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Reply #30 posted 10/11/06 6:54am

jerseykrs

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I'm just curious as to what tests are given to determine clinical depression. Do you know of any?



It's paranoia, not depression, get your disorders right sister! mad
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Reply #31 posted 10/11/06 6:54am

mrdespues

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mrdespues said:



Very general.

1 in 5 with mental illness is not just limited to 'depression'.

Think: schizophrenia, bi-polar... any kind of anxiety... OCD.... the list goes on...

... and no, they are not quick to diagnose at all. Maybe in North America, perhaps, the land of drugs and the quick-fix.

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I'm just curious as to what tests are given to determine clinical depression. Do you know of any?
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If you're curious, just google them. There are PLENTY out there.
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Reply #32 posted 10/11/06 6:54am

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JustErin said:

I definitely agree that doctors are too quick to diagnose depression. "Oh, you're stressed at work? Depressed!", "Oh, you're sad your bf broke up with you? Depressed!".

Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, not the blues or stress. I certainly believe that 1 - 5 people go thru the blues, but not clinical depression.

What test can be performed to determine if someone is really depressed? Is there a brain scan or something like that? And do doctors actually have their patients tested and then make the diagnosis?


I think depression can be self-diagnosed. If you can't get out of bed for days at a time, I'd say you're depressed. If you're suicidal, you're depressed. It's not that hard.
There are no tests for checmical imbalance I'm aware of. You listen to the symptoms and make a diagnosis. The treatment options are the tricky part.
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Reply #33 posted 10/11/06 6:58am

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some things are very hard to unlearn, but they can be.
if you mistrust everyone, and assume they're dishonest, you'll never trust another human being. that's a lonely way to go through life.
even with trusting one, two, or three people, they are human, and can let you down from time to time. that's life. I think its a cumulative score, rather then sudden death.
for the most part, people are usually honest. once you learn someone is dishonest, you don't have to associate with them anymore, but do not assume the next person you meet is dishonest as well.
it seems that you take it extremely personally. and you're also trying to protect yourself. If they lie to you, they lie to others..it's not personal.
you can't go through life in a bubble. that would make you john travolta in "the boy in the bubble" and even he broke out of that bubble.
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Reply #34 posted 10/11/06 6:59am

IrresistibleB1
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purplerein said:

some things are very hard to unlearn, but they can be.
if you mistrust everyone, and assume they're dishonest, you'll never trust another human being. that's a lonely way to go through life.
even with trusting one, two, or three people, they are human, and can let you down from time to time. that's life. I think its a cumulative score, rather then sudden death.
for the most part, people are usually honest. once you learn someone is dishonest, you don't have to associate with them anymore, but do not assume the next person you meet is dishonest as well.

it seems that you take it extremely personally. and you're also trying to protect yourself. If they lie to you, they lie to others..it's not personal.
you can't go through life in a bubble. that would make you john travolta in "the boy in the bubble" and even he broke out of that bubble.


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Reply #35 posted 10/11/06 7:01am

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CarrieMpls said:

JustErin said:

I definitely agree that doctors are too quick to diagnose depression. "Oh, you're stressed at work? Depressed!", "Oh, you're sad your bf broke up with you? Depressed!".

Depression is a chemical imbalance in the brain, not the blues or stress. I certainly believe that 1 - 5 people go thru the blues, but not clinical depression.

What test can be performed to determine if someone is really depressed? Is there a brain scan or something like that? And do doctors actually have their patients tested and then make the diagnosis?


I think depression can be self-diagnosed. If you can't get out of bed for days at a time, I'd say you're depressed. If you're suicidal, you're depressed. It's not that hard.
There are no tests for checmical imbalance I'm aware of. You listen to the symptoms and make a diagnosis. The treatment options are the tricky part.


I see, so it's just your doctor takes your word for it.

