She went in to the hospital a week and a half ago because she had diarrhea for 4 days and ended up passing out. Well while she was there they did tests and diagnosed her with breast cancer. The cancer has also spread to her lymph nodes. They thought that maybe it might be in her colon or stomach as well due to the diarrhea and the fact she had blood in her stool. The tests came back showing only an ulcer So she is back home and resting and hopefully if she gets enough sleep and food, she might go to Bingo Saturday I want nothing more right now than for her to get back to her life. Bingo has become such a great bonding for us. Thank you everyone for your thoughts and prayers

Oh, I'm glad she's home. That's good news!

God, what a relief. That made my day, dear.

thoughts and prayers bro.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

aww Richard that's wonderful news!!! awesome, hon

That is wonderful news. Being home again is a medicine unto itself.

I hope she will feel well enough to attend bingo on Sunday.

BEAUTIFUL

N42

Wonderful news!

i wonder if she would accept any radiation treatment to perhaps slow the progression of the cancer?
i know she doesn't want treatment but if she is feeling better maybe she might consent??

either way... i am so so glad she is back home!

thats great news 4 u and give ur grandma an xtra huge hug from all of us here

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That is WONDERFUL news!!!!!

One day at a time! And you's got good news for today!

great news!

THANK GOD!!!!
Oh, I'm seriously crying here...I'm so relieved for all of you, sweetie... I'll pass on the good news to our non-org friends

Never underestimate the power of Org prayer


Love you....

I love my granny. Her official name is "big momma" and my dad's mother is called gran. I like my mom's mother more becuase we've always gotten along. Life wouldn't be the same without her.

I'm so glad for you Supa! I was thinking about you this morning, wondering how things were going. I can go to sleep happy now.

I shall keep praying for you guys.

emm said:

I don't know. She went through triple bypass 5 years ago and battled a nasty recurring stomach infection and wasn't right for about 2 years after that surgery. She's 84 and feels like the combination of the surgery and the radiation would make her very ill or kill her. And you know, I can really sympathize with her feelings. My first reaction is to have her do something, especially when you know there is something medically that can be done. But I respect her decision because it is her body and her life and one of my great uncles had surgery and radiation, suffered incredibly and was dead a year later. She feels like if it's going to take her then she doesn't want to add the pain and suffering of the radiation. I told her I support whatever decision she makes.

Now you know what's really very strange? I went to visit her before leaving for San Francisco and spent 2 hours with her. About 15 minutes after I had gotten there, the phone rang and it was her friend Cecilia. I handed the phone off and they chatted for a couple minutes and then we resumed our conversation. Tuesday I called my dad to find out an update and I could tell he was agitated. We started talking and he told me that my grandma told him that she had a really weird dream. She dreamed that her cousin Cecilia came and brought her papers to sign I told my dad that Cecilia called but that I thought it was my grandma's friend and my dad said no, it was her cousin.

She lives in Maryland and apparently flew in to Cali. She and her husband did visit my grandma but not when my dad or my grandfather were there. My dad doesn't know if she signed whatever papers but how fuckin shady is that? They could have her signed something that forces her into treatment or god forbid gives them guardianship or even worse, gives them her house if she dies. What the fuck? Goddamned I hate how certain people act during times like this. There is always someone....

On the more positive side. This has really brought us much closer and also has brought me closer to my dad. My grandmother and I talked about all kinds of family issues and many people in the family have issues with others. I get along with everyone and my grandmother told me she was glad I came alone because she knew she could talk to me in a way she wouldn't be able to with others without worrying about them trying to fulfill personal agedas. She told me this story I had not heard before.

She said one day my father dropped me off at their house in just a diaper. Now my mother has always been a good mother and never neglectful. This time he was watching me because she was at work and he dropped me off so he could screw around. So my mother was being responsible, just wanted to clear that. You have no idea how much my mother has always tried her best to take care of us and for that I love her so much. Well my grandmother was crazed that I had no clothes on and when my mother came home to find us gone, she called my grandmother and she told her I was not with them. This of course sent my mother into worried frenzy but when my mother called back she told my mom that I was with them and that they would file to take custody of me if something like that happened again Basically my grandmother was fiercely protective of me and I felt so great knowing how much she really has loved me.

She cried and was telling me how she always tried to keep the family together, to no avail. Both my dad and unlce left the families they created, and she told me about how she tried intervening in my uncle and aunts marriage for the sake of the kids. She recognized that they were so wrapped up in their drama that they were neglecting the kids. And I'm not going to outright blame them for my cousins death but she lived the life she did for a reason. I can only wonder if they were more engaged instead of fighting if she would be alive today I have never seen my grandmother cry until the day of my cousins wake. In my whole life I never saw my grandmother cry and so when she knealed at the casket and sobbed, it really hurt me to see her so hurt. And you know, we were both crying by this time because of just how awful my cousin's death was. So damn senseless.....

Well she began telling me she knows how hard a time I had without my dad and that she tried and I told her not to worry and she said she was so proud of me for becoming such a nice young man. She said that I never asked them for anything, unlike others in the family, and that they were so proud of me and how I turned out. She absolutely beamed and said that she and my grandfather were so happy that I play bingo with them. She said that when my parents divorced, they were worried that we would hate them or not want anything to do with them and she said....but you never did. and she said it was just so important to them that we did not turn against them and she talked about how my grandfather gets jealous when I'm not going to bingo.....What? Flaco isn't coming!!??? Where is he going. Is he going to another bingo???? .... and my grandmother told him that I'm a young man and needs to have fun apart from the grandparents.

I told her how I missed out on my other grandmother and that it was really important that I not miss out with her. I was involved in my drama with my abusive relationship that I totally lost contact with my grandmother just trying to get through each day and then one day I find out she's dead and it's too late

I took the opportunity to let her know that I have made peace with my father and that I don't resent him for the past. That came to a great relief to her. I really wanted to provide the kind of peace she would need if she is to pass quickly. I told her how my cousins death has prompted me to seek the role of councelor. I mean it was such a hardcore conversation but it was so good. I was an absolute mess when I left I even cried my eyes out to the 2 nurses that were taking care of her and just thanking them for taking such good care of them.

Everyone thank you for caring
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Cool!



It's such a great feeling to make peace withyour past and tell your loved ones that you love them!!
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