Just cause two people can't make a relationship last doesn't mean they weren't in love. To paraphrase Depeche Mode, love isn't always enough, in itself.

It seems to me that lust can make you think you're in love more than love can make you think you're in lust. Then again, lust is so straightforward; it's either there or not, so you could argue that there is no such thing as "wrongly imagining that you're in lust" (you could be in lust for the "wrong reasons", but that's another matter) wheras you could definitely fool yourself into thinking you're in love when you're actually not in love at all. It's a tricky issue for sure, and although it's fundementally a matter of the heart, I sometimes try to call in my brain to help me separate what it is I'm actually feeling and why.

See, I think it's easier for me. If it's lust I just wanna sleep with someone. When it's love, I want to be with them. The sleeping with part is a bonus. And there are plenty of people I'd wanna sleep with but not necessarily want to be with. But I've never not wanted to sleep with someone I wanted to be with. If that makes sense.

Lust is soley physical.

Love is all encompassing (mind, body, soul, their very being).

But there is also the difference of loving someone and being in love with someone...

see that's what I use to think it was but I've since found out that I was wrong, it's not that at all and there really isn't any difference in being in love with someone and loving them in any event it's all a fleeting waste of time which I won’t do any more and generally all boils down to getting laid as the previous post has pointed out.
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according that I have been in love with everyone so far

see that's what I use to think it was but I've since found out that I was wrong, it's not that at all and there really isn't any difference in being in love with someone and loving them in any event it's all a fleeting waste of time which I won’t do any more and generally all boils down to getting laid as the previous post has pointed out.

I enjoy lust because it's easier.

that's so true. it's much easier to just want someone physically without all the other stuff that comes with attachment.

yeah. although, i think i'm in love.

have you ever been in a situation where you're trying to talk yourself out of falling for someone, to no avail? very frustrating.

have you ever been in a situation where you're trying to talk yourself out of falling for someone, to no avail? very frustrating.

Lust is pretty powerful, maybe even more important in the beginning of a relationship. But love is more like friendship.

I love someone when I can happily do anything with them, not just sleep with them.

Romantic love combines friendship-style love with lust IMO.

Yeah, I agree!

And i don't reckon romantic love should go away. I see people 10 years down the track still holding hands...and i love seeing elderly couples doing that too...that's just gorgeous! It's a physical, natural representation or reaction to how they feel about that person...appreciation. Doesn't have to be dramatically romantic, just the lil thingz.

that has never worked in the history of mankind.

that deserves a separate thread

There IS a difference between those two. "in love" is that giddy state that comes & goes, "love" lasts a very very long time (forever, actually, imo). You can fall out of love easily, but it's hard to actually stop loving someone.

But you sound pretty bitter so I don't think any of this shit matters to you anyway