I definitely agree with medication as a very short term solution for things like not being able to concentrate, not being able to fuction, etc...just to get things back in balance and be able to get back on track, but I am dead against any long term treatment - other than cognitive therapy (for depression that is).
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Reply #36 posted 10/11/06 7:01am

luv4all7

purplerein said:

some things are very hard to unlearn, but they can be.
if you mistrust everyone, and assume they're dishonest, you'll never trust another human being. that's a lonely way to go through life.
even with trusting one, two, or three people, they are human, and can let you down from time to time. that's life. I think its a cumulative score, rather then sudden death.
for the most part, people are usually honest. once you learn someone is dishonest, you don't have to associate with them anymore, but do not assume the next person you meet is dishonest as well.
it seems that you take it extremely personally. and you're also trying to protect yourself. If they lie to you, they lie to others..it's not personal.
you can't go through life in a bubble. that would make you john travolta in "the boy in the bubble" and even he broke out of that bubble.



Thats true. But it's not like you can just MAKE yourself trust someone. I'm sure he WANTS to trust. But how? Ya can't just MAKE yourself.
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Reply #37 posted 10/11/06 7:02am

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jerseykrs said:

JustErin said:



I'm just curious as to what tests are given to determine clinical depression. Do you know of any?



It's paranoia, not depression, get your disorders right sister! mad


Oh, you're talking to me now?
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Reply #38 posted 10/11/06 7:03am

IrresistibleB1
tch

luv4all7 said:

purplerein said:

some things are very hard to unlearn, but they can be.
if you mistrust everyone, and assume they're dishonest, you'll never trust another human being. that's a lonely way to go through life.
even with trusting one, two, or three people, they are human, and can let you down from time to time. that's life. I think its a cumulative score, rather then sudden death.
for the most part, people are usually honest. once you learn someone is dishonest, you don't have to associate with them anymore, but do not assume the next person you meet is dishonest as well.
it seems that you take it extremely personally. and you're also trying to protect yourself. If they lie to you, they lie to others..it's not personal.
you can't go through life in a bubble. that would make you john travolta in "the boy in the bubble" and even he broke out of that bubble.



Thats true. But it's not like you can just MAKE yourself trust someone. I'm sure he WANTS to trust. But how? Ya can't just MAKE yourself.


it helps to put things into perspective, and i think that's what PR was getting at.
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Reply #39 posted 10/11/06 7:03am

jerseykrs

JustErin said:

jerseykrs said:




It's paranoia, not depression, get your disorders right sister! mad


Oh, you're talking to me now?



I talk to you ALL the time!! mad
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Reply #40 posted 10/11/06 7:07am

7ellusion

jerseykrs said:

The more I think about it, the more it fits me to a T. But, like, I've been like this forever, it doesn't even seem weird to me anymore, so is it still a disorder?? Or just part of my character? That's the point I try to make.



I'm exactly the same way and get that from everybody but I don't consider or see it as a disorder and not really apart of my character either, I'm just a cynical person when it comes to certain things. hug

As a matter of fact, just yesterday I was told to stop being paranoid about something. nod
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Reply #41 posted 10/11/06 7:09am

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BTW Chris, I have a bit of the same problem, except I manage to trust certain things....

For instance, if someone pays me a compliment, I have had an awful time learning to just say "thank you" instead of being dumbfounded and wondering if they're not actually mocking me when they do it. Does that sound familiar, or not?

Alex said something to me when we first moved into this house together. I was extremely stressed out. We hadn't found jobs yet, I was watching my savings account go below $2k for the first time in years, we were sitting around all day playing games, we didn't have half the furniture we needed, etc. Anyway, I got depressed a bit and we had this huge fight. I poured out a million things that were bothering me, and those were only the tip of it. Ugh, and I was projecting disaster. I was scared to death this cohabitation wouldn't work.

To make this shorter, Alex eventually said, "You know, you've been through a lot of things that most of us have never experienced. But that doesn't mean you have to make your life suck all the time and be down about it." Then he got super-motivational. Point is, I suspect a couple of times, at least one big one that I know of, you've been shown what CAN happen when you DO trust.

Yours just seems more like a defense mechanism to me.
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Reply #42 posted 10/11/06 7:11am

jerseykrs

CortestheKiller said:

BTW Chris, I have a bit of the same problem, except I manage to trust certain things....

For instance, if someone pays me a compliment, I have had an awful time learning to just say "thank you" instead of being dumbfounded and wondering if they're not actually mocking me when they do it. Does that sound familiar, or not?

