applekisses said:

I am due march 12 and I have a scheduled C-section due to the fact my first two births were C-sections many docs wont do vaginal after C-sections. C-sections take more time to heal and your stomach is never the same under your navel. All the moms I know that have experienced both favor vaginal than C for that reason. Definately get an Epidural all you feel is pressure if done right .

jerseykrs said:

and I don't mean the whole Christian mythology thing...or stories of the Bible, but that women have been "punished" with the pain of childbirth and everything that comes with the female reproductive system because of the Adam and Eve story.

applekisses said:

something said:

sorry, hon, I suppose I've had a bad choice of words...


a) I shouldn't have used the word "shit"...I wasn't being sensitive...I just get sick of hearing women getting blamed for gender-related issues that are not their fault -- it really angers me

b) "Stories of the bible" probably would have been effective rather than "mythology"

something said:

I don't think she's calling Christianity a big myth. I think she's saying refering to people thinking mestrual cramps and labor pains are because of Eve as a myth.

luv4all7 said:

Exactly
Dani...do you want to be my attorney?

applekisses said:

actually, if you study the bible you find that the blame comes to the man. eve was deceived, adam knew what he was doing.

but that is a discussion for another forum.

applekisses said:

OMG, really? Rite on!

something said:

Rite, because men are big decievers!!! And I for one, am TIRED of it!!!

luv4all7 said:

no, i meant that adam sinned in full knowledge of what he was doing.



the bastard!!

luv4all7 said:

We need to burn our bras!

Yanno what though? If getting your rag is punishment, I must be a really good person, cuz I only get mine a couple times a year!

I rule!

Giving birth is fucking awesome.

Too bad I don't want more kids, or I'd do it again.

well, I wasn't sure if I wanted kids....
other people's kids...bugged me. loud, disrespectful, messy...all things I felt I could do with out.
I was completely fearful of giving birth.
I'm only 4'11" and about 100 lbs..so I always felt I'd end up huge during and after.

I'm happy to say, my pregnancy was a breeze, a really awesome experience. sure...my feet hurt sometimes, my back sometimes too....I got tired really easy. but all in all I only gained 35 lbs and was back down to 107 shortly after...took a little work but...don't get carried away with the "eating for 2" shtick...no you're not.
the labor....well, was LONG, like Mach..about 30 some odd hours, with out drugs.
honestly though...the pain for me was not a sharp and extreme pain...it was more of a dull gradual thing...uncomfortable to be sure...but you go into some kinda mode or trans or something...cause it's all just a blur now.
I ended up with a C-section, so I can't comment on the pain of actually giving birth but...my hospital has water birth as an option...I'd look into it, it's a nice option. my c-section scar is practically invisible.
anyway...stretch marks...were something I worried about too....well, I diligently rubbed my belly with stretch mark cream every single day and I don't know if that's what did it but....I am happy to announce I didn't get any stretch marks
nearly 3 years later...I look at my son and can not fathom my life with out him. He brings my heart so much joy that I could cry every time I look at him and I'm not the cryin' type.
Discipline is a MUST. we don't have to hit our son, just follow through...if you say you have to pick that up or you are going in the corner....then put him in the corner when he doesn't pick it up. Make him stay there (for only a minute really) go to his level, explain why they are there, have them say they are sorry, give a hug and a kiss....and see what happens next time. For us we find it's working. Our son says "may I please", before he asks for something,and thank you when he gets it. we are complimented all the time on how well mannered he is. We have to remind him still but, we've yet to really encounter this "terrible 2's" we've heard so much about. Don't say no unless you mean it. If there's no real reason to say no...don't. That way when you do have to say it...you'll mean it.
put your kids to bed in their own bed from the get go (just mho) when it's dinner time it's dinner time and when it's bed time it's bed time, No ifs ands or buts. To me, kids thrive on routine, and find safety in it. They are SMART and will manipulate you IF you let them.
there...that's my parental advice
it's the most wonderful thing in the world.

FunkMistress said:

I was so high....rushed for days after Jess was born

and I felt great while pregnant

Mach said:

It's not so much "the worst pain in the world" as it is "I"m absolutely certain I am going to literally split in two right now" but it is a freakin' high all the same! Your endorphins are going completely bananas and it's a trip, baby!

FunkMistress said:

I don't know if I want kids or not, but I love hearing attitudes like that. You know you hear so many women saying Giving birth is awful and blah blah blah , but to hear someone say that the whole process is amazing is amazing,imo. I love knowing that kids are being brought into this world by mothers who are excited about it.

CortestheKiller said:

ugly baby? oh man, that's just wrong I don't think I could ever have the guts to consider a baby ugly.....especially my own. I'm dyin' laughing right now

CortestheKiller said:

A buddy of mine and his nagging woman didn't have sacktime for quite awhile afterwards. He was turned off my her (weight gain, etc) and she just wasn't in the mood after what she had been through.

Spats said:

The world is overpopulated as it is. People should think about that before they decide to have kids. Too many don't.

I don't know how many times i have seen women or couples on tv complaining about how poor they are with their bad jobs etc,etc. Then they start talking about their kids, etc. No shit!! It does not help when you have 2 to 4 kids!!!!! People should use their head before they decide to do that shit.
[Edited 11/17/06 12:26pm]

Spats said:

True, but unexpected pregnancies are bound to happen.

AnckSuNamun said:

If you are really careful then it's a lot less likely to happen. One pregnancy is unexpected. But when it gets to 3 and 4. It's just not thinking.

Spats said:

I agree.

JustErin said:

That's how I feel too.

CortestheKiller said:

You can always adopt! My mom did, twice, and boy was I ever cute!

JustErin said:

Yes, that does work the best.

My experience was painful and traumatic. For real. I have not let a man so much as shake my hand since I had my son. I am not kidding. Not kidding at all. He'll be 4 in May. Never let a man touch me uh-ginn. nevuh uh-ginn.


Now I have a friend that had her baby at 3am (natural birth, not so much as a tylenol) and at 3pm she was home eating sandwiches, talking on the phone and watching tv. I kid you not.

It's different for everybody.

anybody shat out the wrong hole?
some french movie mentioned that happens
sometimes