XxAxX said:

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Other than the fact that i don't cuddle afterwards there have never been any complaints from girlfriends.

Okay, let's see. There are 91 posts on this thread. And only 2 women have given examples. Interesting. At the end of the day it's going to be sooooo satsifying seeing people say..."You were right Spats. Women do not do that." Can't wait.
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Spats said:

Spats said:

No...i know you have not had any for a year that says it all

Spats said:

Got laid lately friend?

Spats said:

so mysterious, erm... dinner and a movie. who would have guessed?

7in9 said:

Does not change the fact that only 2 women say they took a guy they were getting interested in out on a date. Women rarely pursue. It has been proven here.

Aaaaaah. This feels good.

Told u so.

LleeLlee said:

Not much else to do.

7in9 said:

Does not change the fact that you haven not been approched tons of times for first dates from women. Women rarely do it. I proved it here.

1. I asked my ex-boyfriend out on our first date. We got involved because I picked up the phone and asked if he wanted to go out for a walk with me. In fact, I think I initiated most of our "dates". We never paid for each other.

But he was a lot like you Spats. He never expressed any real affection, absolutely not an ounce of romance, insinuated he was non-monogamous, and didn't bother with acknowledging my birthday. Not until later did he admit to enjoying the physical part of the relationship.

I was pretty young at the time, so I put up with this b.s. because I liked him and we were friends. But I eventually felt like he didn't give a rat's ass (why would I think otherwise?) and decided to move out of state. In retrospect, that relationship was a complete drag.

And last time I saw him, he hasn't changed a bit. Now middle-aged, he sits in his office, single, whining about the world and its ills.

2. A few years ago, a guy and I were becoming friends at school. It turns out he didn't have any plans for Christmas, so I took a chance and called him on the phone and asked him if he'd like to come over for dinner. He got nervous and called me back and said no. So I got rejected.

3. I can think of several other examples too. For the most part, I've stopped doing this because I always ended up with scaredy cat men who never acted like they cared. I found I couldn't tell if they liked me or not and there was a pattern of unconscious resentment and resistance that I was threatening their masculinity. They could also abdicate responsibiity quite easily and even blame me for the results of my actions (easy to do since they took very few).

Spats said:

You are a teenager arn't you? I am willing to bet you have never even touched a woman. The "babe" was a work of fiction. The only "boobies" you have ever touched were your mommies when you suckled and this is all part of your attempt to work out how you should act around women when you finally pluck up the courage to get out there and of course when mommy lets you stay out past your 8pm bedtime.

Spats said:

But women will do it if they see an awesome, hot guy that's really worth approaching. Only awesome, hot guys know this.

Sorry you don't get approached.

JustErin said:

I have buddies who are considered great looking by women. They don't get approached. Face it, 95% of women do not do it.

7in9 said:

Whatever you say, dude. You know i am right and you are wrong and not teeling the truth.

heartbeatocean said:

Why is not liking lots of affection and romance bad though? I cannot help the way i am. I don't act like i care a lot because if you do women take you for granted. Women take nice guys for granted every single day. they constantly get stepped over. The nice guy way is the wrong way. Most women are not into them. They say they want them but they don't end up with them.

i shit on them

Listen, women are no more shy or outgiong then men. It depends on the person, what place and time they are in their life, and what kind of connection they feel with a possible mate. Ive had several women take the aggressive role, and I have had many situations where if I didnt act, it wasnt going to happen.

You have to read every person and every situation differently. Highs and lows of confidence are also a big player. The line can be as fine as what we wear or where we are at that effects our aggressiveness or tenativeness.

Rant over....I have much more, but I have baseball and a chick to pay attention to.

I have nothing really, no fashion sense or any great plans for wooing a woman or desire to show her the high life. Probably throw on some faded jeans and a tshirt and take her to whatever restaurant I know serves good food. I guess all I have is being polite and courteous. I've found women don't mind a nice, polite, honest guy.

Fauxie said:

No, they don't mind them. But they don't screw them either.

Spats said:

Oh, is that so?

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DarkKnight1 said:

Well then women must be a lot shyer, less confident and in bad places in their life because most of the time they don't approach men.


And this thread helped prove it.

The hot, cool guys I know constantly have woman chasing them. I think what guys that have the attitude that Spats says he has really need to face is that it just doesn't happen to them(or their buddies since we all know that birds of a feather flock together ).

A lot of women don't even get the chance to make the first move because so many guys are really aggressive, and when a first move isn't made by a guy it may very well be that a lot of women don't approach first out of fear of rejection.

However, the aggressive women that do approach first are only going after what they think is the cream of the crop. They are not going to waste a millisecond of their time on someone that they are not attracted to (physically, mentally, personality wise).

The type of guy Spats claims to be doesn't get approached and I totally believe it....so, there is only one conclusion that can be made. Women that don't approach first are not interested in guys like Spats and the ones that do approach first are not interested in guys like Spats, because after all, remember, he says it never happens.

There's really nothing more to it. He can keep saying it never happens because that is his reality (or so the story goes).

In the meantime, people like DarkKnight and the others that have said it happens to them will continue to attract aggressive personality types and Spats, I guess, will just continue to go without his sacktime.

Here's to all those that get approached first and often! It's awesome isn't it?

JustErin said:

That's it in a nutshell.

Spats




I was approached first. I was trying to take it steady too, but within a couple of days she pretty much got the 'sacktime' from me.

I don't generally try to impress but on the rare occasions that I do everything from my conversation to my walk seduces and tantalizes igniting all of the senses as I work mine, my mojo is an inherent part of me. When I'm the purser and it's my invitation for an evening out or in, I pay for it and if I or he sees something he likes or I want him to have, I get it, not that it truly matters.
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Fauxie said:

Ask any nice guy. They have been passed over for years by women claiming they want a nice guy. Those nice guys have pelnty of women as friends but no sacktimee is involved.

JustErin said:

No, it does not happen to great looking guys in general. My good looking guy friends get plenty of women. A lot More than me. (because they do the approaching) The women just don't approach them.

Women scared of rejection? Awwwww. Isn't that a shame. Now they know how men have felt for years. If women used their head they would know that very rarely is a pretty women gonna get rejected. Most guys are not gonna reject a pretty girl who approaches them. it's a fact. If they knew men they would know that.

It cannot be because of the type of guy i am because they don't know the person before they approach. If it's my looks, that's fine. I cannot do anything about how i look. I have never claimed to be great looking. Although ex girlfriends liked my looks. They wouldn't have approached me if they didn't.

It's not happening often like you say. Believe what you want.
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Spats said: