do you ever wake up in the morning feeling emotionally drained? Like you have nothing to look forward to...feel like you have no direction? I mean just out of the blue you wake up this way when just the day before you had a pretty good day. If you do, how do you deal with it? Do you call someone to talk about it? Do you vent about it on here? Or do you just tough out the day and hope that the awful feeling passes...?

Your thoughts please.

I just tough out the day and hope it passes

I hate talkin to ppl about my problems...it makes me feel like Im complaining

But I come on here cuz yall make me feel better

in the waking moments when still layin in bed I have

then I will realize that my husband is near and then my mind will go towards my still sleeping children

and it all fades away in a moments time

DanceWme said:

This used to happen to me a lot. And I would just stay in bed. And sleep all day. And read books and sleep some more till it went away.

It doesn't happen as often anymore.

But the other day I woke up utterly, utterly sad. I have been having very sad dreams lately. Not depressing, and not anxious and not your usual scary nightmare, but just plain sad. I've woken up crying for no good reason twice in the last week. I don't know what's up.

I often just tough it out, sometimes I just sit at my desk at work and cry just to get some of that built up emotion out. Sometimes it helps me to feel better, sometimes it doesn't. Like someone mentioned earlier, I find that talking to someone about my frustrations don't really help either, for me its because they automatically give their opinion about whatever it is bothering me, when i didn't ask for it. And another reason why I most likely keep it to myself is because some people try to bring up their issues and how much more WORSE it is than what you are angry or miserable about.

Sometimes I just got to pray that the feeling will go away.

I do that too Although I have realised that most of my problem (in general) involves thinking too much. If I am left too my own devices for too long, I will think myself into a depression. Its that whole "keep busy" thing

If I didnt have anything to wake up for in the morning, or a plan before I went to bed, I would probably get like that every morning. Do you have a good routine Fee? I would work on that maybe...and of course whatever it is thats bothering you in general

yes, and i have come to realize that means i have been bad to my body and mind.

i realize that means i have to do something good for myself, because i've let work/family issues/daily grind take over my soul, and i need to do something good for me.

go to the gym.
take a book to a nearby coffee shop and just sit and enjoy being out of the house.
write for a while.
go buy yourself a new CD or DVD.

something. just show yourself that you like yourself enough to do something good for you. you'll feel better for it. the people and things that drag you down don't deserve to get the better of you.

If I'm not working early, I get up and run, or workout in the gym, or swim laps when the pool opens. It's like meditation, and I feel alot better. It's good for the body and mind.

Anx said:

That rings very true for me as well.

Listen to Anx!

I've had those mornings but over the course of this last year I've convicted myself to stop complaining, stop venting, stop worrying about things and people I have no control over and just take things as they come to me, whatever happens...happens and lately I haven't had very many mornings like anymore. If it's something that's to big for me I give it to the powers that's their area of expertise if it’s something I can handle then I deal with it or figure it out because honestly I got tired of feeling like that all the damn time most if not all of it was because I have a bad habit of over thinking so now I say phuck it, two tear drops and move on.

FunkMistress said:

you guys have really been giving me some great points/tips and i really appreciate it

but everytime i get stressed i go shopping, and thats a habit i'm trying to break out of. but do you feel that sometimes when you do stuff for yourself you feel guilty? i do, i think because maybe i feel like i should do more for others, but i do alot of things for people around me anyway so i don't even know why i feel guilty when i do stuff for myself, but its just a habit.

missfee said:

everything in moderation. yeah, i know when i've been shopping or treating myself too much, and it's hard, but i try to pull in the reins a little and find a different way to treat myself - maybe cook something that usually i wouldn't give myself the time to prepare for myself, or work out (which kicks out the endorphins which make you feel much happier afterwards), or else i'll grant myself a block of time to do something i love, like make a compilation CD for someone and really take my time designing a fancy cover or whatever. i don't have to spend money, even though that's the easiest and most gratifying way to cure the blues, it seems!

missfee said:

If you find that shopping is more of a self-defeating thing (causing guilt and broke-itude), do something else. Take a yoga class, take a bubble bath, make a healthy meal for yourself. I always feel so good after I make a good meal that's full of nutrients but is also comforting and tastes good: Greens with olive oil and parmesan cheese, baked sweet potatoes with butter and salt and pepper, brown rice and beans, or broiled fish. When I feel bluesy I have to force myself to do the cooking, but after I do it and eat, I feel sooo much better!