luv4all7 said:

You're sounding like a mother their well being and safety is number one and if they are being irresponsible with them that's uncalled for.

luv4all7 said:

no, but like mach said, you need to make your expectations known
if they are picked up at 5:30 then what is an acceptable return time?
just try not to turn the situation into an arguement in front of the kids

I'm on the phone with my sister n law now.

They ARE just getting a bath now.

I am STILL on the phone with HER. Listening to her justify HIS actions.

luv4all7 said:

I really don't understand this. If my brother were acting like an asshole I would tell him so. Don't entertain her, just tell her in the future what the guidelines are and if they won't honor that then you should consider stricter action.

emm said:

No no, I'm not gonna do that. Thats what I'm doing all of this to avoid in the first place.

They tried to get me to make scheduled visits at the courthouse. I just figured that these people could be trusted and use good judgement. But, guess not.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Yeah. I'm totally not talking to them anymore. They just make me feel worse and stupid like what happened was no big deal and I'm being stupid. Sucks that they have to do that. I was willing to try and keep this a loving family, as much as that could be done under the circumstances.

luv4all7 said:

OMG! I have NO IDEA wtf is going on here, but that's one of the best replies I've ever read!!!

madartista said:

AWWWWW. Thanks.

The baby is back. My son is sleeping over.

luv4all7 said:

As he should be! Very nice.

luv4all7 said:

You already know what I think about all that.

Don't allow the in law to call the shots. It sets a very bad precedent.

gemini13 said:

I'm going to avoid contact with the whole family as much as possible. And anyone else who makes me feel weird and guilty.

luv4all7 said:

good idea

luv4all7 said:

Oh good. It's weird AND guilty.

luv4all7 said:

You go girl! Stand your ground... You will get stronger and more solid with every passing day. Unfortunatly it is a time game.....

Muse2NOPharaoh said:

"GAME" being the key word, since it looks like that's what it's gonna turn into.

Are you currently married? You said sister-in-law in the present tense. I can only imagine what strength is required for a divorce. When my boyfriend and I fight, that is upsetting enough to me.

luv4all7 said:

Be better than that and don't play the bullshit. Don't sink to his/their level.

Honey I am so pruod of you! Well done! The guys are right, one step at a time.

You're doing well babe

Stay at as much of a distance as possible if they make you feel that way

Dani, maybe I missed one of your threads explaining what happened exactly, but - from what's already posted - I can guess what's occured. I hope you and the kids are okay.

Anyone with an ounce of sense can see you love your kids dearly. You can see that by the photos you post. It must be very hard to deal with.

I hope the situation resolves itself soon and, no matter what, I'm sure your kids will know you love them. And that's the most important thing.

Take care.

Mach said:

You're doing great, Dani! It's so great to see you believing in yourself and being strong!!! Keep on keepin' on, girl!

luv4all7 said:

I wouldn't give them any credit. Set pick up and drop off times. I have a feeling you'll have to spell everything out specifically or they will manipulate every situation.
good luck

My pastor just called, and wants me to go there Monday to meet with him AND my husband.

luv4all7 said:

Oi! I would think that a "pastor" will want you to work it out. Not that working it out is a bad thing but YOU know your situation...do what's best for You and the KIDS.
like I said in my org note....he needs to get help FIRST.
on second thought...you can always tell your paster NO. If that's how you feel.
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luv4all7 said:

DON'T do it. Please do NOT do this. Right now is not the time for church talk. You need space and clarity and shorty's right. your husband needs help and your pastor isn't likely to be anything other than his cheerleader right now.


Don't be Eve. She was thrust into a man's world, the only woman in the whole scenario of creation and look what happened. She got played big time. She got played by Satan, blamed by Adam and condemned by God. Don't take the fall.....



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luv4all7 said:

NO NO NO NO AND NO!!

I'm not gonna go guys.

I mean rite now that is.

I'm nervous about calling and saying No, but I'm gonna do it.

luv4all7 said:

Don't entertain a conversation. Just say you are not interested and hang up. And don't answer the phone when it rings back right away!! And if they start bringing up your kids that is a sign of manipulation. You don't owe it to your kids to meet with the priest. You owe it to yourself and them to have peace in your life.
[Edited 9/29/06 10:54am]

luv4all7 said:

Bravo!

luv4all7 said:

stay strong, sweetie