8 years is a long time. All he did was cheat on her...the self esteem thing is her own deal. Now if he was a drug user or an abusive person or stole all her money...that's a different story. Not to make light of the cheating, but that's a common thing folks do.

Since it is such a long time...I'd prolly just let it be.

ThreadBare said:

Mach said:

Here is what I think, Mach:
(sabotage - I think you may be right, TB)
Yhough she may on the surface believe she will spare my friend heartache, what I really think my other friend wants is to keep HIM from having a chance at having some happiness (that she doesn't think he deserves, due to the unhappiness he caused her).

superspaceboy said:

I don't think they were suited personalities

keep it to yourself

Sweeny79 said:

Yes sounds like a definite thing

(I will show her photos of him from my wedding though haha!! )

ZombieKitten said:

but ya know..... if he does start acting like a big jerk...well maybe then youcan tell her.

Sweeny79 said:

and then she will say "you knew this and didn't tell me? " I think I better pretend to know NOTHING!! or I will get in trouble!

ZombieKitten said:

maybe that's true

ZombieKitten said:

Mmmm Hhmmm ... kinda the feeling I got from it

Mach said:

gosh I am glad I decided to ask the org instead of just forwarding that email like I thought I should at first!

ZombieKitten said:

I've always been talented at making sense of other people's lives...


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wow ... i think ... u should tell her ...

of course ... predicate that alil ... by saying the "whole story" ... but ... if she is a "friend" ... she will relate ... to ya ... and --- most importantly ... realize there "are 2 sides to the story" ... kinda ....

(see my post on high school geeks ) but that comes to mind ... i woulda loved to have the "ammo" i coulda told that other girl about that "geek turned stud(in his mind)" i just ran into ... ugh ... that guy was an ass in high school and is a bigger ass NOW that he thinks he is gods gift to women ...

maybe i am too harsh on men ....

SnidelyWhiplash said:

That happens sometimes

dont get me wrong -- i do think people "can change" ... but i also ... like i said with the geek turned stud... think sometimes people NEVER change ...

No damn way!!! People change. Some of them.

ZombieKitten said:

seriously ...that was your 1st thought ?

Mach said:

it was my thought without really giving it a thought, if you know what I mean?

so DID you tell her .... ???

ZombieKitten said:

yes ... i understand what you mean

SnidelyWhiplash said:

nope and I never will! I am staying out of it

Stay out of it...

ZombieKitten said:

Smart you. These are indeed grown-ups. Let them lead their own life.

HamsterHuey said:

yes I will keep the org posted on this instead

ZombieKitten said:

Is their life THAT interesting?

Then again, all orgers are tres boring, or we would not be here.

HamsterHuey said:

at least these people HAVE a life!!!

My life is tres boring as well right now.

The only thing I have been looking forward is the inappropriate crush I was supposed tohave a date with tonight but I can't cuz I am sick.

Big bummer.

HamsterHuey said:

I was just about to call Louise from kindy to tell her that I can't make it to the trivia night tonight and to pass it on, but she just called me to tell me exactly the same thing!!!! I really don't want to go, it would mean interracting with REAL LIVE people!

You sick too?

Awwww

HamsterHuey said:

no! I am not
I just would rather go out to eat and catch a movie since we have got the kids all being babysat.
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