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PrintableCortestheKiller said: ThreadBare said: No, I have her and I still do things for her. Surprise her with this thing or that thing.
It doesn't stop, when you're constantly reminded how blessed you are to have her... As i am. 
I don't see why the "pursuit" technically has to end. You women know how complex you can be. There's always another layer to discover and explore. . [Edited 10/2/06 23:13pm] That was wonderful! My fiance hasn't stopped the pursuit. It has slacked off a bit--from both of us. But I'm glad it did. Gifts and flowers and such wouldn't be exciting if they just came all the time. No, I rather when I'm least expecting he's about to do something nice... when it's been awhile, and I wake up one morning and he's gotten me something. And it isn't even about the something. Hell, a few nights ago, he walked in from work, and pointed to his chest and said the cheesiest, but nicest thing. He says, "My heart is full of love, and it all belongs to you!" I about melted from my piece of couch. If that sort of thing was commonplace, I'd not be nearly as impressed. I'll take quality over quantity. He should hand in his manhood membership for that comment. That's really bad. | |
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Spats said: CortestheKiller said: That was wonderful! My fiance hasn't stopped the pursuit. It has slacked off a bit--from both of us. But I'm glad it did. Gifts and flowers and such wouldn't be exciting if they just came all the time. No, I rather when I'm least expecting he's about to do something nice... when it's been awhile, and I wake up one morning and he's gotten me something. And it isn't even about the something. Hell, a few nights ago, he walked in from work, and pointed to his chest and said the cheesiest, but nicest thing. He says, "My heart is full of love, and it all belongs to you!" I about melted from my piece of couch. If that sort of thing was commonplace, I'd not be nearly as impressed. I'll take quality over quantity. He should hand in his manhood membership for that comment. That's really bad. Spats, bruh... if you check your "What do I do? Please, help me with my woman problems!" thread, you'll see I was among the many folks who answered your question with sound advice. Advice confirmed by "the babe's" response to your friend. Say what you will about me, son... Know this: I handle mine. Ya hear? [Edited 10/3/06 9:55am] | |
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ThreadBare said: Spats said: He should hand in his manhood membership for that comment. That's really bad. Spats, bruh... if you check your "What do I do? Please, help me with my woman problems!" thread, you'll see I was among the many folks who answered your question with sound advice. Advice confirmed by "the babe's" response to your friend. Say what you will about me, son... Know this: I handle mine. Ya hear? [Edited 10/3/06 9:55am] You are the one that said that line?? | |
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Spats said: jerseykrs said: I fully agree with Erin
as usual 
but its true. just be yourself from the get. honest about all the things you like and don't like and don't try to be something that your partner wants just for the sake of them wanting it. that's not to say you can't do something 'romantic' once in a while if your girl is into that, but most girls end up expecting that to be your whole personality. at least in my experience. I, personally, am not into romance. I'd much rather just know that someone generally cares for my well being and is just nice and loving in their actions. full on romance just doesn't interest me so it would be disingenuious of me to lead someone on by doing that kind of stuff. just my two cents  Good to see there are real guys around here like Jersey and Uptown NY. Let's all flex our muscles.  Those two sissies were agreeing with a woman. What a couple of pussies! | |
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JustErin said: Spats said: Good to see there are real guys around here like Jersey and Uptown NY. Let's all flex our muscles. Those two sissies were agreeing with a woman. What a couple of pussies! No, they seem to have the same opinions on that crap as i do. | |
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Spats said: JustErin said: Those two sissies were agreeing with a woman. What a couple of pussies! No, they seem to have the same opinions on that crap as i do. So, you're a pussy too. You guys should join a sissyboy club. I can picture Chris in the frilly panties already! | |
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JustErin said: Spats said: No, they seem to have the same opinions on that crap as i do. So, you're a pussy too. You guys should join a sissyboy club. I can picture Chris in the frilly panties already! No the guys that are into romance are the pussies. | |
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Spats said: JustErin said: So, you're a pussy too. You guys should join a sissyboy club. I can picture Chris in the frilly panties already! No the guys that are into romance are the pussies. No, believe me. Chris is a pussy. So keep on flexing those gluteus maximus "muscles" with him. You wanna look pretty in those frillies.  | |
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Spats said: JustErin said: So, you're a pussy too. You guys should join a sissyboy club. I can picture Chris in the frilly panties already! No the guys that are into romance are the pussies.  | |
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Spats said: Byron said: He's a male...not a man...lol A real man does not do the wimpy crap you do. YOUR view of what a real man is: 
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jerseykrs said: I fully agree with Erin
as usual
but its true. just be yourself from the get. honest about all the things you like and don't like and don't try to be something that your partner wants just for the sake of them wanting it. that's not to say you can't do something 'romantic' once in a while if your girl is into that, but most girls end up expecting that to be your whole personality. at least in my experience. I, personally, am not into romance. I'd much rather just know that someone generally cares for my well being and is just nice and loving in their actions. full on romance just doesn't interest me so it would be disingenuious of me to lead someone on by doing that kind of stuff. just my two cents  |
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JustErin said: Women do the same kind of thing.
