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Why Are U Married? Those of you that know me...KNOW...I am no champion of the RITUAL of marriage. So looking at those of you who have tried it and are still married. Why did you marry?
Now I say this from a standpoint of how "being" married does not solidify your union or some of you would not be divorced, or in your second, third or whatever. But the married ones that lasted, lasted solely because they CHOSE TO STAY AND WORK....the ritual did not solidify the union and never will, or we wouldn't have divorces period. So....Why are you married? Is it for business purposes, property taxes, tax breaks, settled, desperation....what? Why? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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i don't want to get married. i think instead, i want to find a couple i really like and see if they'll adopt me or make me their long-term exchange student or something. i'd like to be a wacky live-in butler like mr. belvedere or alice. you KNOW alice got some brady action now and then. and really, i don't mind cooking or light cleaning. so that's my goal. i aim high. | |
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Dexy, I wanna be your midnight runner. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Anx said: i don't want to get married. i think instead, i want to find a couple i really like and see if they'll adopt me or make me their long-term exchange student or something. i'd like to be a wacky live-in butler like mr. belvedere or alice. you KNOW alice got some brady action now and then. and really, i don't mind cooking or light cleaning. so that's my goal. i aim high.
Or at least High!! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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INSATIABLE said: Dexy, I wanna be your midnight runner.
How is your stamina??? You will need an Dextensive Physical my dear! Whap! The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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I would have been married by now, if it had all gone as planned. But now I am glad it didn't, I guess.
I would have been married for love. I don't give a shit what others think of that, it's still a very sacred and possible union in my view. I think it has a lot to do with how your parents did together... my parents have been married over 30 years and they say it doesn't even feel like it. | |
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DexMSR said: Anx said: i don't want to get married. i think instead, i want to find a couple i really like and see if they'll adopt me or make me their long-term exchange student or something. i'd like to be a wacky live-in butler like mr. belvedere or alice. you KNOW alice got some brady action now and then. and really, i don't mind cooking or light cleaning. so that's my goal. i aim high.
Or at least High!! do you need a wacky live-in butler? i'm great with the one-liners, i make great curry dishes and i put out (which may not interest you, but there are always houseguests to consider). | |
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free sex for the first 3 months, like a comcast offer | |
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mrdespues said: I would have been married by now, if it had all gone as planned. But now I am glad it didn't, I guess.
I would have been married for love. I don't give a shit what others think of that, it's still a very sacred and possible union in my view. I think it has a lot to do with how your parents did together... my parents have been married over 30 years and they say it doesn't even feel like it. It's beautiful. And rare, unfortunately. There isn't one person in my family (excluding me and my stepsister) that hasn't been divorced at least once. Extended family, grandparents, you name it. I've got a healthy fright. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Fury said: free sex for the first 3 months, like a comcast offer
i am SO stealing that. | |
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DexMSR said: INSATIABLE said: Dexy, I wanna be your midnight runner.
How is your stamina??? You will need an Dextensive Physical my dear! Whap! You'd be shocked at your findings, especially my lack of experience. Just pat me on the head and move along. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Well you have been around mom and dad. They have been married 42 years now. They still love waking up to each other, falling asleep at each others side and the comfortable life they have created.
They deeply love the other. I worry should something happen to one, I will loose both. Same goes for my grandparents..... They are married 60 something years now... | |
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INSATIABLE said: DexMSR said: How is your stamina??? You will need an Dextensive Physical my dear! Whap! You'd be shocked at your findings, especially my lack of experience. Just pat me on the head and move along. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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INSATIABLE said: mrdespues said: I would have been married by now, if it had all gone as planned. But now I am glad it didn't, I guess.
I would have been married for love. I don't give a shit what others think of that, it's still a very sacred and possible union in my view. I think it has a lot to do with how your parents did together... my parents have been married over 30 years and they say it doesn't even feel like it. It's beautiful. And rare, unfortunately. There isn't one person in my family (excluding me and my stepsister) that hasn't been divorced at least once. Extended family, grandparents, you name it. I've got a healthy fright. Yep. It is very rare. Seems to be why I'm finding it so hard to find a "replacement". A lot of women I meet these days are jaded, bitter, secretly are jealous of and/or distrust men as a whole and I don't blame them, for the most part. Society is to blame, as usual. And MySpace. . [Edited 9/14/06 8:21am] | |
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: Well you have been around mom and dad. They have been married 42 years now. They still love waking up to each other, falling asleep at each others side and the comfortable life they have created.
They deeply love the other. I worry should something happen to one, I will loose both. Same goes for my grandparents..... They are married 60 something years now... that is THEIR perspective...what is yours my dear?? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Muse2NOPharaoh said: Well you have been around mom and dad. They have been married 42 years now. They still love waking up to each other, falling asleep at each others side and the comfortable life they have created.
They deeply love the other. I worry should something happen to one, I will loose both. Same goes for my grandparents..... They are married 60 something years now... My parents were married for nearly 50 years when my dad passed away...and we did nearly lose my mom too...but, my sisters and I fought to keep her around...she says we saved her life My godparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary! They still flirt with one another like teenagers. | |
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mrdespues said: INSATIABLE said: It's beautiful. And rare, unfortunately. There isn't one person in my family (excluding me and my stepsister) that hasn't been divorced at least once. Extended family, grandparents, you name it. I've got a healthy fright. Yep. It is very rare. Seems to be why I'm finding it so hard to find a "replacement". A lot of women I meet these days are jaded, bitter, secretly are jealous of and/or distrust men as a whole and I don't blame them, for the most part. Society is to blame, as usual. And MySpace. Yes, myspace is to blame for many things in life. It's a sickness, as is this place. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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applekisses said: Muse2NOPharaoh said: Well you have been around mom and dad. They have been married 42 years now. They still love waking up to each other, falling asleep at each others side and the comfortable life they have created.
