Spats said:

I think people "turn weird" because they just give up on themselves, or perhaps they think they are not worthy of having that bond with someone.

I have a hard time believing that there are people that really, truly do not want to love and feel loved by a partner.

JustErin said:

I gave up on the whole love thing. That shit is too hard to find. I highly doubt that i will fall in love with anyone and or that anyone will fall in love with me. I would be just happy for a woman to be in lust with me or want me in the sack.

Spats said:

I'm not tryin' to be mean, just helpful. You should stop saying in the sack or sacktime, cuz it sounds dumb. Nobody says that.

luv4all7 said:

What should i call it then?

Spats said:

Well anything that you feel comfortable saying.

EXCEPT sacktime.

Getting layed, screwing, (don't say making love either ) having sex, even saying I got lucky is better than saying sacktime.

I guess you could say fucking, some girls like that some don't.

Just don't say sacktime anymore.

luv4all7 said:

but that's his catchphrase!

Anx said:

it's like the "whatchoo talkin 'bout, willis?!" of the org!

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

I'm just trying to help him. I don't like it. It sounds dumb.

luv4all7 said:

Dude, but going by what he says he does and doesn't do in regards to sex, "sacktime" is perfect. It's just spending some time in the sack, pretty much nothing more.

JustErin said:

Wow, you are always knocking me now.

What sounds better?

I want to have sacktime with the babe.

Or

I want to nail the babe.

Spats said:

Sacktime is perfect for you.

JustErin said:

maybe he is referring to a quaint British traditional school sports day event, 'sack racing' and has one of those sacks on his bedroom floor. if he decided to get jiggy in it, that could be quite interesting and slightly on the kinky side, all that restriction and all!! or maybe he means sacktime because his scrotum will become active ?

after being in an abusive marriage most of my life, I've decided I can do better on my own. There are times when I wish I had a good man to help me when something needs to be handled. or a good man to be intimate with and cherish me. but finding a man with a good heart, who would never betray or hit you is slim to none. If he's compassionate and can relate to you, and handsome too, he's gay. The abusive guy I was stuck with made my life a living hell. I'll have those scars for the rest of my life. And I just don't want to risk that mistake again. I remember a very wise statement someone made. They said:

anytime you feel the need to be criticized and put down--get married.

Anx said:

it's like the "whatchoo talkin 'bout, willis?!" of the org!

therapyisback said:

I'm so glad you are back.

Stymie said:

why u cryin then hon?!

I need someone that is going to have their own life. Someone that isn't jealous. Someone that is FUNNY (n can make me laugh). That's a plus.


That's what I was looking for before I stopped looking but I never found them...well I did but they didn't want me, I wasn't what they were looking for ...don't you just hate that, oh well life goes on.

typo
[Edited 11/17/06 10:35am]

andriahb said:

I understand and co-sign that... I've stopped trying, looking or whatever it's called nowadays because I can never choose the right men either in my case they come they go nobody stays so my attitude now is if someone wants to be apart of my life or be with me then be there if they don't then get the fuck cause either way my world will continue to turn, I'm going to still be.

after being in an abusive marriage most of my life, I've decided I can do better on my own. There are times when I wish I had a good man to help me when something needs to be handled. or a good man to be intimate with and cherish me. but finding a man with a good heart, who would never betray or hit you is slim to none. If he's compassionate and can relate to you, and handsome too, he's gay. The abusive guy I was stuck with made my life a living hell. I'll have those scars for the rest of my life. And I just don't want to risk that mistake again. I remember a very wise statement someone made. They said:

anytime you feel the need to be criticized and put down--get married.

NAnomaly said:

I feel ya....

Not now, no. I can't see myself living my life all by myself anymore. At one time when I was younger I could never picture myself in a relationship though. I was always quite happy by myself, drawing, painting, making music, reading, or whatever, in my own little world and a bit of a loner. Not to mention that I was not exactly the most popular guy with women and never really tried to have or thought about what it'd be like to have a girlfriend. A few years on and I was suddenly already in a relationship by the time I'd figured out what I was after, but I still don't really know how it all works. If I'd stayed in the UK I'd likely still be single. Typically, and this admittedly sounds awful, any guy can come to Thailand and hook up with a girl, and I suppose at the time, especially being young and naive and with very low self-esteem when it came to my appearance, I thought deep down this is what happened to me. Whether what followed was pure dumb luck, I don't know. Things just happened that way and now I see myself in this relationship for the rest of my days. I wouldn't want to go back to being single again, that's for sure. This makes me too happy for that.

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[Edited 11/17/06 20:49pm]

nah i don't want to end up being alone either, but i have no problem with being single, i love my space and i have no problem being choosy when i'm 50, 60, 70 whatever. if it ain't right i'll wait. now it would be absolute love if i got married and my husband had a separate place to live