Alright, I was in South Padre Island on business last week. I went to a bar for a late lunch and a couple of beers around 4. Met this bartender chick, very cute I might add. We talked for a few minutes and a while later she walked by and gave me the cute look back smile. So I asked her if we could hang after she got off work. Im not a fan of picking up one nighters but this felt a bit different. After we went and had a few beers and had a hell of a time, I stayed at her place and since I kinda dig her didnt pursue sex. We had some good times and next thing you know its 830 am and we both have to go to work. Ill get to the point now, I just wanted to set it up right.

She asked me for my number first, so we exchanged #'s. I live 8 hours away in Dallas, so here is the quandry. She and I are both very busy, therefore im not real sure if there is future hook up opportunities. I would like to, but that shit gets difficult. Also, after the smoke clears was there really a connection, or an out-of-town alcohol connection because we just met. She made comments like she would like to see me some other time but im not convinced because we all say things in a moment that are not likely.

Truth be told, I would like to see her again, but with such a distance between us, im not sure if i should allow myself to get my hopes up. It was a good time, but im not sure if i wouldnt have been better off just leaving with a goodbye and goodluck.

I dont usually have questions about this shit, but its been rattling around in my head for the last 3 days. i would appreciate any opinions.

She probably sleeps with every guy there "on business". Don't do it to yourself.



Smooches;)

Dont think that hasnt crossed my mind. It is a small island, she made several comments about the fact that everyone talks on the island and that it might not look good. When we went to the local bar, it had a different feel than the usual hook-up and go place. She seemed concerned about her reputation there. Maybe it was a front, but i cant be sure about it.

Thankyou please for take my advice You must take her against her will and keep her in a cage. All womans in US&A like a sexy time, but sometimes they like a sexy time with brother or cousin instead of Borat. It is hard alone to let a woman walk on street with chain around ankle that is why Premier Nazarbayev pass law to make all womans to occupy 3' x 3' cage 23 hors a day, only to be releasing for purposes of sexy time!

If she's been rattling around in your head for 3 days, there's something there. At least on your end. It's worth checking out. Won't know unless you try.

CarrieMpls said:

Yeah probably, but I need to wait until the dust settles. I guess, fuck I dont know.

Chill out and quit thinking about it so much.

If she calls, or you call her and ya's have free time and wanna meet, cool!

Maybe ya's won't even get along next time, and then you'll know and you could move on.

No sense in wondering. Just let whatever be whatever.

DarkKnight1 said:

I don't think it needs to be that complicated. If you like her and want to see her again, then fuck, call her and see if she's game. If she's not, you've lost nothing and hell, you don't even have to see her again. If she is and it doesn't work out, then it doesn't work out and you've learned a little about what you can and can't put up with in dating.

luv4all7 said:

Same damn thing I told myself, but its different being in the other chair for once.

DarkKnight1 said:

Well, you obviously like her from what ya saw. Those drunken all nite bullshit sessions can be really awesome. Yanno? I say, you's need to atleast go out again, just to see.

luv4all7 said:

I think that is why, for the first time, it is an issue for me. Because I dont fall for this dumb shit. Hell, Ive got a date tomorrow night and im not that focused on it.

DarkKnight1 said:

Awwwww. It sounds like you really like her. That's awesome!!!!

luv4all7 said:

What you call awesome, I call fucked up. Im no longer interested in long distance fuck buddies.

DarkKnight1 said:

Well, I just don't know what to say. I'm the LAST fuckin' person to give "dating" advice, since I've never "dated" anybody in my life.

Apparently you did not read the "begining of a relationship" thread. You should disregard ALL advice I give on the subject.

luv4all7 said:

the fact that you are kind enough to respond and give a genuine opinion makes you both great and qualified.

Sounds like there was a connection, so go for it.....but I would suggest maybe meet up somewhere in between ur respective locales....that way u don't feel the "hook up" vibe and she doesn't have to worry about the locals on the island, if that really was a hang up for her...she can let her hair down and not worry about her "rep" so to speak....

but like Carrie said....u won't know if u don't try....and to me nothing is worse than sitting back wondering "what if", u know?

Don't worry about the outcome. If you enjoyed each others company and both want to maybe do it again, just do it and enjoy the time. 'fin.

CarrieMpls said:

co-signed.

I appreciate the responses so far.

I say talk to her and see how she acts now that you are back home. If she is still as interested as she was with you standing in front of her face, I think you should make plans to see her again.

But then again, if you have no interest at all in getting involved with someone seriously right now and do not want a long distance fuck buddy, I think you should just forget her totally.

Borat said:

This alter's not doing very well. Just thought you should know.

reneGade20 said:

Good advice.. exactly what I was thinking...

DarkKnight1 said:

Hey, quit flirting with luv4! You've already got two women waiting in the wing, Don Juan.
[Edited 9/30/06 19:52pm]

By the way: Stop obsessing and call the girl. Life is short.

U went out with a loaded gun didn't U?

Just wait to see if she calls you. But if you get the feeling she is loose then stay far away.

christos7 said:

Different kind of gun.

DarkKnight1 said:

I think you just answered your own question.

CarrieMpls said:

Good advice. What she said.

I was going to say go with the flow and just see how things turn out. Meet up when you can, get to know each other, have fun. See if anything develops.

But you've already said you don't want the long-distance thing.

In which case, I still say go with the flow - she's obviously made an impression - but just keep everything realistic. A lot to gain, but not too much lost. Yet.

I hope you're feeling better, anyway.