Some women do even worse to get what they want. So I agree with ya, be honest from day one. The guy will like you more for your honesty, insted of hating you later for lying to them to get what they want They pretend to be interested in things that they're really not interested in, they pretend to be ok with their guy doing his own thing, etc...but once they get the guy, their true colours come out. My point is, this kind of 'do anything to get the person you want' goes both ways. I think the only way to keep the romance going is to always be honest and be who you really are from day one. That way your mate is falling for the real you. But I'm not a guy so I guess I shouldn't have responded to this thread.   | |
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ThreadBare said:
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brownsugar said: ThreadBare said:
[Edited 10/3/06 10:07am] I came to my senses. | |
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luv4u said: A lot of relationships die coz the spark is allowed to die. Just coz you romanced a woman with flowers, phone calls, internet chat, dates, etc. at the very beginning, and now you got her. So why stop doing those special things that you romanced her with to get her?
I think it should always be an ongoing part of a relationship. But once the guy gets the girl, it stops. How many of you keep the romance alive in your relationship with your special woman? And what do you do? Seriously, this applies to chicks big time as well. The bjs shouldn't stop because you have a ring on your finger What you do to hook em, you do to keep em 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Adisa said: Byron said: I think if a man is romantic before you're officially together, but then drops the romance after he's "won" your affection, then he wasn't expressing his sincere feelings
So feelings are set in stone, huh? Most people would say feelings, like a lot of things, change over time. luv4u, though, was talking about an almost immediate dropping of the romance once he's got her...not something that slowly and subtly diminishes "over time". Romantic gestures, I believe, are based on thought more than feeling. Remember the old cliche "It's the thought that counts" ? So, if I wine and dine and romance a woman I have feelings for, but I think that she doens't really appreciate those gestures (or appreciate me, for that matter), takes me for granted, is a gold-digger, etc., what should I do--continue to go with my feelings or succumb to my thoughts?
 Um, you should dump her...lol...and I would like to think that a woman who behaves that way would effect how you feel about her anyway. | |
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Spats said: Byron said: Alright alright alright...lol
I think if a man is romantic before you're officially together, but then drops the romance after he's "won" your affection, then he wasn't expressing his sincere feelings...he was using romance as a tool to bag his prey, nothing more. There are men who are just not romantic and never will be...nothing wrong with that. But you'll see that in the beginning already, so it won't be a surprise later on. Some women don't want romance, makes them feel uncomfortable. Um...I'm sure there's a third catagory in there somewhere...lol...my mind is drugged right now, so can't think of what it would be. Anyway, I think it's completely natural to want and even expect your partner to express their love, appreciation and passion for you. I don't think it's enough to constantly tell yourself that you "know" you're loved so they don't have to tell you or show you...yet at the same time, you DO have to have security in the knowledge that they do love, value and appreciate you so that you're not constantly pushing for them to show it and tell it. In that case it starts to seem as if the things they DO say and do are overlooked, mean nothing...you're basically only wanting constant reassurance at that point. And there's a significant difference between wanting passion and romance in your relationship, and wanting reassurance that they still love you. Am I forgiven?...lol 
[Edited 10/3/06 0:40am] Well i don't romance them or pursue them in the beginning. So i am not doing anything wrong. I never said you were...but you said I was. | |
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Spats said: luv4u said: Yes, you're forgiven Byron
Yeah, but he is not forgiven for questioning how much of a man i am. Haven't heard an apology for that. You question guys' manhood all the time...it's one of your shticks. And you've given me more than enough reason to question yours on a multitude of threads. | |
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Byron said: Spats said: Well i don't romance them or pursue them in the beginning. So i am not doing anything wrong. I never said you were...but you said I was. You are. | |
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Byron said: Spats said: Yeah, but he is not forgiven for questioning how much of a man i am. Haven't heard an apology for that. You question guys' manhood all the time...it's one of your shticks. And you've given me more than enough reason to question yours on a multitude of threads. Why? | |
