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That is to say, your friend decides he wants to go out with a really hot chick, but she wants her corny girlfriend to come along too.

So he talks you into "Taking the grenade for the team"; that is, to go out with the other chick while he scores with the hot girl?

I've taken the grenade once, and me and the girl had a blast, while my buddy and the supposed "hot chick" ended up hating each other.

I think it's a horrible concept to consider a person a grenade that has to be taken.

I've never "taken the grenade" but I have made lots of friends go out with the grenade so I could score, in the past.

AsianBomb777 said:

This sounds like a Friends episode?

Fauxie said:

yeah...i've never known anyone who's done that.

evenstar3 said:

Oh, it was quite common in the Military.

And girls do it too.

AsianBomb777 said:

never! but some friends have taken the grenade for me, also unintentionally!

AsianBomb777 said:

Oh, I don't doubt for a second that girls do it

abierman said:

It's sooooo stressful. I mean, you don't want to piss your friend off, but you have better things to do.

Why do you torture them like that?

I don't think I can be your friend anymore. This is just all too much for me to bare tonite. My head is spinning.

This thread is the "dark urine" of the Org.

luv4all7 said:

STOP IT!! you're fucking killing me tonight :falloff;


Would it make you feel better if I told you about one of my gay experiences?

AsianBomb777 said:

Dan, let me explain you something about dating in the heterosexual-world: it's the girl who decides.....now I don't know how that works in that other world but I bet you can fill that in yourself!

abierman said:

AsianBomb777 said:

I think most guys know what this is all about. You say "corny" but what you mean is UGLY. Beautiful girls always have a homely best friend. And if the ugo best friend is not paid attention to she will ruin things for you and the beautiful girl. This routine is legendary.So you have to find a buddy who will make the ugly girl feel wanted and happy so she does not ruin things.

It's a classic routine that the ugly girlfriend will do if the guys are not interested in them. Sad but true.

Fauxie said:

It's pretty funny, it's male talk...taste of reality.

I am the consumate wing man.. I have taken several grenades,, but if you rub my back I'll rub yours know what I mean!

Fauxie said:

I agree, Nick.

applekisses said:

Don't act like you've never taken one for the team before, everyone has at one point in time, and if you say you haven't your lying!

karmatornado said:

I haven't, personally.

karmatornado said:

I have not... and I am not lying. I don't see people as dispensable to serve my purpose.... and don't find youth an excuse for such folly either. Rise above! I did not condone a lack of heart and senses at 20 I sure as hell won't see fit to ignore it now either..

I do feel the choices we make as we go ( Including the revisionary ones) dictate what our own future will be. Sooner then not...

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

It just doesn't seem realistic that either you or a person you have set up has not liked a person, but hung out with them just so your friend could have a good time. Thats part of being a friend, sacrifice. I don't see people as dispensible, however I don't want to hang out with someone on a regular basis that I have no interest in or share no common interest.

You notice no one is denying that this happens and has to happen.

Is there any way to avoid the ugly best friend problem??

Ummmmm.....am I missing something?

Why can't the two people who are actually interested in each other go out alone? The whole "grenade" thing sounds like very high school/college dating type of behavior.

AsianBomb777 said:

They do?

I certainly haven't, and I don't know anyone who has either.

I'm picky enough with people I actually like. I'm definitely not gonna spend any time with someone I'm really not interested in.

I've gone out with friends that have hooked up with guys (I'm thinking of one friend in particular) and if I don't like their friends, I just don't stick around. We're both adults, she can do her thing and I can do mine...we don't need each other as "wingmen" and she can make her own decision about who she decides to socialize with. I just don't interfere. Most times we go out together but end up seperating and doing our own things - sometimes meeting up at the end of the night and sometimes finding our own ways home.

I personally do not believe in taking one for the team.

Spats said:

Ahhhhh for once we agree on something..... There is no denying it occurs...
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Muse2NOPharaoh said:

Well said, lady.

And I have not either, nor would I. I guess group dating is an odd concept to me anyway.

xplnyrslf said:

Not my reality. I've never done this and don't know of any of my friends doing it either. It all comes across as a bit creepy, to be honest. I guess I've just never been in a situation where that night was all the time I had (angling for a one-night stand) and felt so desperate that I'd ask someone to do that for me and treat someone so badly.

evenstar3 said:

I haven't, but I have been the moral support to my friend when he went on a date that he didn't want to be a date. So I went along. She ended up fancying me. She was horrible. The whole thing was horrible.