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Printablechristos7 said: lol...
Hey MrMisha...how much did U blow man?  Huh? I'm drunk, make things simple 
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evenstar3 said: Spats said: That's too bad. I don't know why any guy would want his girlfriend acting like his mom. No one's perfect, Spats, and people who pretend they are (like you) are really pathetic. I don't pretend to be perfect. | |
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MsMisha319 said: christos7 said: lol...
Hey MrMisha...how much did U blow man? Huh? I'm drunk, make things simple
Smooches;) He was playin cards right? Well...did he win? | |
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christos7 said: MsMisha319 said: Huh? I'm drunk, make things simple
Smooches;) He was playin cards right? Well...did he win? No, he didn't win 
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JustErin said: I agree that this is more like mother behaviour than girlfriend behaviour. You have the right to be upset if he comes home late, but you do not have the right to tell him when to come home.
I'm with u on this one  ...he did the right thing in letting u know he would be home later so as u don't worry ...but asking permission sounds rather like ur controlling ...just my  ....eithier way its ur relationship ...he's obviously comfortable in feeling that he needs to ask ur permission  | |
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MsMisha319 said: christos7 said: Yes, and b wearin somethin sexy when he get's home.. b asleep on the couch 2 if possible.
He's sitting here now and he loved your comment
Smooches;) It's not all your fault though, the dude is whipped with a capital W. I have to question any guy that would want his girlfriend treating him like a little boy. he must have mommy issues. | |
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MsMisha319 said: Spats said: Why is it too late for a man to come in with a girlfriend and child? You and the kid are supposed to be asleep anyways. Let him do what he wants. if you can't sleep unless you know he's home then you have issues. Well, you're just an asshole boyfriend or a sorry as girlfriend No issues here Smooches;) Why am i an A-hole boyfriend? I have never told a girlfriend what she can and can't do. They could stay out as long as they wanted. | |
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Spats said: MsMisha319 said: He's sitting here now and he loved your comment
Smooches;) It's not all your fault though, the dude is whipped with a capital W. I have to question any guy that would want his girlfriend treating him like a little boy. he must have mommy issues. My fiancee said get off the computer and get a girl it's not that serious
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MsMisha319 said: Spats said: It's not all your fault though, the dude is whipped with a capital W. I have to question any guy that would want his girlfriend treating him like a little boy. he must have mommy issues. My fiancee said get off the computer and get a girl it's not that serious
Smooches;) If you ignore it, it will go away.... | |
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Spats said: MsMisha319 said: Well, you're just an asshole boyfriend or a sorry as girlfriend No issues here Smooches;) Why am i an A-hole boyfriend? I have never told a girlfriend what she can and can't do. They could stay out as long as they wanted. To each his own, I said, damn Smooches;) | |
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MsMisha319 said: Spats said: It's not all your fault though, the dude is whipped with a capital W. I have to question any guy that would want his girlfriend treating him like a little boy. he must have mommy issues. My fiancee said get off the computer and get a girl it's not that serious
Smooches;) He's in denial. | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: MsMisha319 said: My fiancee said get off the computer and get a girl it's not that serious
Smooches;) If you ignore it, it will go away.... Remember the agreement we made to stay away from each other? Ya should Stick to it.  | |
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Spats said: MsMisha319 said: My fiancee said get off the computer and get a girl it's not that serious
Smooches;) He's in denial. It's cool. Have a drink 
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Ocean said: ....he did the right thing in letting u know he would be home later so as u don't worry ...but asking permission sounds rather like ur controlling ...
I agree. I would call too, just to let my wife know I was okay. But that's it. No way in hell would I let someone tell me what time to be home. If a woman I was with started acting like my mother, she's getting the boot. I would never do that to her - if she wants to hang out, go ahead, just give me a courtesy call. That's why I could never live with anyone. I have zero tolerance for nonsense. |
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Spats said: MsMisha319 said: Well, it was nice to hear everyone's opinion on the matter
, but I handled it my own way. I think some of you were getting the wrong idea from my postings. I don't think I'm his mother, I just think that it's disrespectful for him to come in very late. I hate waiting up AND the reason why I wait up is because I can't sleep until I know he is home safely. I don't believe that is controlling and I am not a jealous girlfriend.
To the person who asked why I don't go out with him, I choose not to because I've been working my ass off all week and I wanted to stay home and read my Star and People magazines 
It was considerate of him to call, he is a very considerate man. Being that he doesn't make a habit of staying out late, I didn't make a big deal about it. I was really just posting something because I was bored. I had every intention of letting him in. However, I stand behind my statement that I believe that 2:30am is too late to be coming in when you have a significant other and child. Maybe that's just me, but I make no apologies for that. Thankfully, he respects that. Every relationship is different, so, to each his own Smooches;) Why is it too late for a man to come in with a girlfriend and child? You and the kid are supposed to be asleep anyways. Let him do what he wants. if you can't sleep unless you know he's home then you have issues. In the spirit of Spats here's my suggestion: Loosen all the entryway light bulbs so they won't go on, set traps, so he trips when he finally DOES come home (marbles work good) he's probably been drinking, so he'll be relaxed when he hits the floor and won't injure himself too too badly.  The next morning, pretend you don't know where the marbles came from. [Edited 10/1/06 10:37am] | |
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I agree with Spats. oh noes, prince is gonna soo me!!1! | |
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Well, sorta. I think that whatever is ok with the people involved in the relationship is ok. Nobody else's business as long as they're happy.
But I have a hard time imagining being ok with the scenario as described. oh noes, prince is gonna soo me!!1! | |
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HereToRockYourWorld said: Well, sorta. I think that whatever is ok with the people involved in the relationship is ok. Nobody else's business as long as they're happy.