Alex said something to me when we first moved into this house together. I was extremely stressed out. We hadn't found jobs yet, I was watching my savings account go below $2k for the first time in years, we were sitting around all day playing games, we didn't have half the furniture we needed, etc. Anyway, I got depressed a bit and we had this huge fight. I poured out a million things that were bothering me, and those were only the tip of it. Ugh, and I was projecting disaster. I was scared to death this cohabitation wouldn't work.

To make this shorter, Alex eventually said, "You know, you've been through a lot of things that most of us have never experienced. But that doesn't mean you have to make your life suck all the time and be down about it." Then he got super-motivational. Point is, I suspect a couple of times, at least one big one that I know of, you've been shown what CAN happen when you DO trust.

Yours just seems more like a defense mechanism to me.




You are SO right.
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Reply #43 posted 10/11/06 7:13am

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jerseykrs said:

CortestheKiller said:

BTW Chris, I have a bit of the same problem, except I manage to trust certain things....

For instance, if someone pays me a compliment, I have had an awful time learning to just say "thank you" instead of being dumbfounded and wondering if they're not actually mocking me when they do it. Does that sound familiar, or not?

Alex said something to me when we first moved into this house together. I was extremely stressed out. We hadn't found jobs yet, I was watching my savings account go below $2k for the first time in years, we were sitting around all day playing games, we didn't have half the furniture we needed, etc. Anyway, I got depressed a bit and we had this huge fight. I poured out a million things that were bothering me, and those were only the tip of it. Ugh, and I was projecting disaster. I was scared to death this cohabitation wouldn't work.

To make this shorter, Alex eventually said, "You know, you've been through a lot of things that most of us have never experienced. But that doesn't mean you have to make your life suck all the time and be down about it." Then he got super-motivational. Point is, I suspect a couple of times, at least one big one that I know of, you've been shown what CAN happen when you DO trust.

Yours just seems more like a defense mechanism to me.




You are SO right.


What do I get for winning?

Evil exes do a number on us. And that shit never, ever helps. Fuck them, though.
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Reply #44 posted 10/11/06 7:16am

jerseykrs

CortestheKiller said:

jerseykrs said:





You are SO right.


What do I get for winning?

Evil exes do a number on us. And that shit never, ever helps. Fuck them, though.



This was WELL in place before all that though Rhonda, that's why I don't look at it like some personality changing event inspired behaviour disorder. Hell, I'm in a good mood today actually! But it's true, I always have that thought in the back of my head "watch out, they're probably lying"
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Reply #45 posted 10/11/06 7:16am

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5 out of 5 people have to live life.

5 out of 5 people realize life sucks at times.

Some of the 5 can handle it.

Some the 5 cant.

Some of the 5 are chemically imbalanced

Most who think they have a disorder dont.

Depression, Heartache, Anxiety, Hate, and Bliss are all part of life. Unfortunately, the free will we have leads to bad decisions enhancing our problems. Then it becomes easy to blame depression, stress or some other made up disorder.

Failure to make sound decisions and live up to our obligations is the grandest disorder humans struggle with.

Stay smart, strong, focused and surround yourself with real, good people and most disorders or issues will dissolve eventually.




Rant Over.
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Reply #46 posted 10/11/06 7:17am

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jerseykrs said:

CortestheKiller said:



What do I get for winning?

Evil exes do a number on us. And that shit never, ever helps. Fuck them, though.



This was WELL in place before all that though Rhonda, that's why I don't look at it like some personality changing event inspired behaviour disorder. Hell, I'm in a good mood today actually! But it's true, I always have that thought in the back of my head "watch out, they're probably lying"


Well, but it didn't HELP is my point. It's probably just had things to help it along the way.
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Reply #47 posted 10/11/06 7:18am

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CortestheKiller said:

Well, at least you've made it into yourself. I get depressed and still know it's not me under there being that way. At the very least, "me" seems to be indifferent. Not sad or pissed off all the time. That just happens in the winter. And Lexapro comes to play.

In your case, I doubt you have a "disorder." But it can't hurt if sometime you have a little extra pocket change if you go see a therapist or something else. you don't have to get all medicated or nothin', just talk it out.


