Need some advice!

I've been seeing this guy for about 2 months (I've known him for years but for some reason we started liking each other all of a sudden), and things are going really well, but last night he tried to have "the talk" with me...you know, the one about not seeing other people.
I think it's kinda soon to be having that talk, at least for me, but I didn't really know what to say, because I really like him, so I just said "I'm not in the mood to talk about this right now...can we have this discussion later?".
Has anyone been in this situation before? What did you say? What should I have said?

The only thing to ever do is be honest.

andriahb said:

So you want to see other people besides him?

perhaps you should find the "mood" to talk to them ..and soon ...about your feelings and to be honest with kindness backing your words

good luck

JustErin said:

No not particlularly, I just think it's a little early to be making a commitment....once bitten twice shy.

Just be honest and tell him you think it's too soon, it's always the best way to go.

A mans worst nightmare..."THE DTR" Define The Relationship.
It will be tough no matter when you have the conversation.

DarkKnight1 said:

Well it's kinda my nightmare too, and I'm a girl!
He's the one that brought it up LOL!

andriahb said:

It doesn't have to be tough. A check-in on your intentions with someone you've been dating for a while is good, I think. Keeps you both honest and clear with each other and if you don't say what you're feeling you're not just going to magically know. It would be worse for you to lead him on in some way.

Yeah. Ya gotta atleast let each other know if your gonna be sleeping with other people.....c'mon, like, don't you wanna know if he's dippin' into other pools? I know I would.

And if your just seeing other people, whats wrong with letting eachother know that. Or that your keeping your options open or whatever.....I mean, why have it a big guessing game?

If you are not interested in seeing other people, I have no idea what the big deal is.

You're being exclusive already, talking about it means nothing. It's just words.

ohh, something is going to give

emotional roller coaster alert is what that means ... I dedicate Mr. Brightside by The Killers to you:

I thought this was about when to talk sex with your kids, god I need a life.....

If you don't actually want to see other people, I'd suggest trying to let go of your baggage and go with it. It's hurtful to somebody who is putting that out there to be told, basically, "no, sorry, still hoping something better will come along." If you care about them, it could really backfire on ya.

If you do, however, really want to keep your options open, then you honestly explain your reasons, and let them know that you'll reopen the conversation down the road when you're ready.

jerseykrs said:

http://www.amazon.com/Sex...00?ie=UTF8

I heard this book was really good, (no relation)

or, you know, just tell him what you're telling us.

"no, i don't really wanna date or sleep with other people right now. yes, i'm really interested in you. but i'm not quite done living the single life yet, and i really want to digest the idea of committing to you before i make any promises we'll both regret."

it doesn't mean you guys would hang out less or that anything would change - it's just where your mind is at the moment. and maybe it's really mature of YOU to slow things down a bit and let the relationship develop and breathe a bit before jumping into LTR mode. what's the rush?

Be flattered, be happy. If he thinks that highly of you to suggest some commitment, that's a nice compliment towards you. Maybe it's worth giving it a whir, is there really much to loose?

Its funny how you americans can date someone and its ok to date other ppl - until you have as you say *the talk*

Over here in Uk, when you date someone, then you arent really supposed to date anyone else..

andriahb said:

have you recently taken the pic. of you two at the harborside off your myspace page..?

andriahb said:

you should have said "i'm going for a cup of tea, you want one?" then, run like hell to the kitchen, out the door, down the road and home.

okay sorry, just kidding. you should tell him honestly how you feel.

XxAxX said:

That's pretty hilarious...last time someone said "I love you" to me (not the same guy" I said "I have to pee" and left the room for half an hour.