But I have a hard time imagining being ok with the scenario as described. That's what I'd do if SPATS were my significant other. I don't believe in boyfriend abuse, but I'd make an exception with him. "you and the kid should be asleep anyways"... [Edited 10/1/06 11:11am] | |
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HereToRockYourWorld said: Well, sorta. I think that whatever is ok with the people involved in the relationship is ok. Nobody else's business as long as they're happy.
But I have a hard time imagining being ok with the scenario as described. But when she asks advice on it it becomes people's business. Any guy that would be happy with that scenario is whipped and wants a mommy. And any woman that has no problem with that scenario likes to be her boyfriends mommy. [Edited 10/1/06 16:22pm] | |
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Spats said:[quote] HereToRockYourWorld said: Well, sorta. I think that whatever is ok with the people involved in the relationship is ok. Nobody else's business as long as they're happy.
But I have a hard time imagining being ok with the scenario as described. But when she asks advice on it it becomes people's business. Any guy that would be happy with that scenario is whipped and wants a mommy. And any woman that has no problem with that scenario likes to be her boyfriends mommy.
[Edited 10/1/06 16:22pm] [/quote No mom I know would do the lights out/marble thing, | |
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xplnyrslf said:[quote] Spats said: HereToRockYourWorld said: Well, sorta. I think that whatever is ok with the people involved in the relationship is ok. Nobody else's business as long as they're happy.
But I have a hard time imagining being ok with the scenario as described. But when she asks advice on it it becomes people's business. Any guy that would be happy with that scenario is whipped and wants a mommy. And any woman that has no problem with that scenario likes to be her boyfriends mommy.
[Edited 10/1/06 16:22pm] [/quote No mom I know would do the lights out/marble thing, I was not talking about that. I was talking about a guy asking permission fro his girlfriend and her ordering him home. | |
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Spats said: xplnyrslf said: But when she asks advice on it it becomes people's business. Any guy that would be happy with that scenario is whipped and wants a mommy. And any woman that has no problem with that scenario likes to be her boyfriends mommy.
[Edited 10/1/06 16:22pm] [/quote No mom I know would do the lights out/marble thing, I was not talking about that. I was talking about a guy asking permission fro his girlfriend and her ordering him home. Oh. OK. I believe when you have a family, there's a little more responsibility than as a single guy with a girlfriend. As far as role playing, she's not a mother "figure". She's the mother of their child who has legit concerns. It's a hell of alot easier to get out of a relationship when there's conflicts like this without a child involved, and it sounds as though the issue has been touched on before. Do you have any children??? [Edited 10/1/06 17:33pm] | |
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xplnyrslf said: Spats said: I was not talking about that. I was talking about a guy asking permission fro his girlfriend and her ordering him home. Oh. OK. I believe when you have a family, there's a little more responsibility than as a single guy with a girlfriend. As far as role playing, she's not a mother "figure". She's the mother of their child who has legit concerns. It's a hell of alot easier to get out of a relationship when there's conflicts like this without a child involved, and it sounds as though the issue has been touched on before. Do you have any children??? [Edited 10/1/06 17:33pm] What responsibility? The little kid is at home asleep. What has that got to do with a guy out late with his buddies. She should act like a mother to her kid. But not her boyfriend. | |
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Spats said: xplnyrslf said: Oh. OK. I believe when you have a family, there's a little more responsibility than as a single guy with a girlfriend. As far as role playing, she's not a mother "figure". She's the mother of their child who has legit concerns. It's a hell of alot easier to get out of a relationship when there's conflicts like this without a child involved, and it sounds as though the issue has been touched on before. Do you have any children??? [Edited 10/1/06 17:33pm] What responsibility? The little kid is at home asleep. What has that got to do with a guy out late with his buddies. She should act like a mother to her kid. But not her boyfriend. Responsibility to the family. And that means accountability. She's taking care of the child so he can be out with buddies. He needs to be considerate of the fact she's up late worried.(the later he's out the more beer he drinks, then drives home etc.)If she were out with girlfriends until 2;30 leaving him with the child, I take it you'd have the same understanding as would the man in this relationship?? | |
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xplnyrslf said: Spats said: What responsibility? The little kid is at home asleep. What has that got to do with a guy out late with his buddies. She should act like a mother to her kid. But not her boyfriend. Responsibility to the family. And that means accountability. She's taking care of the child so he can be out with buddies. He needs to be considerate of the fact she's up late worried.(the later he's out the more beer he drinks, then drives home etc.)If she were out with girlfriends until 2;30 leaving him with the child, I take it you'd have the same understanding as would the man in this relationship?? She's worrying and ordering him home like a MOM. Nobody should be ordering anyone home in relationship and nobody should be asking permission to do anything. That's just whacked behavior. | |
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You are engaged to a man, not a boy. When he starts acting like a boy instead of a man, dont complain. | |
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Spats said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: If you ignore it, it will go away.... Remember the agreement we made to stay away from each other? Ya should Stick to it.  | |
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dreamfactory313 said: You are engaged to a man, not a boy. When he starts acting like a boy instead of a man, dont complain.
You got it. He has already got a mother. | |
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I agree with the posts on this thread that find something wrong with the dynamic here as described.
Why not have a duplicate set of keys made for him as soon as possible? It sounds deeper, the way it was initially described, than a matter of needing another set of keys. Sounds like a parent/child dynamic. If that's working for y'all, fine. Wouldn't work for me, though, nor for most of the men I know. | |
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What is concerning to me is the language used in the initial post: " I told my fiance to be home before 2 a.m....".
I believe wo adults in a committed relationship should most certainly discuss with one another their individual wants or needs and, as a result, that concessions must be made from each side for the greater good of said relationship - but I do not think it conducive to a healthy relationship to "tell" one another what one must, or must not, do. | |
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