are you pregnant?

CarrieMpls said:

Hell no, but I've been pondering it considering all of the potential routes life can take. Personally, I don't feel like I'm missing anything by not reproducing. I have some superficial reasons for not wanting any babies (eg, stretch marks, baby weight, fear of ugly baby I'd be embarrassed to take in public) and then there's just straight fear of pain. But I suppose it ain't so bad for every body.

CortestheKiller said:

my whole life I didn't want children. now I'm hormone crazy and have decided maybe I do. but I don't want to be pregnant, I don't think.

CarrieMpls said:

Alex insists I'll want one eventually. He says, "I'll sneak one in."

Ugh. Pig.

But sometimes I get a little hormonal and wonder what our offspring would look like. I don't really want to reproduce. I think what I end up craving mostly is some sort of really permanent bond besides a legal document. By the same token, I hate the idea cos then all of his attention wouldn't be on me.

It's fine if ya get an epidural..... I hardly felt a thing and it went real fast.

Oh, well except for the fact that my whole twat got split open. From hole to hole. With both kids. That kinda sucked.

luv4all7 said:

That is fucking horrific!

CortestheKiller said:

Yup. Make sure he pulls out sister!

It hurts more than you could ever imagine.

luv4all7 said:

"No sir, you may not cause my twat to be ripped. NO BABIES FOR YOU!"

CortestheKiller said:

Yeah, and after your twat rips, and it's stitched back together, and he says, I'll be gentle honey. Tell him to fuck off!

gemini13 said:

Did you do it natural, Karla?

CortestheKiller said:

I was in labor for 24 hours, WORST PAIN EVER!!

Got an epidural, then an emergency C-section, which is serious surgery.

My incision got infected a week later, took antibiotics. Had a rash from my cooch to my knees for a week, found out it was a yeast infection from the antibiotics.

Even now, my doctor thinks I have either a hernia or incisional endometriosis. I haven't been able to conceive for the last three years, so it might be the latter.

I know everyone will think this is mean, but I had a terrible experience with childbirth.

luv4all7 said:

WTF.

How bad is sex afterwards? After a child has tunneled through your love hole, does sex feel differently? Discuss.

CortestheKiller said:

Well, like immediatly after, hell yeah. I mean obviously, its hard to walk sit lift, oh gawd, it's worse than labor pains. And everyone has this debate about wether its better to be cut or let you tear. Well, I had both, and they were both EQUALLY painful.

Anyways, sex. OMG! Your supposed to wait 6 weeks to have sex again. Well, I let my husband talk me into trying to have sex like 4 weeks, in, and HOLY SHIT. It was NOTHING like the pain of when you get your cherry popped. It felt like I was getting cut with a sword or something. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was laying on the floor between the couch and the coffeetable, and I was like, TAKE IT OUT!!! And he was like, no no, I'll go slow. UGH! It was awful.

Well I don't know if I had like trauma to the twat or something, cuz even after the 6 wks was up sex hurt so bad. No matter how wet I was, it wasn't like a lube issue or anythign, I think I wasn't healed or something. And seriously, for a YEAR after I had my son, it would hurt a little when he first put it in. But it went away after a year. Sometimes I wonder if the doctor stitched me up tighter than I was before. Cuz like my hole is REALLY small, I don't know if thats why or what.

Tehn with my daughter, I MADE him wait the 6 weeks. And it didn't hurt quite as bad, and it only hurt the first couple times. Nothing like the trauma with my son.
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CortestheKiller said:

Well, like immediatly after, hell yeah. I mean obviously, its hard to walk sit lift, oh gawd, it's worse than labor pains. And everyone has this debate about wether its better to be cut or let you tear. Well, I had both, and they were both EQUALLY painful.

