Do tell and why.

some yay
some nay

a 100rd different reasons ... none profound enough to share

Im friends with 2 of them..only because we were friends before we started to date.

The rest can kiss my grits

i was still friends with some of my Ex's but you lose contact and people change and grow so.

I'm friends with all of them. I can't cut from my life people I "used" to love. I put that in quotes because I don't think I've ever really fallen out of love with any of them. I do tend to give my heart slowly but completely and, once I love, I love for ever.

There's only one who's problematic - my husband accepts that I have ex's as friends except for one, who I think he knows about but doesn't want to know, if you know what I mean, so I keep that friendship private so as not to rock the boat.

Yay with some, fucking nay with some.

And by "some" I mean "one each", it's not like I have a gallery of past relationships.

Reincarnate said:

SO FRIENDSHIP MORE IMPORTANT THAN HUSBAND

GOT IT

POOK said:

omg, that's such BS!

I think in the immediacy of a relationship being over, its best to move things along and leave each other alone. I don't understand how you can get over someone if you're still trying to be friends with them. I need the distance. After that it really depends on the person.

eh no. they are exes for a reason.

i personally do NOT understand NOT being friends with an ex... i understand you may need some distance ...right after the breakup ... but ... unless it was a brutal relationship and you hated each other .... if you are both mature adults ... i personally like to keep in touch with old girlfriends , etc (but i also say old guy-friends i know too )... if NOTHING else ... i am honestly interested in their lives, kids, husbands, boyfriends etc ....and hearing "their story or journey thru life ..." ... some of us lead mundane lives we think ... but know people who are (in our minds) leading exciting as hell lives !

Generally speaking, not a good idea. Exes are like dinner napkins--when you're done, get them off your lap.

Nah, I killed them all.

CarrieMpls said:

Ditto...

Also, I do think that being friends with exes is an excellent idea...for me it's not fully the change in relationship that's painful, it's the thought of never again seeing a person that I shared so much of myself with. If both parties can work it, I think it's a good idea

SnakePeel said:

POOK said:

hehehe I love you Pook

Actually, more accurately, he's my ex-husband. So strictly speaking, he shouldn't really have a say in who I am and am not friends with

The biggest killer in friendship with exes: when your ex has the nerve to solicit you for advice on their new beau. Tacky, tacky, tacky.

SnakePeel said:

Exactly. I couldn't be friends with an ex unless they keep that part out of our friendship and vice versa.

now i am confused about the ex-hubby ... SO - when u were with your hubby ... you had an EX boyfriend THAT he pretended to NOT know that you were still friends with this EX ???

do you think secrets such as that .... were good/bad for your relationship with your EX HUSBAND ???

just asking ... cus i have a similar situation with my wife ... altho ... its alil more complicated .... cus the gal pal is NOT someone i dated or slept with ... etc .... one of those "friends" that ... she may think i did ... but ... i did not ... ... and i feel guilty not saying more to my wife about this old friend ... BUT ... i also do not want any jealousy stuff coming into play .. so ... its kinda a sucky situation ...

exes are exes for a REASON

jerseykrs said:

that's true..but still

CarrieMpls said:

Nay...Left town for 3 ex's and moved on to bigger and better things.(coincidental, college, jobs). The last one, had to make a clean break as he was distraught about the break-up and wouldn't leave me alone.
I think it depends on the circumstances. There are some,if I lived in a small town and ran across now and then, I could be acquaintances with.

depends on the person.

there was a time i'd say yay.
though in recent years, i'm more of a nay man.

I used to make it a priority to stay friends with my exes.....but since its arguable that I don't know how to act, I would have to say that now, for me, its not a good idea....unless the ex remains STRICTLY AND STONGLY in the friend zone, its a no-win proposition....

missfee said:

Most. Because one of the reasons I got involved with them in the first place is that they're great people and we have a lot in common.

DanceWme said:

SnakePeel said:

CarrieMpls said:

bingo!