Pete... thank you

Herman... no it's not about you specifically

Nat , I hate to see you feeling like this . You are an amazing , special woman . Anyone that has you as a friend is lucky x 100000

Pochacco said:

I second that

Natisse said:

Honey...you can still care and let go. You're letting go because you're not getting what YOU need from the relationship, but you can do it with love and the knowledge that by being around you that person flew just a little too close to the sun and couldn't take the heat
You know you will continue to meet those who will see just how amazing you are.

Natisse said:

But sometimes you have to go back and give yourself permission to care in the first place. It may be counterintuitive, but trust me: it works. You give yourself total permission to care, let all your good feelings about the person wash over you. Let it feel good, instead of beating yourself up about it. After you can do this, then you move to recognizing the reality that you cannot possess this person or be in the type of relationship with them that you may want. And the more you practice allowing yourself to have good feelings that are just good, without judging whether or not you "should" feel them, it gets much easier to let go of wanting to "have" the person.

Along with this, you definitely need to listen to your friends who tell you how amazing you are, own it, and repeat it to yourself. It also helps to look at the ways in which you would not be satisfied with the person. They're out there, and if you look hard enough you will find them. This can help you feel less powerless.

FunkMistress said:

This is so true

applekisses said:

I still struggle with it, I'm still practicing. But I'm encouraged because I feel very real effects from my practice.

It's not hard for me. It's kind of like a natural progression for me. It doesn't hurt me because if they don't like me then I really don't care for them either. We never really clicked.


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Nat if you still have my number txt me if you need to

when i realize that someone i'm nuts about doesn't really give a rat's ass about me, the bitter pill i have to swallow is that i've developed feelings for my interpretation of that person - the person i fantasized them to be - rather than the person they really are, who has little to do with what i fooled myself into thinking they were.

The concept of someone not wanting to be around you is something I'm struggling with Nat, but there are some odd balls out there right enough.

But I've had plenty of folk come and go in my life. Most of them came and then went.

Lets face it , its really hard when shit like this happens . I think that it just makes you appreciate the people you do have around you that little bit more .

I consider myself a very loyal friend , but 9 times out of 10 usually end up getting shit on from a great hight !!!

Anx said:

FunkMistress said:

What kind of ever-lovin', hippy-dippy bullshit is this?!

Don't listen to her, Nat; just pump up a hate-on for this douchebag stat, listen to Uncle Ace and everything's gonna be just fine.

Anx said:

Wha?

Don't fall for this new age mumbo-jumbo, Nat! Go with the flaming-dog-poop-on-the-front-step-in-a-paper-bag. Trust me.

Ace said:

i didn't say there was anything wrong with being petty, vindictive or vengeful. that's the fun part. my suggestions were more geared toward downtime between prank calls and teepeeing the yard.

Sadly, there is no quick fix to avoid or alleviate the hurt which comes of feeling dismissed, or having one's friendship unreciprocated.

The best you can do is realize that the other person's rebuff, or lack of response is not a reflection of your own worth as a person, or as a potential friend to others.

Accept that it's quite alright to care about those whom don't respond in kind, but make concerted efforts to not expend emotional energies towards trying to 'make them' return your feelings. Doing so only bleeds one dry.

And don't let the occasional hurts harden you, or dissuade you from continuing to care. There are many, many people out there in this wide world who would welcome and value your friendship like the gold that it is. Seek out those people, invest your love into them, and what you shall receive in return will help to heal the cuts caused by those who didn't respond.

FunkMistress said:

Wow.
Does everything U write have 2 always be so dead-on?
U must have some water in your chart besides that Aries Sun.

Anx said:

FunkMistress said:

well put!

You´ve been watching Sex and the City reruns, haven´t you?

garganta said:

Hehehe.

Hello Mr Wednesday Evening...

Giovanni777 said:

I actually have four planets in Aries; I'm one big hard-headed bonfire. I have had to work very hard to attain the emotional intelligence I now have.

But you always make me feel good!

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Yes you are.

Thanks for starting this thread Natisse

FunkMistress said:

wrong thread!

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Wrong thread.

FunkMistress said:

bout time!

IrresistibleB1tch said:

hey! what about me

XxAxX said:

sucka!!