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I have to say... I think this kind of thing is slightly bizzare...
I am 31, happily married for 11 years. Right from the start if I wanted to go out I went out and if he wanted to go out he did. We never said anything about the expected time of arrival... if it was going to be very late then a phone call would suffice to stop any worry. Granted, now we are a few years older it is a bit different - I don't like him getting drunk as he suffers the next day and I have to put up with that! But I rarely give him a hard time over it. I HAVE to respect and trust what he wants to do or how on earth can I expect that in return! I suggest that you have a serious talk now as if this bothers you and it continues when you are married, it might be difficult to cope with. Things like that can cause emotions to over flow... It might seem small and insignificant to some but if it really bothers you then you need to have a serious talk with him...If he is considerate enough to call and let you know he wants to stay out later... chances are he will be upset that you are concerned. Why does it bother you if he wants to stay out later than 2am...? One last question - why don't you go out with him and then you can both stay out late or come home before 2am? | |
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There's no way I'd text my wife to ask permission to stay out late.
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fathermcmeekle said: There's no way I'd text my wife to ask permission to stay out late.
That is, If I had a wife.  | |
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fathermcmeekle said: fathermcmeekle said: There's no way I'd text my wife to ask permission to stay out late.
That is, If I had a wife. Or friends to go out with. | |
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fathermcmeekle said: fathermcmeekle said: That is, If I had a wife. Or friends to go out with. Or a phone come to think of it. | |
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FuzzyD said: I have to say... I think this kind of thing is slightly bizzare...
I am 31, happily married for 11 years. Right from the start if I wanted to go out I went out and if he wanted to go out he did. We never said anything about the expected time of arrival... if it was going to be very late then a phone call would suffice to stop any worry. Granted, now we are a few years older it is a bit different - I don't like him getting drunk as he suffers the next day and I have to put up with that! But I rarely give him a hard time over it. I HAVE to respect and trust what he wants to do or how on earth can I expect that in return! I suggest that you have a serious talk now as if this bothers you and it continues when you are married, it might be difficult to cope with. Things like that can cause emotions to over flow... It might seem small and insignificant to some but if it really bothers you then you need to have a serious talk with him...If he is considerate enough to call and let you know he wants to stay out later... chances are he will be upset that you are concerned. Why does it bother you if he wants to stay out later than 2am...? One last question - why don't you go out with him and then you can both stay out late or come home before 2am?  | |
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Is there a reason why your telling him when to come home? And then staying u p to make sure he comes in? Not bein' ignorant, but if theres a reason for it, like you don't trust him for whatever reason, you's shouldn't be together.
If it's just because your a jealous and controling person, again, I'm not being ignorant, but you need to get over it and you shouldn't be in a relationship in the first place until you have those issues worked out. | |
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Spats said: MsMisha319 said: I told my fiancee to be home before 2am and he just texted me asking if he could come home at 2:30am because he's playing cards! Should I let him in? It's not like I'm sleeping, but it's the principle of it.
Smooches;) Oh good lord. He calls himself a man???? He is asking permission???? I think i am going to puke. And why is it any of your business when he comes home. Just go to sleep and dream about your wedding or whatever women like to dream about.  | |
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fathermcmeekle said: fathermcmeekle said: Or friends to go out with. Or a phone come to think of it.  It'll be alright, Meekle. | |
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I agree that this is more like mother behaviour than girlfriend behaviour. You have the right to be upset if he comes home late, but you do not have the right to tell him when to come home. | |
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JustErin said: I agree that this is more like mother behaviour than girlfriend behaviour. You have the right to be upset if he comes home late, but you do not have the right to tell him when to come home.
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The only correct response to his call is...
"Of course you can Honey. Thanks for calling so I won't worry." He'll be home by 2:30 and feel like a man. Saying anything else means next time he's late, he won't call at all and he'll think your a nag, and he had more fun being single. No More Haters on the Internet. |
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Mach said: JustErin said: I agree that this is more like mother behaviour than girlfriend behaviour. You have the right to be upset if he comes home late, but you do not have the right to tell him when to come home.
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brownsugar said: to each their own. every relationship is different. i think it was considerate of him to call you. i think it was even better that he was considerate enough to think about how you felt and came home. but i don't think it would've been a big deal if he called you to let you know and you just simply went to sleep. as long as he doesnt make a habit out of it it shouldn't be a problem. A man coming in late doesn't bother me unless its all the time. besides i dont want him up in my ass when i come in late
Agreed. If it were me and we had plans at 2am (  ) I might be upset, but otherwise honestly I'd have been long asleep before that time anyway. |
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If he has any sense he wouldn't marry someone so controlling because its not going to last. Seriously if I was his friend and I heard this story I would tell him to run. | |
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Well, it was nice to hear everyone's opinion on the matter  , but I handled it my own way. I think some of you were getting the wrong idea from my postings. I don't think I'm his mother, I just think that it's disrespectful for him to come in very late. I hate waiting up AND the reason why I wait up is because I can't sleep until I know he is home safely. I don't believe that is controlling and I am not a jealous girlfriend.