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Spats said: Byron said: I never said you were...but you said I was. You are. That's probably why I'll never date you.  | |
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Spats said: Byron said: You question guys' manhood all the time...it's one of your shticks. And you've given me more than enough reason to question yours on a multitude of threads. Why? The list would take too long to compile...and I think it's extremely obvious to everyone except to you (and in reality I think it's even obvious to you). | |
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Byron said: Spats said: Why? The list would take too long to compile...and I think it's extremely obvious to everyone except to you (and in reality I think it's even obvious to you). Seriously, why? | |
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luv4u said: A lot of relationships die coz the spark is allowed to die. Just coz you romanced a woman with flowers, phone calls, internet chat, dates, etc. at the very beginning, and now you got her. So why stop doing those special things that you romanced her with to get her?
I think it should always be an ongoing part of a relationship. But once the guy gets the girl, it stops. How many of you keep the romance alive in your relationship with your special woman? And what do you do? Luv, you've made too broad a statement. Not all men are that way. I still bring flowers to my wife and give her mushy cards just cause. | |
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FuzzyD said: Please forgive my female post... I have to agree with some of what Byron said... my husband has never really been one of these men who showers women with flowers etc, BUT, I have to say when he is romantic it makes it more special... he writes poetry and songs for me and he even drove almost 100 miles to deliver me college essay when I got the date to hand it in, wrong. If your husband writes poetry and songs for you and drove 100 miles to deliver a paper for you at the last moment, then he most definitely is romantic...
Too many people seem to think "romantic" is flying your date/spouse to an exotic location for dinner, and staging a fireworks display as an orchestra plays beneath the balcony you're eating dinner on...when I think in reality "romantic" is anything someone does that makes your heart melt, makes you sigh, makes you feel truly and sincerely loved. | |
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Byron said: FuzzyD said: Please forgive my female post... I have to agree with some of what Byron said... my husband has never really been one of these men who showers women with flowers etc, BUT, I have to say when he is romantic it makes it more special... he writes poetry and songs for me and he even drove almost 100 miles to deliver me college essay when I got the date to hand it in, wrong. If your husband writes poetry and songs for you and drove 100 miles to deliver a paper for you at the last moment, then he most definitely is romantic...
Too many people seem to think "romantic" is flying your date/spouse to an exotic location for dinner, and staging a fireworks display as an orchestra plays beneath the balcony you're eating dinner on...when I think in reality "romantic" is anything someone does that makes your heart melt, makes you sigh, makes you feel truly and sincerely loved. Change "date/spouse" to the man. Because that's usually ends up doing it. | |
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Byron said: ...when I think in reality "romantic" is anything someone does that makes your heart melt, makes you sigh, makes you feel truly and sincerely loved.
To me, that would be making sure the bills are paid & the house is taken care of so my wife & family are financially secure. |
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Spats said: Byron said: If your husband writes poetry and songs for you and drove 100 miles to deliver a paper for you at the last moment, then he most definitely is romantic...
Too many people seem to think "romantic" is flying your date/spouse to an exotic location for dinner, and staging a fireworks display as an orchestra plays beneath the balcony you're eating dinner on...when I think in reality "romantic" is anything someone does that makes your heart melt, makes you sigh, makes you feel truly and sincerely loved. Change "date/spouse" to the man. Because that's usually ends up doing it. Who "usually ends up doing it" doesn't change the definition in my eyes. | |
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uPtoWnNY said: Byron said: ...when I think in reality "romantic" is anything someone does that makes your heart melt, makes you sigh, makes you feel truly and sincerely loved.
To me, that would be making sure the bills are paid & the house is taken care of so my wife & family are financially secure. So...someone would make you feel loved by taking care of your bills, house payments and family for you?..lol  | |
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