ZombieKitten said:

It seems to me that lust can make you think you're in love more than love can make you think you're in lust. Then again, lust is so straightforward; it's either there or not, so you could argue that there is no such thing as "wrongly imagining that you're in lust" (you could be in lust for the "wrong reasons", but that's another matter) wheras you could definitely fool yourself into thinking you're in love when you're actually not in love at all. It's a tricky issue for sure, and although it's fundementally a matter of the heart, I sometimes try to call in my brain to help me separate what it is I'm actually feeling and why.

Lust is temporary, love is forever. Lust is wanting to have sex with someone, love is wanting to have sex with that someone for the rest of your life.

retina said:

See, I think it's easier for me. If it's lust I just wanna sleep with someone. When it's love, I want to be with them. The sleeping with part is a bonus. And there are plenty of people I'd wanna sleep with but not necessarily want to be with. But I've never not wanted to sleep with someone I wanted to be with. If that makes sense.

CarrieMpls said:

that makes sense to me.

CarrieMpls said:

I guess you're lucky then. Us mere mortals sometimes get confused about these things. Blood is rushing fast through our veins, and wires get crossed in the process.

As for your last sentence, that's even more lucky. Like I said, lust can be fairly straightforward so if it's triggered by love then great, no need to question it. If lust triggers love though....then that can be a different matter, and you might want to be careful.

What has been expressed in comments #26, #31, and #32, intertwined, works for me...

SHANNA said:

That's like, every single comment except mine. Are you trying to make a point?

CarrieMpls said:

That's right.

I've never had a problem separating the two.

Now love and infatuation, that's where I got confused in the past.
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retina said:

No, it's just that I can relate to the understanding these ladies have regarding the differences between love and lust. I understand you to, retina, but you're talking about being "cautious", on another level, which is a good thing, but I was just being about answering the the question simply and sweet. lol

AsianBomb777 said:

She better not treat my filet of Sweet Cheeky Monkey like chopped liver!

AsianBomb777 said:

I though you were in lust with Jersey, a male sorta guy.

JustErin said:

yeah, love and infatuation can be pretty tough to separate.

lust=erection

love=erection, warm fuzzy feelings inside, quiet contentment.

JasmineFire said:

I didn't know the difference between the two until I actually fell in love with someone. Then I able to look back and tell that some of the times I thought I was in love, I was infatuated. I can also use my experience to tell the difference in the future. When you're in love, you think of all the ways that person makes your life better. If you can't do that, then you're probably not.

Stymie said:

How do you know if u wanna lay 'em down more than once but not forever?

JasmineFire said:

I don't know... I think there's different kinds of love. I think it comes in many flavors. You can love someone and not want to be with them forever. You can love someone who doesn't love you back. You can love someone who's bad for you. You can love your friends, your family, your pet, your fellow man, heck, I fall in love with music, with clothes, with books. All are sincere. Just different.

"Love's Gonna Get'Cha [Material Love]"

Does anyone really know what love is??? Come on. People think they do but they don't. Most people think they are or were in love but they really weren't or aren't. More people have been in lust than they ever were in love.

Spats said:

How do you know they really aren't or weren't? How do you know and they don't?

CarrieMpls said:

I you man ...




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CarrieMpls said:

Because the relationships didn't last. The divorce rate is higher than it's ever been. People are divorcing every day. Rarely does anyone stay together forever and ever. The majority of people just go from one person to another. Most people are in lust.

Spats said:

After 25 years of marriage, I guess I'm one of the rare few.

There was a time when I thought I knew the difference between the two lust and love now I don't know but I have always believed that if you're truly in love with someone you’d have both for that person but then like I’ve said, I really don’t know anymore.

Spats said:

Well, I could take lust of the picture and still want to be with the person.

Stymie said:

Very well said

love is probably when you still wanna be really close with the person even after you come...

Spats said:

Just cause two people can't make a relationship last doesn't mean they weren't in love. To paraphrase Depeche Mode, love isn't always enough, in itself.

Mach said:

I you too.

CarrieMpls said:

Depeche mode also said
From the notes that I've made so far
Love seems something like wanting a scar
Well I could be wrong
I'm just not sure you see
I've never been in love before

Love leaves a mark on your heart. Lust leaves a stain in your underwear.