I believe that there's a formula. It takes half of the time that you were together to get over. i.e. Together for 2 years. It will take 1 year to truely get over her.


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NDRU is one of those rare lovie dovie people.

I think its kinda cute.

I'm not sure Allison is crazy about that quality in me, but in he honest moments she agrees that there are a LOT of people out there that we're compatable with.

Charles Bukowski puts it more crudely when he sleeps with this woman and the next morning she says "we fit together" and he says "all men & women fit together"

21 is pretty young for a life time commitment, anyway. Get out of the house, do things you enjoy, and have positive feel good experiences. Hang out with buddies.....Sounds like you're better off without her.
I'll give you an even worse scenario: Being married umpteen years with young children and the spouse comes home and announces he's met someone else, much younger, and wants out of the marriage. (not my experience, but it happens)
At least there's no financial or family binds. You don't have to ever see her again if you don't want to. Can make a clean break.

I see what you are saying and no disrespect, but telling someone, that is really hurting and going thru something that is very real to them, that it could be worse does not help at all, in fact it often feels condescending.

The actual circumstances have nothing to do with it. It's all about how he is feeling.

I first suggested he go out and have fun.
I'm not being condescending. He can at least move on and leave it behind, eventually, without splitting property, or assets. He's not financialy drained. She didn't run up his credit card bills, then skip town,... she didn't sleep with every Tom, Dick, or Harry, then bail....She didn't leave him for a woman.....where was I?? oh, his feelings. Go out with the buddies and tie one on.
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wow you're optimistic to even try then. I'd give up if I was you.

I don't try. I wait for them to try.

Hence you get none

Because the majority of women don't make the first move. Thanks for proving my point. It's hilarious that you say i am wrong and then you agree with me.

OMG ...No women don't make the first move with YOU....it's not every man in the world who emits the same things you do that manage to repel even women you are involved with

Because the majority of women don't make the first move. Thanks for proving my point. It's hilarious that you say i am wrong and then you agree with me.

OMG ...No women don't make the first move with YOU....it's not every man in the world who emits the same things you do that manage to repel even women you are involved with

OMG ...No women don't make the first move with YOU....it's not every man in the world who emits the same things you do that manage to repel even women you are involved with

That makes no sense. They don't know what i am like before i meet them. I am not getting repelled by any woman. The babe asked me out last week for crying out loud. The majority of women in general don't make the first move.

Ok example for you:

Cardiff last friday me and a mate: 5 bars....approached 4 times they made the first move....work out the odds.

In what way did they make the first move. Asking you out?