SnakePeel said:

Agreed

If she was good,
I don't mind paying for an extra hour.

just don't do it. i've done it more than twice with the same person-not even for love, but for all the wrong reasons. the outcome was always the same. so please don't waste your time, energy, or breath. your better off.

Illustrator said:

Its hell the second time around..especially if ur expecting a lot

my first boyfriend, broke up with me and got back together with me 3 times

Illustrator said:

you've been listening to classic R&B radio. Shalamar's Second Time Around come on? Stop! Before the Lenny Williams comes on or the Teddy Pendegrass. You'll be in big trouble!! It doesn't work!!!

OK...I am seeing a pattern in your posts. Missfee....boo boo...go get a manicure, pedicure, hair done, make over. Go get some ice cream with the girls. Boo Hoo'ing is making it worse. And asking for it back is a woman's number one no no. If he's having a good time not thinking one minute about it, it's not fair that you are.

I recommend reading "Why Men Love Bitches" just for humor's, tongue in cheek's sake. Anything, and you better not ever call him again!!! The more you call the harder and longer it will be to get over it.

It never worked for me. My husband and I broke up after dating 5 years- were seperated for 3-4 months then got back together. Got married over a year later...now we are seperated to divorce soon. So- for me it did not work. I guess it depends on the problems and if they can be fixed.

KatSkrizzle said:

you are hilarious!!!!

KatSkrizzle said:

no, this isn't me. i'm not in this situation i was just randomly thinking and I just asked.

You broke up with the person for a reason so no point in getting back together. They either throw stuff in your face or can't forget something you did in the past to hurt them or vice versa. It's better to move on and learn from the mistake of the past relationship.(learned that the hard way )

reneGade20 said:

Actually, I don't know if it's off-topic or not but I find it really interesting. I agree with you - not all marriages will survive if you've gone past 8 years, and then not all will be happy and, yes, there are plenty of people who do seem to "fit" and just get what is right for them as a couple straight away.

What I find really fascinating though is how many marriages seem to follow a similar pattern. For example, I think the seven-year itch really does happen in most marriages. It may not be at year 7 - it could be 5 or 8 years into a marriage, but at some point most people I know have gone through a bad patch at around that stage.

And then there's the later years. Some marriages stay strong but there are an awful lot of people who've been married to the same partner for years and seem to hate them. What's that all about?

Reincarnate said:

You raise an excellent point. I don't know, but I think its probably because they know their mate so well that they see straight thru them...those cute little quirks from the early/middle days have grown up to be major flaws.

You also hit the nail on the head with the 7 year itch....though I'm starting to believe that sometimes, the 7 years means the duration and not when it hits. I'm sure (again, calling on personal experience...) that many of the bad patches are brought on by stupid actions and bad behavior and less from realizing that your spouse is, at least emotionally, going to be the death of you.....

missfee said:

I still recommend that book. It's cute

KatSkrizzle said:

i'll have to check it out then

Yeah, I tried that once for about three minutes. The first 2.5 minutes were really wonderful. And then they, you know, turned out to be the same person that they had been a couple of weeks prior. Shocking.

I was fucking insane at that moment in time, so I don't really blame me, but . . . never again. Not just with that person, never again with anybody. Breakups happen for a reason.