It won't even require pocket change if you have insurance.....and the thing is with medication, all you have to do is say you do not want it...period! And there is no shame is taking it if it can smooth over a rough period.

A good therapist will be non-partisan and non-judgemental, and can give you someone to vent to other than friends and family. I have learned through experience that they lose patience very quickly and tend to try to 'fix' things instead of provide assurance and 'tough love'.

I would not be so hasty as to say you are 'paranoid', but you certainly sound like you have trust issues.....and believe it: there are people in the world you can trust explicitly.

I agree with Cortes, maybe talking to someone might be the thing to do.

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Reply #48 posted 10/11/06 7:20am

luv4all7

DarkKnight1 said:

5 out of 5 people have to live life.

5 out of 5 people realize life sucks at times.

Some of the 5 can handle it.

Some the 5 cant.

Some of the 5 are chemically imbalanced

Most who think they have a disorder dont.

Depression, Heartache, Anxiety, Hate, and Bliss are all part of life. Unfortunately, the free will we have leads to bad decisions enhancing our problems. Then it becomes easy to blame depression, stress or some other made up disorder.

Failure to make sound decisions and live up to our obligations is the grandest disorder humans struggle with.

Stay smart, strong, focused and surround yourself with real, good people and most disorders or issues will dissolve eventually.




Rant Over.


hug Thats what I wanted to say but couldn't.

eek eek eek Do you think I have a learning disability?????
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Reply #49 posted 10/11/06 7:20am

Ace

jerseykrs said:

I've recently figured out that I have managed through life by always assuming people are lying. I got into an argument with a friend of mine because he said it was paranoia

He's lying.
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Reply #50 posted 10/11/06 7:21am

7ellusion

DarkKnight1 said:

5 out of 5 people have to live life.

5 out of 5 people realize life sucks at times.

Some of the 5 can handle it.

Some the 5 cant.

Some of the 5 are chemically imbalanced

Most who think they have a disorder dont.

Depression, Heartache, Anxiety, Hate, and Bliss are all part of life. Unfortunately, the free will we have leads to bad decisions enhancing our problems. Then it becomes easy to blame depression, stress or some other made up disorder.

Failure to make sound decisions and live up to our obligations is the grandest disorder humans struggle with.

Stay smart, strong, focused and surround yourself with real, good people and most disorders or issues will dissolve eventually.



Rant Over.




Well said...Very well said... thumbs up!
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Reply #51 posted 10/11/06 7:22am

jerseykrs

Ace said:

jerseykrs said:

I've recently figured out that I have managed through life by always assuming people are lying. I got into an argument with a friend of mine because he said it was paranoia

He's lying.

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Reply #52 posted 10/11/06 7:24am

IrresistibleB1
tch

DarkKnight1 said:

5 out of 5 people have to live life.

5 out of 5 people realize life sucks at times.

Some of the 5 can handle it.

Some the 5 cant.

Some of the 5 are chemically imbalanced

Most who think they have a disorder dont.

Depression, Heartache, Anxiety, Hate, and Bliss are all part of life. Unfortunately, the free will we have leads to bad decisions enhancing our problems. Then it becomes easy to blame depression, stress or some other made up disorder.

Failure to make sound decisions and live up to our obligations is the grandest disorder humans struggle with.

Stay smart, strong, focused and surround yourself with real, good people and most disorders or issues will dissolve eventually.




Rant Over.


the problem is that, depression usually creeps up slowly, and by the time you know you're in trouble, it's hard to remove yourself from the situation enough to pull yourself out of it. meds, responsibly prescribed, can be a good way to start seeing the big picture again and making the changes that will promote a positive (or rather, realistic) outlook.
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Reply #53 posted 10/11/06 7:27am

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luv4all7 said:

DarkKnight1 said:

5 out of 5 people have to live life.

5 out of 5 people realize life sucks at times.

Some of the 5 can handle it.

Some the 5 cant.

Some of the 5 are chemically imbalanced

Most who think they have a disorder dont.

Depression, Heartache, Anxiety, Hate, and Bliss are all part of life. Unfortunately, the free will we have leads to bad decisions enhancing our problems. Then it becomes easy to blame depression, stress or some other made up disorder.

