You have 3 days notice.. your partner has arranged for good, old, long-lost friends to come around for the weekend who havent visited in years...

So you tidy the house, get the guest room ready, buy flowers, organise the meal - buy ingredients etc etc, plan where to go, what to do over the w/e, what you plan to wear etc etc..

and while you are out running yourself ragged trying to get everything organised you find your partner at home, been home all day, watching tv, drining, not done any jobs you have set for your partner.. who doesnt seem bothered at all, how the house looks, what we are to eat, etc etc.. and will not lay a finger to help before they arrive..


HOW DO YOU REACT????

Advice NEEDED!!!

REDFEATHERS said:

What you plan to wear?? Flowers? What do you need flowers for?? Just order in food.

Are they your partner's friends, your friends, or mutual friends? Personally, I think my annoyance level would be based on that.

I would be annoyed too, but theres a lot to be said for the argument: if he doesnt care, maybe you shouldnt either?"

Otherwise kick said partner up bum and explain calmly that this is important to you, and if he's gonna put you in the position he has to understand that and share the workload. Tis only fair.

Spats said:

Oh you cheap skate.. why order in food, when you can cook better? Its all about quality, daaarlingggg.. and of course flowers, I love buying flowers, but you can never not buy flowers when someone is coming to stay.. and what to wear? COURSE you gotta plan what to wear.. or buy something new.. what fucking planet are you from????

evenstar3 said:

Partners friends... and they havent lifeted a finger to help..

All of my long lost friends have deleted their accounts.
Several times over as a matter of fact.

If he doesn't care about that stuff. . . well. . .

However, if he agreed to do stuff and didn't, that's different.

Illustrator said:

susannah said:

Yes I understand what you are saying, but easier said than done..

not meaning to come across as being snobby but FFS, you want the house tidy and presentable, right? and they should do their bit to help, for it is their friends coming to visit, and not yours.. but you know them, so cannot sit back in squalor and entertain.. cos you will feel terrible, you wanna be relaxed in a comfortable enviroment, with your vistors feeling both comfortable and spoiled..

REDFEATHERS said:

Ooooh, I would be super annoyed. Tell him/her to help you, damnit!

Illustrator said:

Cos you didnt have a tidy house when they visited, or you never even got to that stage?

REDFEATHERS said:

I know, I know exactly what you mean I just think we (not you dear, society) put too much emphasis on how we are seen by others in this type of situation.

Saying that, Im exactly the same, I have to have everything nice when people are coming over - I guess I just wish it wasnt like that. So go with my second point - educate him on these matters Tell him its not on.

REDFEATHERS said:

Then don't complain. You are the one that wants to do it. It does not have to be done. No guy wants to do that shit. Just women.

See? this is the couple stuff that i want no part of.

susannah said:

I just realised I maybe shouldnt have been saying "him" Oh well....sounds like a man!

Spats said:

I havent said that a woman has requested this shit to be done, so why presume its a woman who wants all this>???
[Edited 10/13/06 15:01pm]

susannah said:

It's called being superficial. Which i am accused of being.

REDFEATHERS said:

You seem to want and think it should be done.

susannah said:

You are more alert than others.. glad you saw I didnt mention, men, or women..

REDFEATHERS said:

Yeah after my own poxy prejudices got out of the way!!

My partner would be going Vacuum crazy if she invited her friends round.....In fact I actually dread that scenario.....

Sounds like a typical week around here.

Banana Nut Bread!!!!