Yes, absolutely, I believe people do change.

My core beliefs, the fundamental me, is still the same but the peripherals have changed very much. I think we all evolve and mostly it is for the better as we come to realise what's really important to us.

I don't have the time to read this (probably interesting) thread right now, but this question keeps buzzing through my head as well. So orgnote me if you have found the answer.

Sometimes think "take me as I am" but then if it is beneficial for myself as well as those around me to change, I should, right?

Life is all about continually adapting and evolving.

I haven't changed since I was four ( & the years before that was only cuz that's hopw long it took me to adjust to living outside the placenta & without a foodline attached to my naval).

If it ain't broke, yadda yadda yadda.

Illustrator said:

what about the facial hair

People can change, sure - if by that you mean become more emotionally mature and better at dealing with things...at solving problems. But underneath, the thing that makes us US, the soul, whatever you want to call it... it stays the same, it's just.... oh fuck it this is too hard.


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sure people can change-if they really want to. but in my experiance people don't change as much-they just tell you what you want to hear and go back to their old ways in due time. if you are in a situation where it affects you and your children'ss life in a major way, you don't have the time to wait for change. i know i sound negative but i do believe that most of the time this is all too true.

brownsugar said:

even if they really mean it when they say it

ZombieKitten said:

yup

brownsugar said:

brownsugar said:

'most' is good; i think people are somewhat elastic, too - in that they eventually snap back to their former shape at least somewwhat. but elastic can kind of get stretched eventually with enough repetition, so that is encouraging. i think moderation is the key with almost everything, especially where people are concerned.

but a little bit of discipline doesn't go astray sometimes.

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ZombieKitten said:

awwww thankyou

mrdespues said:

That's also true

i do believe people change. it can take alot to cause the change but it can happen. well time changes people too i've found. i'm no where near the person i was 10 years ago.

sometimes things happen in life though and you have to adapt. or something will happen and you'll change to ensure it never happens again. i don't feel like posting examples. but tossing in my two cents.

luv4all7 said:

I swear to God, if you're even for a second thinking about taking that asshole back, I will go straight to your house! Abusive people change for a while, but they WILL go back to what they're comfortable with.

gemini13 said:

That's what I say.

jerseykrs said:

Absofuckinlutely

orgnote hun

Yep, I did.

But sometimes I fall back to my old self (when I'm very tired or ill) and I forget I don't need to be all angry and bitter at the world around me.

NAnomaly said:

Yep, my change is more a changing back to my real self

yes

2the9s used not to ass hump tractors

jerseykrs said:

ditto