Failure to make sound decisions and live up to our obligations is the grandest disorder humans struggle with.

Stay smart, strong, focused and surround yourself with real, good people and most disorders or issues will dissolve eventually.




Rant Over.


hug Thats what I wanted to say but couldn't.

eek eek eek Do you think I have a learning disability?????


No, you know what you want to say but dont take the time to construct any ideas. You know whats up, I can read people pretty well. Next time you want to explain something, just take your time.


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Reply #54 posted 10/11/06 7:31am

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IrresistibleB1tch said:

DarkKnight1 said:

5 out of 5 people have to live life.

5 out of 5 people realize life sucks at times.

Some of the 5 can handle it.

Some the 5 cant.

Some of the 5 are chemically imbalanced

Most who think they have a disorder dont.

Depression, Heartache, Anxiety, Hate, and Bliss are all part of life. Unfortunately, the free will we have leads to bad decisions enhancing our problems. Then it becomes easy to blame depression, stress or some other made up disorder.

Failure to make sound decisions and live up to our obligations is the grandest disorder humans struggle with.

Stay smart, strong, focused and surround yourself with real, good people and most disorders or issues will dissolve eventually.




Rant Over.


the problem is that, depression usually creeps up slowly, and by the time you know you're in trouble, it's hard to remove yourself from the situation enough to pull yourself out of it. meds, responsibly prescribed, can be a good way to start seeing the big picture again and making the changes that will promote a positive (or rather, realistic) outlook.


Pills seem to me like putting bandaids on a bullet wound. Therapy is a more sound, healing decision. Unfortunately, people are so wrapped up in their own issues, they dont take the time to aid in others going through a rough time. Human interaction and caring can do so much more than a pill can.

Unless its Prilosec, humans cant fix my acid reflux after a long night of drinking.
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Reply #55 posted 10/11/06 7:33am

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JustErin said:

CarrieMpls said:



I think depression can be self-diagnosed. If you can't get out of bed for days at a time, I'd say you're depressed. If you're suicidal, you're depressed. It's not that hard.
There are no tests for checmical imbalance I'm aware of. You listen to the symptoms and make a diagnosis. The treatment options are the tricky part.


I see, so it's just your doctor takes your word for it.

I definitely agree with medication as a very short term solution for things like not being able to concentrate, not being able to fuction, etc...just to get things back in balance and be able to get back on track, but I am dead against any long term treatment - other than cognitive therapy (for depression that is).


For myself, I don't want drugs period. I hate even taking aspirin or ibuprofen. I won't take cold or allergy medicine as I can't take the way it makes me feel (jittery, disconnected, high, etc.), so I don't even want to begin to mess with anything 'stronger'.

And overall I'd agree that drugs are often used as a cure, when they could/probably should be a band-aid to get through to a long-term cure.
But I think the most important part is finding a professional you trust. I can't say that long-term drug use is NEVER the answer. I'm not qualified to say that.
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Reply #56 posted 10/11/06 7:33am

IrresistibleB1
tch

DarkKnight1 said:

IrresistibleB1tch said:



the problem is that, depression usually creeps up slowly, and by the time you know you're in trouble, it's hard to remove yourself from the situation enough to pull yourself out of it. meds, responsibly prescribed, can be a good way to start seeing the big picture again and making the changes that will promote a positive (or rather, realistic) outlook.


Pills seem to me like putting bandaids on a bullet wound. Therapy is a more sound, healing decision. Unfortunately, people are so wrapped up in their own issues, they dont take the time to aid in others going through a rough time. Human interaction and caring can do so much more than a pill can.

Unless its Prilosec, humans cant fix my acid reflux after a long night of drinking.
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i'm all for doing both! nod
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Reply #57 posted 10/11/06 7:36am

Mach

Come on Jers ...rolleyes

Ask the magic 8 ball !!

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Reply #58 posted 10/11/06 7:36am

purplerein

by the way, are you pronouncing issues "ish yews?", or "iss yews"
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Reply #59 posted 10/11/06 7:38am

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Mach said:

Come on Jers ...rolleyes

Ask the magic 8 ball !!

nod


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He'll just get:

"You're going to die"
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