, because it seems like they're waiting for me to say more.

"so i went shopping today."

*expectant stare*

"...aaaand i bought some groceries?"

*expectant stare*

"....ummm, and i used a shopping cart when i went?"

and so on...

Heiress said:

I don't think I ask many questions. It's more a general diarrhea of the mouth. Or I'll listen to their response and then go on some indefinite monologue about myself in response to the question. Or they'll ask me a question and then that sets me into a senseless ramble. It's like this primordial prehistoric pattern set up in my psyche that I can't control. But it ONLY happens with a couple people and I always feel used afterward.

Anx said:

I am more like heartbeat...it only happens with certain people, like here at work I babble on and on and on and I see the guys walking away but I just can't stop talking, then in other situations it takes a minute before I say stuff, someone actually said I was quiet the other day i was like um NO!!! I too think its the ADD, but more often than not it's just this need to be heard at a specific time, that's all.

as I babble on and on and on on the Thread