Anyways, sex. OMG! Your supposed to wait 6 weeks to have sex again. Well, I let my husband talk me into trying to have sex like 4 weeks, in, and HOLY SHIT. It was NOTHING like the pain of when you get your cherry popped. It felt like I was getting cut with a sword or something. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was laying on the floor between the couch and the coffeetable, and I was like, TAKE IT OUT!!! And he was like, no no, I'll go slow. UGH! It was awful.

Well I don't know if I had like trauma to the twat or something, cuz even after the 6 wks was up sex hurt so bad. No matter how wet I was, it wasn't like a lube issue or anythign, I think I wasn't healed or something. And seriously, for a YEAR after I had my son, it would hurt a little when he first put it in. But it went away after a year. Sometimes I wonder if the doctor stitched me up tighter than I was before. Cuz like my hole is REALLY small, I don't know if thats why or what.

Tehn with my daughter, I MADE him wait the 6 weeks. And it didn't hurt quite as bad, and it only hurt the first couple times. Nothing like the trauma with my son.
[Edited 11/16/06 19:14pm]

CortestheKiller said:

Well, like immediatly after, hell yeah. I mean obviously, its hard to walk sit lift, oh gawd, it's worse than labor pains. And everyone has this debate about wether its better to be cut or let you tear. Well, I had both, and they were both EQUALLY painful.

Anyways, sex. OMG! Your supposed to wait 6 weeks to have sex again. Well, I let my husband talk me into trying to have sex like 4 weeks, in, and HOLY SHIT. It was NOTHING like the pain of when you get your cherry popped. It felt like I was getting cut with a sword or something. I remember it like it was yesterday. I was laying on the floor between the couch and the coffeetable, and I was like, TAKE IT OUT!!! And he was like, no no, I'll go slow. UGH! It was awful.

Well I don't know if I had like trauma to the twat or something, cuz even after the 6 wks was up sex hurt so bad. No matter how wet I was, it wasn't like a lube issue or anythign, I think I wasn't healed or something. And seriously, for a YEAR after I had my son, it would hurt a little when he first put it in. But it went away after a year. Sometimes I wonder if the doctor stitched me up tighter than I was before. Cuz like my hole is REALLY small, I don't know if thats why or what.

Tehn with my daughter, I MADE him wait the 6 weeks. And it didn't hurt quite as bad, and it only hurt the first couple times. Nothing like the trauma with my son.
[Edited 11/16/06 19:14pm]

luv4all7 said:

I like sex way too much to jeopardize it! Jesus.

Ugh, Alex has decided there's no point to living without reproducing. It was perfect when we met - he was a-okay, he said, with being childless. Two nights ago, while laying in bed, he kept mentioning how cute my friend Kristina's baby was, and I said, "good thing you like her, cos visiting Kristina's baby is the best your ass is gettin'!" Then he chuckled. I said, "WTF." He said. "I'll sneak one in eventually."

CortestheKiller said:

You can scedule a C-section these days. Don't let me scare ya. Everyone is different. I feel lucky actually. I felt no pain during my labors, it was just after that sucked. Plus I had both my kids really fast. 3-6 pushes and they were out. I'm sure that had a lot to do woth the tearing. Your vag is supposed to have time to stretch and elasticize during labor, and I was induced, so mine went faster than they should have.

luv4all7 said:

I like sex way too much to jeopardize it! Jesus.

Ugh, Alex has decided there's no point to living without reproducing. It was perfect when we met - he was a-okay, he said, with being childless. Two nights ago, while laying in bed, he kept mentioning how cute my friend Kristina's baby was, and I said, "good thing you like her, cos visiting Kristina's baby is the best your ass is gettin'!" Then he chuckled. I said, "WTF." He said. "I'll sneak one in eventually."

luv4all7 said:

I don't want my vag to stretch.

I'd be all, "Throw an extra stitch in there, will ya?!"

I've heard good things from mothers who birthed naturally, and they said the hormones take over so it is overall not painful, just a lot of work (ie. "pushing").

I've heard good things from mothers who birthed naturally, and they said the hormones take over so it is overall not painful, just a lot of work (ie. "pushing").