I'm sorry, sweetheart. If you need anything at all, please ask.

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss sweety. Take care of yourself throughout this hard time.


xxoo
M

Honey...I'm so very sorry. I've been through the death of a very close relative (my father and many aunts and uncles) so, I'm a bit of a pro at all of this. I'll be here.

I am sorry for your loss!

In death ones soul leaves its prison for a higher ground, I believe.

Honor your Grandmother in your own time, in your own way.

I'm sorry 4 your loss.

Chris, I am here for you if you need to talk or get together or anything. I can't imagine what you must be experiencing after all the other stuff you have dealt with lately, but you WILL get through this and things WILL get better. How do I know this?...because I know you, and you are a truly wonderful person who will eventually somehow be karmically rewarded for all the good things you have done for your family and your friends. I am certain of this. Take care friend.

All of this is making me really want to put effort into drafting a living will with instructions on what to do with me after I die. The worst part of this experience is the logistics. Getting to the funeral home, getting to the burial, finding out how to get there, etc.

We shouldn't be worrying about logistics right now. We should be focusing on our feelings and our grief. I am getting a little angry that I'm more consumed with the "hows" and "whens" of this event than the "why".

I don't want anyone going through this when I die. I want people to remember me in their own way, as they are able, as it is comfortable for them. I need to make this as clear and as legally binding as possible. If anyone puts my remains in a funeral home, I'd be spinning in my coffin before I even hit the grave.

Sorry to be so morbid. Just a lot of things hitting home right now.

I'm so sorry for your loss! I lost my grandma in March of this year. Even though she was 86 with poor health, it was still really hard to see her go. I am comforted by the fact that she is no longer in pain. May your sweet grandmother rest in peace also. I'll be praying for your family.

Anx said:

It's only natural to think of those things now. And learn some important lessons.

I will say, though, some folks thrive on those details. Sometimes it's easier to worry about and focus on little details that really don't mean anything in the grand scheme of things than it is to stop for a minute and think about how you feel. We all process differently.

my thoughts are with you.

I've lost both my grandfathers, and one of them died from cancer earlier this year so I can imagine what you're going through.... Thanks for sharing your story.

My condolences

My condolences....

My condolences....that is really sad.

May your grandmother rest in peace. I hope you had the opportunity to have shared a lot of time with her before she passed away. My foster mom who raised me as a kid died in 2003 when I was in England and I hadn´t really seen her for years and now I feel I should´ve at least seen her before she died.

I wish you all the best for 2007, lots of good moments and a lot of success as a writer in the near future because I love reading your witty posts and I think you´re a deep thinker and your grandmother would be very proud of you. You really have that talent. Use this sad event in your life as a chance to reflect and something to ignite something in you. She´ll probably be watching you.

Love you Chris. I'm glad you could trust me enough to help. Again, let me know if there's anything more I can do.

for Anx's Grandmother.

s Anx

Anx, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. May grandmother rest in peace.

Busying yourself with details is perfectly natural right now. I did the same thing at first. It's like you kind of go on autopilot for a little while until it sinks in. Then feelings creep up on you at odd and unexpected times and there's no way to prepare for that. What I did at that point was let people take care of me which they were itching to do anyway. I don't have a big family but friends and coworkers came from everywhere, driving me around to make arrangements, cooking all night, etc. As I reflect upon that time I'm glad I opened my usually independent self up to so much love and support. It made everything more bearable.

I know you'll be sure to take good care of your mom. My sons adored their grandmother and I cannot tell you how much peace it gave me to have them by my side and how comforted I was when they stood to speak about my mom.

I can tell from your writings how positive a person you are. When you have a chance to reflect and put things into perspective, I'm sure your insights will be well worth hearing. Thanks for sharing with us. I shall keep you and yours in my prayers...

Really sorry to hear this Anx. But don't forget you've got a lot of friends here who love you and can offer any support you need - be it emotional, moral, or if you just wanna rant. Should you need us for any of those things - we're here.

Be strong.

with Metta,
BC xxx

My condolences....

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Our love to you

Peace

My grandmother turned 97 years old last week. She lives a couple thousand miles away which is very difficult. I never know if my last visit will be the last time I see her. I think of her every day.