IrresistibleB1tch said:

IrresistibleB1tch said:

Yeah, I've got a friend who has a job with lots of benefits, like dinners at restaurants, free tickets for fashion shows and theater productions. That occassionally benefits me as well when he invites me along as his companion.

scififilmnerd said:

sweeeeet! who wouldn't want friends like that?!

I had a friend. I gave him benefits and now he's my husband

I don't see any problem with this. As long as things are spelled/spelt (?) out from the start and you treat each other with respect, what's not to like?

But, in my experience, these things always fizzle out after a while. There's always a power struggle of sorts. One person always likes the other more than the other usually, even if it's 51%/49%.
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Dont believe in it. Almost always one of the parties has deeper feelings for the other. I would rather look for more than meaningless sex. I can jerk off for that.

i think it all depends on being able to maintain zero expectations when you have a friend with benefits. one day, you or the friend might take the benefits away for whatever reason, so you really have to appreciate the friendship part as much if not more than the benefits part.

Anx said:

That's why I was never friends with them. I can't do that. I could do the physical-only relationship (though, I've no interest in that these days), but I can't then, like, hang out the next day and get lunch or whatever. If you're doing that, then why aren't you dating? Doesn't make sense to me.

Anx said:

Aaaaah, see this is where the term confuses me. I don't mean doing it with an actual friend; I guess I mean having an arrangement with someone. You know, the 2am phone call friend. I wouldn't intentionally get involved with actual mates. Too much to lose!

I have got involved with friends but it has always gone back to being friends again.

Only if you need insulin.

onenitealone said:

i dunno. i was brought up by a hippie. i shouldn't even talk about shit like this.

Anx said:

I think the term I meant was 'Fuck Buddy'.

onenitealone said:

though but with fuck buddies, friendship is the benefit.

Anx said:

Absolutely.

Well, that and certain other benefits.

onenitealone said:

well, uh, ya know. yeah.

Anx said:

Anx you're so coy. I imagine you fluttering your eyes behind a fan right now.

onenitealone said:

since the truth is nowhere as pretty, i'm just gonna let you run with that image.

Anx said:

i actually prefer the "friends with benefits" arrangement to official relationships.

Here're my benefits:

I usually cook breakfast the next morning ... I'll actually call you again ... I'll still take you out even if there's no ... ahem...benefits that night.

Those "benefits" better be all the Coke I can drink...

It would never work for me. I want love more than sex. If there was love, we'd be more than friends.

Byron said:

That's what I'm talking about...

Shanti1 said:

I CAN'T FIND MINE!! I ALWAYS run into him when I'm not looking for him. And the last time I saw him he was so flirty with me and I wasn't in the mood. but now I'm in so much heat, I feel like I have the sun in my crotch.

Byron said:

I love your sig.. I sure have missed chatting with my org husband Hope you are well handsome!

Shanti1 said:

Just getting over an illness, but other than that I could be much worse...lol Hope you're smiling as well, gorgeous...

angelfishseven said:

that...Is awesome. Well played.

what happens when the friend starts dating someone else, whom he/she really likes? you're gonna resent it, no more friendship! no friends with bennies, if you want to stay friends

purplerein said:

There is an understanding that it's temporary, that it only happens when both parties are single.

I'm still friends with all my friends that were once friends with benefits. No friendships ended here.

JustErin said:

I still like your cans.