I don't know if my view will ever change but lately i've been seriously considering getting by on my own.

Everytime i think of scrapping the idea something happens that pushes me not to.

Anyone? And why (if you don't mind of course)

Yep, I am seriously considering the same thing.
Sometimes it sucks to be alone, but I never choose the right men,
which tends to suck even more.
I guess whatever happens, happens....but I'm not going to try anymore.

In all seriousness I really do think I will be a spinster for a looooong time to come, at least, yes

i've decided i'm going to be a picky bastard from here on out, and if that means i don't end up with anyone, so be it. i like my solitude and i like going through life by my design. if i can find someone else of a like mind for companionship, that would be great. earning a million dollars a year to draw bazooka joe comic strips would be great too. i'd also like to grow feathery white wings and have the power to be invisible and spit fire, please.

Anx said:

exactly...

For years I had no real interest in relationships. Now I've decided I really just want to get married and maybe even have a kid. It's an odd decision for me to make. It feels weird, but it also feels like what I want.
I don't think I'll ever get it, however. So I'm trying to become content with the idea (that I had all along) of living alone forever.

I really enjoy being single right now, but there is no way that I would want to be single for the rest of my life, nor do I think that I will be.

There are just too many interesting, nice people out there to not end up partnering up again at some point. It just kinda happens, even when you're not looking to be with someone.

I never want to be married, though.

andriahb said:

i feel you on this. You read my mind, I was just thinking about this, this morning. I was getting ready to be depressed because it makes me feel like something is wrong with me and why i can't seem to find or pick the right guys. No matter how nice, or caring I am, no matter how i like to try to initiate things to do or places to go in order to spend time with the guy (instead of waiting on them to make first moves after they ask for my number), i still somehow end up with some confused guy who doesn't know if he wants to just date or be friends. i'm not looking for a relationship and i already have male friends. i'm just looking to date, and i make this very clear. if a relationship happens, then it happens, but i don't push for one. So like you, i'm no longer trying anymore. i'm just gonna have to be by myself. I don't want to be single forever, but for right now, i'm going to stop putting myself out there to get all walked on.
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In the words of Tom Waits:



Or (from Seinfeld):



Maybe I'd go for a Sartre/de Beauvoir sitch, but I seriously doubt anything else.

andriahb said:

I understand and co-sign that... I've stopped trying, looking or whatever it's called nowadays because I can never choose the right men either in my case they come they go nobody stays so my attitude now is if someone wants to be apart of my life or be with me then be there if they don't then get the fuck cause either way my world will continue to turn, I'm going to still be.

Ace said:

That sums it up excellently in one way.

In another, i know i'm pretty much flawed in some aspects of my character, some being resulted off of bad childhood experiences.

I'm secretive, i'm controlling, i'm analytical, i'm defensive, i tick off easily when two voices raise, i stress out in a snap, i hate crowds,, and yes i treasure the time i spend alone.

I'm not willing 2 shove those negative features down my partner's/kids' throats JUST for the sake of making a family, which could turn out to be a dysfunctional one (just imagine the other partner being as bad)

PricelessHo said:

Hey, that's me too... I'm not the only one and there's nothing wrong with me either like the non-flawed folks try to get me to believe it's so good to know there are others out there like me (seriously thanks for that)

I don't know



I don't picture myself married with kids. But if it were to happen, fine. I think I like my time too much to give so much of it away on something as fleeting as true love.

I've been thinking the same thing. I'm an only child so I'm used to being alone. I love hanging out with friends and stuff but I can also go to the movies and dinner by myself without feeling weird. I'm my own good company.

It's funny because in looking for a boyfriend I thought that the older I got my standards would get lower. It's the opposite. It's almost like I'm looking for the PERFECT person. I know that's impossible so I really don't know what's going to happen.


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It's best not to spend your life hoping or looking for someone to spend the rest of your life with because that is really hard to find. Love is really hard to find. Millions don't find it and the ones that do, usually find that it does not last.

I have no interest in ever getting married and have never met a woman i would wanna marry. But i like having girlfriends to buddy around with and have sacktime with. Just fun stuff. No long term commitment or anything. I don't want to be alone but I also don't want to be handcuffed to anyone for life.

Don't worry about the partner for life crap.

AsianBomb777 said:

I don't even see it as a "true love" kinda thing. All that seems so silly.

For me it's more about companionship with great sex.

MIGUELGOMEZ said:

quit reading my mind!

or, to quote romy & michelle, "oh my god! me too!"

i don't know if the only child thing is an affliction or a strength, but i find i don't need others around me constantly the way a lot of other people might, but i DO need a lot more 'alone time' than most people i know.

and yeah, age is making me pickier...but it's practical in nature, i think. i've had several relationships end at this point, and the next time i put all the effort into partnering with someone, it's gonna have to be for good. break-ups are gross. i don't have the energy for them anymore. too lazy. too tired. too old.

Hell no. I could never stay single. I need someone to share everything with.

Anx said:

@ the Romy and Michelle quote.

I need someone that is going to have their own life. Someone that isn't jealous. Someone that is FUNNY. That's a plus.

Oh my God I'm looking for someone that is the opposite of me when I was in my 20's.

This is starting to sound like a personals add.

My attempt at looking for a man has been sabotaged by DOOK and that damn video he posted of me. Now I'm back to step one.....

(xxooDook)


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JustErin said:

That's true. As I age, I think the sex thing is becoming less interesting.

I think ultimately I just need to surround myself with people who will leave me alone, but be there when I'm bored.

there was a time in my life where i seriously thought that i'd stay single forever by choice...nowadays, i ain't so sure.

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

It's not so true that you'll be single forever? Or that it will be by choice?

AsianBomb777 said:

Thats so sad and cold.

AsianBomb777 said:

i'll not be near you as much as you want me to leave you alone, and that's a promise.

spats

AsianBomb777 said:

i seriously don't know.

Anx said:

I dread the thought of meeting you during one of these invasions. I'll want to touch you all the time.

purplerein said:

he don't count, he's got betty. remember?

luv4all7 said:

I honest to God can not imagine being 70 years old and being all alone.

I need companionship, and I think in the later years it's really needed.

JustErin said:

O Gawd, I want to be retired and going on trips and eating at buffets every nite, and sitting on a porch swing, with someone when I'm 70. You can't be alone at 70. My X boyfriends gram got divorced in like her 60's and she ended up drunk at Knights of Columbus every nite.