ok... how do you let go when someone you really care about is "just not that into you" and I'm not talking romances, either, I'm talking friends, family, anyone who is "just not that into you" but it hurts

how the hell do you let go?

ppl usually just walk away, no explanations, ignoring phonecalls, emails.. seems to be the way today

ha. If only I knew.









Hope youre ok honey keep in touch!

susannah said:

If you find out - tell me too?

...and definately sweetie
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REDFEATHERS said:

Natisse said:

Oh I will! I will be shouting it from the rooftops when I figure this one out!

hope everythings ok

Just remember that there are lots of folks that are into you.

But it doesn't mean that you're any less of a person because someone isn't into you.

All humans are flawed and screwed up. We are all equal that way. I just keep that in mind.

i think it's one of those times where you go through the stages of grief, like someone has when dealing with a death or a divorce, only perhaps a little bit in miniature. i don't think there's a recipe for quick recovery. i think you need to go through all the feelings of loss, and know that you'll eventually come out the other end stronger for it.

Natisse said:

best not to care in the first place, me thinks..

REDFEATHERS said:

Thats my new tactic of choice.

REDFEATHERS said:

too late although I wish I could go back to not caring as it would be easier

Just keep in mind that it's PEOPLE, not you. And in this case it is YOU who should walk on, don't fret too much. Life will go on.

Also, remember that you cannot take ALL your friends with you into the future. You will lose some, due to different reasons.

Just remember the good times you had fondly and you will be okay.

relationships can be strange


we arnt meant to stick super close to all we know/meet along the way ...some drift out and then back in

you dont have to "let go" as much as just grant space

susannah said:

Unfortunately its mine too.. I say fuck them all, fuck everyone.. ppl just seem to set out to hurt others anyway, so whats the fucking point caring in the first place?

Natisse said:

Just dont care next time then..

REDFEATHERS said:

I am wit ya!

fuck the lot of them, bastards in hell I say

HamsterHuey said:

there is so much to say to that, but not here not now...

Sometimes I have a really, really hard time with this. Extremely difficult.
Others, it just feels natural to let go.

It's a tough one.

susannah said:

not all of them... but, personally, there are a lot of people who I used to consider close who don't even bother to keep in touch any more or if they care they don't show it at all. very few of you (and I'm meaning not just the org but life in general) I keep close to me nowadays...

all the more reason to cherish those of you I know DO care

It's called abandonment.....and been there, done that.

It is much harder to recover from than death...because the person is still alive and is making the choice to no longer be a part of your life...when the person dies, there are no other options than to let go.

They say time heals it.....I am unsure, as I am still in the healing process. The person doing it to me is playing the ignore her and she will go away game....a really chidish and cowardly way to handle things, in my book.

Keep faith in yourself and realize you are a gift to a lot of people. There are probably more poeple out there that are into you, than there are those that aren't.

Whoever said that to you is the loser because they no longer have you.

CarrieMpls said:

I used to have problems letting go too.

But you only get dissappointed all over again when you pursue a relationship that has, in all reality, burned up. I have set myself up for a fall like that a few times...

CarrieMpls said:

agree totally ...you are very loved Carrie

cubic61052 said:

you make some good points... thank you

You allow yourself to have whatever feelings you have.

Too often we think that letting go and moving on means that we have to squash, stuff or ignore our feelings. I find that the least harmful and most effective way is to somehow let go of our attachment to the person or our ideal relationship with them, but remain with the love we have for them.

Natisse said:

Realize that you shouldn't "really care about" someone who doesn't do the same for you and hang with people who do.

You don't need that shit, Nat.

cubic61052 said:

OH MY - FUCK IN HELL!!!!

you just hit the nail on the head..

FunkMistress said:

that, right there, is what I just don't know how to do... I'm self-destructive like that. I try to hang on to someone even though I know damn well they don't care... because I still DO care and I can't just switch it off.

eh this is such a depressive thread I'm sorry for starting it now

Ace said:

thank you so much

Theres nothing worse is there , really liking someone either romantically or just friendship wise and them not feeling the same way .

Nat you are an incredibubbly special lady , its their loss hun

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