Isn't it proper ettiquette that if someone close to you goes into surgery that their significant other or whoever is there calls you when they are out and fine and whatnot?
A friend went in for surgery at 4:30 today and the procedure was only supposed to take 15-30 minutes and he was supposed to go home tonight and no one's answering at their house and the mobile is still off and now it's 3 hours later.

I hate this. It really was supposed to be nothing major, but I'd rather get confirmation that everything's ok rather than sit here all night wondering.





What other etiquette for hospitals can you think of?

Always tip your anesthesiologist.

CarrieMpls said:

bring your own bathrobe. the hospital bathrobes suck

they will contact you in due time, i'm sure. you never know if they're just exhausted and needing to rest before they start letting everyone know how everything went. if it's tomorrow and there's still no word, i'd worry a bit. until then, i'd just have faith that the situation is in good hands.

2the9s said:

I would've given mine my house after he got that epidural in!

I'm not sure if I have an opinion either way, but missfee's threads are scaring the shit out of me tonight, so here I am.

Anx said:

I was gonna go to the hospital, but then i didn't ask and I didn't want to presume and now they're STILL not answering.
ho hum.

I better get an email or something first thing tomorrow.

Imago said:

your signature may be slightly more frightening, sweetie.

CarrieMpls said:

is there someone else you could call that might know more?
if not just call the hospital.
if they won't tell you anything ask for them to pass the message on to the spouse that you were inquiring.

JasmineFire said:

Bring your own suppositories! Trust me nurses don't like to do that contrary to popular opinion

JasmineFire said:

OKAY?!?

hope you hear soon hun

when TR had his surgery ... there is no way I could have called anyone on the phone ... and didnt for several days

Anx said:

I don't think she was implying your ass is frightening, but what would happen to it if I ever got hold of it.

Imago said:

OKAY?!?!

Anx said:

I guess you do need it to be broken down to you in clear, concise, terms.

Imago said:

a little mystery is nice. as in, like, to the point of denial.

Considering the level of closeness involved here, I think it's reasonable to expect a call.

But, I think it's even more reasonable to assume that everything is ok, or else you would have heard.

So, there.

Make sure your panties are clean and your anus is bleached.

That's a good question. I would have hope they would have called. Then again, everything is probaby fine and they're home sleeping or something.


M

i don't think they'd avoid telling you...they were probably focused on waiting for the doctor to come out, etc..and might be very tired/stressed...i'd cut them some slack here.

Everything was fine, it just took longer than expected. I got my call at around 8:45. I'm just impatient.
And I come from a long line of worry-ers.

CarrieMpls said:

good to hear all is well

Mach said:

thanks, Mach.

purplerein said:

yet another reason why the bathrobe will come in handy

Surgeons always tell patients it'll only be ----- fill in the blank.That's just for the surgery. The reality is, if the patient is getting a general anesthetic, once in the OR the anesthesiologist has to put the patient to sleep, intubate, regulate machinary ("pass gas", nitrous oxide): there's also draping, prepping the skin.etc. Not to mention extubation post surgery, recovery room stay, treating pain, nausea, out-patient instructions.
I hate it when surgeons minimize the time. The family is in the waiting room worried and think something's gone wrong.
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