brownsugar said:

Yeah, but how do i do it with out looking like a sissy boy or without losing my dignity?

listen numbnuts... i am loathe to say this
but when you drop your guard down just a wee bit
you can be halfway decent


drop all the tough guy bullshit
and talk to her as yourself


you have nothing to loose at this point

Spats said:

You would be amazed at how much so would probably open up to you and pursue you if she saw you open up a little. That would NOT make you a wuss or a sissy boy. It would make you a human being that is reaching out to someone that they are interested in- nothing wussy about that. You have that idea in your head and until you get past it- it might keep you from some much needed sack time..sorry to say..Sometimes you have to give a little to get a little..

I say go for it- what the hell do you have to lose at this point?

Spats said:

You would be amazed at how much so would probably open up to you and pursue you if she saw you open up a little. That would NOT make you a wuss or a sissy boy. It would make you a human being that is reaching out to someone that they are interested in- nothing wussy about that. You have that idea in your head and until you get past it- it might keep you from some much needed sack time..sorry to say..Sometimes you have to give a little to get a little..

I say go for it- what the hell do you have to lose at this point?

Shanti1 said:

Thanks for the advice.

I was gonna go to her place today but i couldn't figure out what to say. I haven't had to do crap like this before.

Shanti1 said:

Thanks for the advice.

I was gonna go to her place today but i couldn't figure out what to say. I haven't had to do crap like this before.

Spats said:

Your welcome- I just think if someone wants to be with someone bad enough they will make the effort. If you are really not comfortable doing what it is going to take to get some sack time with her then maybe you should look elsewhere but you obviously have an attraction to her so maybe you should try to see if it could lead to some real satisfaction- for both of you.
I don't know- I have always been the type to go after something if I really want it. I hate to think should have could have would have and what if..

The babe told my buddy she wants a normal relationship and she does not think that will happen with me.

Spats said:

YA THINK???

TMPletz said:

What's normal????

Spats said:

Pretty much everything you're trying so hard not to become.

TMPletz said:

Seriously? You mean whipped and a romantic sissy boy? Please don't say that is normal. I will lose all hope for the world.

Spats said:

I mean a person who is not selfish and thinks about the other person's needs before their own. Selfishness will get you nowhere in relationships.

And for the most part, people are not whipped. They don't do things for their partner because they have to. They do them because they WANT to. It's called love, but you wouldn't have a clue as to what that's all about.

Spats said:

I mean a person who is not selfish and thinks about the other person's needs before their own. Selfishness will get you nowhere in relationships.

And for the most part, people are not whipped. They don't do things for their partner because they have to. They do them because they WANT to. It's called love, but you wouldn't have a clue as to what that's all about.

The babe is still not talking to me. I can't believe she is THAT pissed off i did not join her and her friends the other night. I am never gonna get sacktime or help with my computer at this rate.

I have never had this much trouble getting sacktime with a girlfriend before. In the past my girlfriends gave in and made the move on sacktime and everything was fine. This thing has been such a f**king struggle. We get along great other than the fact that i am not good at playing the traditonal boyfriend role.

i don't know what to do anymore with this girl. Do i let her cool off and see what happens? Do i give in and apologize and be a wimp and do whatever it takes to get sacktime? Or do i just move the f**k on and start all over again and try and find someone else to approach me. I dread the last choice because it's not easy finding women who make the first move.

walk away and move onto the next "babe" you are looking like a love sick sissy puppy here Spats


Get on with it and find a new sacktime adventure

so just sit there then,
wish that someone would take you out for a meal
wish that someone would ask you out for a movie
refuse to ever give any bit of yourself to anyone
be stand offish, refuse to participate in a relationship
whine away about not getting any
don't examine what you did to fuck things up
just continue pretending to be content with what you haven't got

but most of all... you can be smug that you weren't a sissy boy

Mach said:

or better yet, apologize to betty. i'm quite sure she's missing your vaseline-y goodness at this point.

Spats said:

No offence, but if "sacktime" is what you're after, you should just move on and find someone else to bed. You may also want to look for something more meaningful in your next relationship. Sex is great and very important, but it does not make a lasting, true relationship.

kisscamille said:

I am just looking for a girlfriend to play around with.

kisscamille said:

I am just looking for a girlfriend to play around with.

Well i think tonight is the night that i am gonna go over and see the babe and try and soften her ass up. I have to admit that i am little nervous about this because i have never had to do this crap before. Let's hope when i get back home tonight that my dignity will still be intact. Any last words of advice?

so just sit there then,
wish that someone would take you out for a meal
wish that someone would ask you out for a movie
refuse to ever give any bit of yourself to anyone
be stand offish, refuse to participate in a relationship
whine away about not getting any
don't examine what you did to fuck things up
just continue pretending to be content with what you haven't got

but most of all... you can be smug that you weren't a sissy boy

Spats said:

Yeah. Don't bother. She's seen through your ruse. Move on to the next "non-ugo".

Handclapsfingasnapz said:

i mean all the wallowing about a sacktime only chick ... he sounds like a sissy in love and cant figure out how to woo her back to him ...

there are 100rds or sacktime sweetys just wanting nothing but a lay and no strings attached...why place the REAL man games with this one ?