To the person who asked why I don't go out with him, I choose not to because I've been working my ass off all week and I wanted to stay home and read my Star and People magazines 
It was considerate of him to call, he is a very considerate man. Being that he doesn't make a habit of staying out late, I didn't make a big deal about it. I was really just posting something because I was bored. I had every intention of letting him in. However, I stand behind my statement that I believe that 2:30am is too late to be coming in when you have a significant other and child. Maybe that's just me, but I make no apologies for that. Thankfully, he respects that. Every relationship is different, so, to each his own Smooches;) | |
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fathermcmeekle said: fathermcmeekle said: Or friends to go out with. Or a phone come to think of it.   .........Gimme your Doughnut,,,,,, | |
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MsMisha319 said: Well, it was nice to hear everyone's opinion on the matter
, but I handled it my own way. I think some of you were getting the wrong idea from my postings. I don't think I'm his mother, I just think that it's disrespectful for him to come in very late. I hate waiting up AND the reason why I wait up is because I can't sleep until I know he is home safely. I don't believe that is controlling and I am not a jealous girlfriend.
To the person who asked why I don't go out with him, I choose not to because I've been working my ass off all week and I wanted to stay home and read my Star and People magazines
It was considerate of him to call, he is a very considerate man. Being that he doesn't make a habit of staying out late, I didn't make a big deal about it. I was really just posting something because I was bored. I had every intention of letting him in. However, I stand behind my statement that I believe that 2:30am is too late to be coming in when you have a significant other and child. Maybe that's just me, but I make no apologies for that. Thankfully, he respects that. Every relationship is different, so, to each his own Smooches;) Why is it too late for a man to come in with a girlfriend and child? You and the kid are supposed to be asleep anyways. Let him do what he wants. if you can't sleep unless you know he's home then you have issues. | |
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evenstar3 said: Spats said: It's not the same as that situation above. okay, maybe you're not understanding. i've done basically the same thing, sometimes for the right reason and sometimes not.  That's too bad. I don't know why any guy would want his girlfriend acting like his mom. | |
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Spats said: MsMisha319 said: Well, it was nice to hear everyone's opinion on the matter
, but I handled it my own way. I think some of you were getting the wrong idea from my postings. I don't think I'm his mother, I just think that it's disrespectful for him to come in very late. I hate waiting up AND the reason why I wait up is because I can't sleep until I know he is home safely. I don't believe that is controlling and I am not a jealous girlfriend.
To the person who asked why I don't go out with him, I choose not to because I've been working my ass off all week and I wanted to stay home and read my Star and People magazines
It was considerate of him to call, he is a very considerate man. Being that he doesn't make a habit of staying out late, I didn't make a big deal about it. I was really just posting something because I was bored. I had every intention of letting him in. However, I stand behind my statement that I believe that 2:30am is too late to be coming in when you have a significant other and child. Maybe that's just me, but I make no apologies for that. Thankfully, he respects that. Every relationship is different, so, to each his own Smooches;) Why is it too late for a man to come in with a girlfriend and child? You and the kid are supposed to be asleep anyways. Let him do what he wants. if you can't sleep unless you know he's home then you have issues. Well, you're just an asshole boyfriend or a sorry as girlfriend No issues here Smooches;) | |
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Spats said: evenstar3 said: okay, maybe you're not understanding. i've done basically the same thing, sometimes for the right reason and sometimes not. That's too bad. I don't know why any guy would want his girlfriend acting like his mom. No one's perfect, Spats, and people who pretend they are (like you) are really pathetic. | |
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evenstar3 said: Spats said: That's too bad. I don't know why any guy would want his girlfriend acting like his mom. No one's perfect, Spats, and people who pretend they are (like you) are really pathetic. Agreed Smooches;) | |
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Yes, and b wearin somethin sexy when he get's home.. b asleep on the couch 2 if possible. | |
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MsMisha319 said: I told my fiancee to be home before 2am and he just texted me asking if he could come home at 2:30am because he's playing cards! Should I let him in? It's not like I'm sleeping, but it's the principle of it.
Smooches;) I think it is decent of him to call you to let you know he is coming in later, so you don't have to worry. I don't think he should have made it sound like he is asking for permission though. Your man is out there having fun. Let him have fun!  Exactly what principles are you referring to? Anyway, greet him when he comes home and make it 5 a.m. together  | |
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christos7 said: Yes, and b wearin somethin sexy when he get's home.. b asleep on the couch 2 if possible.
He's sitting here now and he loved your comment
Smooches;) | |
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billyjackbitch said: MsMisha319 said: I told my fiancee to be home before 2am and he just texted me asking if he could come home at 2:30am because he's playing cards! Should I let him in? It's not like I'm sleeping, but it's the principle of it.
Smooches;) I think it is decent of him to call you to let you know he is coming in later, so you don't have to worry. I don't think he should have made it sound like he is asking for permission though. Your man is out there having fun. Let him have fun! Exactly what principles are you referring to? Anyway, greet him when he comes home and make it 5 a.m. together No principles involved, I was making a joke.....from FRIDAY...anyway.....I did greet him when he came in. Smooches;) [Edited 9/30/06 21:02pm] | |
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MsMisha319 said: christos7 said: Yes, and b wearin somethin sexy when he get's home.. b asleep on the couch 2 if possible.
He's sitting here now and he loved your comment
Smooches;) Clever guy!
Now go 2 bed -----> | |
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christos7 said: MsMisha319 said: He's sitting here now and he loved your comment
Smooches;) Clever guy!
Now go 2 bed -----> We're drinking and having a good time 
Smooches;) [Edited 9/30/06 21:07pm] | |
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lol...
Hey MrMisha...how much did U blow man? | |
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