JustErin said:

same here

JustErin said:

I wouldn't buy you shit.

jerseykrs said:

Yes, but she said "hot" guy.

karmatornado said:

That's true because most women won't make the first move. So you will get more replies from women here.

AsianBomb777 said:

AsianBomb777 said:

fix the "[/b]" in your signature.

jerseykrs said:

That's not your fault. Most women are not good at showing they want a guy.

Spats said:

Not me! Lick of the lips, grab the crotch and they know what's up!

JustErin said:

i got hit on by asianbomb

JustErin said:

Fauxie said:

What?

My buddies and female friends say that i get hit on more than i think. I have been out with female friends and they will say "she is interested in you" and i just don't see it or if i do it's not a girl i would be interested in hooking up with. Too plain, etc, etc.

But for the most part I don't think women are good at showing they want a guy. That's why a lot of guys don't see the signs. Because the women's signs that she wants a guy are not much different then if they are just being nice to a guy. Which results in mixed signals.

When some of my ex girlfriend's first hit on me i didn't realize it right away. When i was not getting what they thought were great signs , they made things more clear.

The Babe did it a direct way. She gave me her phone number without me even having to ask for it. That's what women should just do. Either give the guy their number or ask for his.

Spats said:

Omg, I never just give out my number. If they want me to call or I want to call them, they have to give me theirs.

weepingwall said:

Sorry.

JustErin said:

Not spoiling for a fight or anything, but does that mean you sometimes let guys pay for you even when you know you're not really interested in them?

Spats said:

do you wear glasses?

Fauxie said:

For sure! I'm not a hooker, they are not buying the goods. If a guy wants to buy me a drink, he's just buying me a drink. If he thinks it means more than that, well...that's his problem.

I buy drinks for others too, I'm not looking for anything in return.

AsianBomb777 said:

no i like it.
i like the asians..
and bombs.

JustErin said:

Ah, ok. I wasn't calling you a hooker. It's just interesting to me, especially living in Thailand. It just reminded me of something I was talking about with my wife last night about guys forking out for drinks and stuff, sometimes over quite a period of time, and getting no intimacy in return (I don't mean necessarily sex but a bit of warmth and friendliness, an indication that the situation might be going somewhere). I guess you're right though, it's up to the guy and if he expects something it's really his problem if he doesn't get it.

Fauxie said:

Oh sorry, I didn't mean to come off that you were calling me a hooker.

I've had this discussion with friends as well and a most of them feel that they should only say "yes" to a drink if they are interested. Maybe more women feel that way.

Personally, I think anyone who thinks that shelling out money (for drinks, dinner, movie, etc) means that they are gonna get something they want in return deserves to be rejected.

ZombieKitten said:

No, why??

Spats said:

maybe you need some!
if your friends can see it and you can't just an idea

ZombieKitten said:

I think my female friends can see it because they have used the same lame signals on guys.

JustErin said:

Oh sorry, I didn't mean to give the impression that I thought you were suggesting that I was calling you a hooker.

But seriously, it's an interesting topic. The prostitution in Thailand is well known, but there's such a vast grey area beyond girls standing on street corners (which is a very small part of it here). I agree with you about someone who automatically thinks paying for stuff warrants something in return, but at what point does it become taking advantage of someone? Here you have a girl who sleeps with a guy, he pays her, she leaves. It's prostitution. But how about the girls who go to the bars nearly every night and hardly ever pay for anything. They don't necessarily sleep with anybody (and I know someone just like this who never does sleep with the guys), but is it still a prostitution of sorts? A friend of mine who's actually living here with us at the moment has no job, no money, and just broke up with her long-term bf. She is seeing a guy who pays for everything for her, takes her shopping, to the islands, and she sleeps with him. She kinda likes him, but has no intention at all of being with him. Is that prostitution? Taking advantage? An ok reciprocal arrangement?

Spats said:

I thought you said your buddies and female friends tell you

ZombieKitten said:

I guess they are more used to the bad signals women give out than i am.

Fauxie said:

Hrm...

I suppose it can be looked at as taking advantage when there is no sex involved. I would never hang out with a guy and just use him to get free stuff, but if some random comes up to me and offers to buy me a drink, I never say "no". I might chat it up with him or I might not. I honestly feel that I owe him nothing in return. I guess I am taking advantage, but I feel it's taking advantage of guys that think they can buy me. I've had nights where I didn't buy myself a single drink. I remember taking a very attractive friend out one night and telling her, "Watch this, you will get someone offering to buy you a drink in a matter of minutes". Sure enough, we were at a club no more than a minute and someone offered to buy us a drink. It's a weird practice to me.

I actually do think that a sugar daddy situation is a form of prostitution. It's a straight up exchange.

JustErin said:

Interesting thoughts.

Fauxie said:

Well, care to share yours?