They deeply love the other. I worry should something happen to one, I will loose both. Same goes for my grandparents..... They are married 60 something years now... My parents were married for nearly 50 years when my dad passed away...and we did nearly lose my mom too...but, my sisters and I fought to keep her around...she says we saved her life My godparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary! They still flirt with one another like teenagers. WTF....FOCUS PEOPLE!! WHAT IS YOUR PERSPECTIVE? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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applekisses said: My parents were married for nearly 50 years when my dad passed away...and we did nearly lose my mom too...but, my sisters and I fought to keep her around...she says we saved her life Wow... You and your family are incredible. My godparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary! They still flirt with one another like teenagers.
That is so HOT! Nothing's more sexy than that. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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DexMSR said: applekisses said: My parents were married for nearly 50 years when my dad passed away...and we did nearly lose my mom too...but, my sisters and I fought to keep her around...she says we saved her life My godparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary! They still flirt with one another like teenagers. WTF....FOCUS PEOPLE!! WHAT IS YOUR PERSPECTIVE? Well...there is a comfort in sharing your life with someone...having children with them...building a life together...those are strong roots...I'd love to settle down with the right guy...will that happen? I doubt it. [Edited 9/14/06 8:26am] | |
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INSATIABLE said: mrdespues said: Yep. It is very rare. Seems to be why I'm finding it so hard to find a "replacement". A lot of women I meet these days are jaded, bitter, secretly are jealous of and/or distrust men as a whole and I don't blame them, for the most part. Society is to blame, as usual. And MySpace. Yes, myspace is to blame for many things in life. It's a sickness, as is this place. Yeah. Well. Yeah. But... Yeah. | |
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INSATIABLE said: applekisses said: My parents were married for nearly 50 years when my dad passed away...and we did nearly lose my mom too...but, my sisters and I fought to keep her around...she says we saved her life Wow... You and your family are incredible. My godparents just celebrated their 50th anniversary! They still flirt with one another like teenagers.
That is so HOT! Nothing's more sexy than that. Thanks, honey...my family is by far not perfect, but we're pretty damn cool! I love my family...and my godparents (who are my aunt and uncle) are just amazing...everyone who meets them falls in love with them. | |
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applekisses said: DexMSR said: WTF....FOCUS PEOPLE!! WHAT IS YOUR PERSPECTIVE? Well...there is a comfort in sharing your life with someone...having children with them...building a life together...those are strong roots...I'd love to settle down with the right guy...will that happen? I doubt it. [Edited 9/14/06 8:26am] The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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DexMSR said: the ritual did not solidify the union and never will,
i have to speak up and totally disagree with that statement OUR ritual DID solidify our intentions for maried life | |
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mrdespues said: INSATIABLE said: Yes, myspace is to blame for many things in life. It's a sickness, as is this place. Yeah. Well. Yeah. But... Yeah. Mmmm. Oh shit, my hat done fell off | |
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Mach said: DexMSR said: the ritual did not solidify the union and never will,
i have to speak up and totally disagree with that statement OUR ritual DID solidify our intentions for maried life Keyword...INTENTIONS. If it is going great...then why even marry....? The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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DexMSR said: Mach said: i have to speak up and totally disagree with that statement OUR ritual DID solidify our intentions for maried life Keyword...INTENTIONS. If it is going great...then why even marry....? why not you know Dex baby ... there are some things that Mach does not put out there for the public and if you know me... you understandand know why | |
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Mach said: DexMSR said: Keyword...INTENTIONS. If it is going great...then why even marry....? why not you know Dex baby ... there are some things that Mach does not put out there for the public and if you know me... you understandand know why Because if it is going great...there is no reason to. What is out there that makes you want to marry if you two are going just fine and dandy as it is. What will "being married" actually do to enhance? This is my question. The man who does not read good books has no advantage over the man who cannot read them. -- Mark Twain.
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Never been married, but have been in relations.
Relationships, up to two generations back, meant marriage. Back in the day marriage was forced on you by society; the church demanded it, if you wanted to fit into society. I think the reason that relationships these days often do not last long is because there is no rigid society pushing you into certain roles. If something goes wrong, people assess their situations out of different points of view than back in the day, besides the fact that there are no so many options for people. Most women back in the day had NO way to get out of difficult situations. But one of the reasons relationships these days do not seem to last long in my eyes is that there is so much distraction going on. Look at this site, for instance. People focus on the wrong things. Another might be that people hop into a relationship for all the wrong reasons. Even though our options seem so limitless, people still get married because it is expected from them and because society still pushes these forms of being together upon us; from young age on we are drownded in iamges that spell out to us that marriage should bring us bliss, but the reality is that a relationship is hard work. And when people realise that, through the feeling unhappy, those distractions I spoke of just take us into another direction and we throw the towel into the ring maybe a bit too easily. | |
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