I have an acquaintance who is extremely upset as some nude pics of her taken by a former boyfriend have apparently popped up on the internet.

Here we go, why of why in the age of the world wide web would any woman with half a brain pose naked for pictures for boyfriends, lovers, whomever? She was clearly upset so I didn't want to berate her about this but, how dumb can she be?
First of all, most of my girlfriends are over 30 years old. I mean what the hell? We're not talking about some dim-witted teenie bopper here. She has children people. Do you know anyone who has done some stupid mess like this? I mean if I am with a man, he can SEE me naked but he ain't gonna take no souveniers or keepsakes, dig? Because all these men do is show that shit to their friends,even though they swear they won't. And if you break up, everybody will get a peek.Don't be foolish girls.

I knew a girl who was dating this guy for not even a month and decided to let him videotape them havin sex. Of course, he let his friends watch and one of them even borrowed it. About a week later, half the damn campus saw it and she was embarassed. She left the school and that was that

you can't trust anyone ever.

alwayslate said:

I must say it's funny to me that after something like this happens your rant is about how dumb this girl was and not how much of an asshole this guy is for betraying her trust.

I'm not saying she made the best choice in the world. I just think he's made the bigger mistake here.

CarrieMpls said:

I agree to a degree. However, the only person hurt by this is her. I would think the person who stood to lose the most would be the one to not to agree to it. He didn't make the mistake.A Mistake is something you do that you didn't intend to do. He probably intended to allow people to view those pics all along. Hell. he's probably a hero as far as his boys are concerned.
There aren't any naked pics of him. Just her. They each are responsible, no doubt. But look whose ass it is on display for the world to see.I am saying she should have been smarter and protected herself from this kind of thing. Luckily she isn't famous and not many people will see them. But enough people that know her and him will. It's just messed up.

!Stupid girls!

furygirl said:

http://www.youtube.com/wa...hQyzwHHD4I

I don't think it makes the women look dumb at all. Having someone you once had a relationship with betray you like that is not a reflection on the person that was betrayed, it's a reflexion on the person that did the betraying.

It would be just as bad if he did something like blog about very personal, embarassing information she shared with him in trust. Would she be "a dumb girl" for sharing things like that as well?

The boyfriend just comes off as a pathetic loser to me.

well put Erin ... i totally agree ... as a male ... hell - these naked romp videos are fun to view ... but afterwards ... u are like ... forgettin em in a week ....

also - its just a guy and gal gettin naked and doin what 98% of us do ... OR ... doin what our parents did to have us !

alwayslate said:

Mistake was a bad choice of words on my part. I just think he's the most to blame for this. She did this in confidence and trusted him. He has betrayed that trust. That's the worst thing anyone can do to anyone else, barring physical abuse.

JustErin said:

JustErin said:

Agreed, he is a pathetic loser but we're not talking about who is the bigger butthead- or at least I don't think I am. Now if he just put some words on a page about something personal they talked about, I don't consider that a big deal since it could be all lies anyway. There's no photographic evidence. My problem is the visual. I think it is foolish to do that. I would not knowingly have anything documented in a photograph of me doing anything that I would be ashamed to have someone see me doing. Sure,there are people who are not bothered by that.But she is a person who clearly is bothered by the idea of people seeing her naked, therefore, she should not have done it(can't rewind life though). I would just like to warn any women who are considering allowing boyfriends to do this that if they're going to do it, do it knowing that others WILL see those photos sooner or later.

I think if 2 people are involved in a long term comitted relationship, where mutual trust has been established, then cool. The human body (Espspecially the female body ) is beautiful. Snap away. On the other hand, if the people involved are not in a committed,trusting, Loving relationship, the pictures could wind up anywhere. I think the woman gives her power away in this situation because all she can do is get mad after the fact.

I, personally, really do not think that a photograph is any worse than words. People are so hung up on the human body and sexuality that many think having that put on display is the ultimate sin. The issue here is not about what she did/said, it's about someone betraying her. She didn't do anything wrong by posing for those pics but if...say...her employer found out about this, she could probably be fired or something retarded like that...since again, sexuality is so taboo in America (yet shoved down our throats at every turn).

So basically the lesson here is never to trust anyone with anything that is personal to you because people act like idiots. How sad is that.

I just hate the way people treat each other in general, but especially when it comes to people they once cared about.

Doing something like that is just beyond immature. People need to grow the hell up.

JustErin said:

That's what I was getting at by my initial post, I just didn't feel like taking the time.

I agree, it's totally sad. But that seems to be the message here.

JustErin said:

I agree and I know both men and women of varying ages and maturity who have that level of trust within their relationships who have done everything from taken pictures to making videos of themselves individually and together which is great, what’s done in private is their business and for (him/her) him in this case to betray that trust is totally phucked up on his part…damn, he’s an asshole and a loser.

These days with Photoshop a woman doesn't need to take her clothes off for nude pictures of her to appear on the Internet.

some of us here have seen each other naked, but never has it posted up anywhere else, there is a level of trust and that speaks volumes, but those who take the pictures and they get posted with the promise it wont?, now thats just fucked up.

IAintTheOne said:

That's why God Ben created orgnotes

PANDURITO said:

well yeah, i mean if anyone posted pics here or anywhere else and found out, it would be terrible, but if it is something in your past its just that, the past and it has nothing to do with your present or future.

and i know whats gonna be said " ask Vanessa williams" about past nude photos, thats a different story,they werent ready for a sister to be Miss America so they found something to discredit her.
[Edited 1/2/07 8:07am]

IAintTheOne said:

I have never shared anyone's naked pictures nor have I shared anyone's personal info if they've asked me to keep it secret. Not even when they have shared my pictures and/or info against my will. So I think it's taking it too far to say that nobody can be trusted.

However, since there are unreliable idiots out there, I do think that it is wise to imagine how you would feel if the pictures you're considering posing for ended up on some porn site. If you feel like you could deal with that then go ahead, have fun (because it is fun to do these things sometimes), but if not then you might want to refrain from doing it altogether just to be on the safe side. One other option though that many people go for is to not show your face. That way they could never prove that it's actually you in the picture.

retina said:

Right neither have i, people who took said pics were given as private gifts solely for my eyes and i had given that respect to never show them to anyone else and i would hope they did the same for me. like i said it is a level of trust.

retina said:

Exactly my experience as well and I agree that it takes it a tad too far to say that nobody can/should be trusted

IAintTheOne said:

thank goodness

Mach said:

im not that type of person contrary to rumor never have i done that there is nothing wrong with the human body

Interesting topic and the guy who posted the picture is a scumbag, just like anyone who posts a picture of someone else with out their permission. OR even worst yet have a friend of theirs post a picture of someone that they didn't have permission to post.

pics can be Tasteful be suggestive and give the viewer an idea of what else there is,but to blatently post a pic of someone without thier permission isnt funny nor is it tasteful, its childish and stupid.

alwayslate said:

taking personal responsibility. i like the way you think, Always. Had she not posed for the pics, this wouldn't have been an issue.

BlackAdder7 said:

okay so, what she brought this on herself, the guy's actions in this is what?