My daughter rachel was born on sept 6 and its been two weeks
and i still dont feel connection father should have yet.

Oh, Hun, the same thing happened to my brother-in-law when my older sister had her daughter. It took him 2 or 3 years before he grew emotionally attached. I mean, he loved her because it was his duty, but it wasn’t until she fell and bumped her head around the age of 2 or 3 that he completely panicked and hugged her, and it was then that I knew that he loved her. It was a bonding that took a long time for him.
For some people it’s instantaneous, but for others it takes a bit to bond. For my sister it took about 2 weeks to bond to her because she experienced a mild form of depression after my niece was born, which I believe isn’t too uncommon.
Don’t feel guilty. Just know that you will bond with her. And when it happens you’ll fall in love.
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Wait til she slaps you in the face and then laughs hysterically.

2the9s said:

I don't think that behavior towards you applies only to your daughter hun.

pinkgirl93 said:

2the9s said:

Right now I feel like bonding with you by slapping you silly.

I know someone who thought her kid looked like a box for awhile...

pinkgirl93 said:

Okay.

But NO laughing afterwards!!

CortestheKiller said:

It wasn't a box. It was a block.

On a serious note, though... I didn't feel any emotional attachment to either of my children in the beginning.

My son I just sort of let sleep until I had to feed him, which wasn't too often. It felt odd. I didn't immediately love him or feel any warm feelings towards him. There wasn't much of a feeling of anything other than he was there. Later on, of course, I grew to love him. My husband felt the same way.

My daughter, same thing. In fact, after giving birth to her they brought her in to sleep next to my bed and I told them to take her to the nursery and I'd see her in the morning. My husband immediately loved her.

It took a month or more for me to feel something that resembled love towards either of them. I didn't know them.

Now, I love them with all that I am.

Mazurack said:

Yeah, little Justin or Julia is lame, too.

Mazurack said:

I was fully convinced that I was going to be the same way...but nope, instant love the second I saw him.

You just never know. I don't think it really has anything to do with who you are as a person. I think it just happens right away or it doesn't and both are perfectly normal, imo.

JustErin said:

I agree.


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CortestheKiller said:

I, like, Erin, worried that I wouldn't feel anything. I was wrong.


Don't beat yourself up over it. Your personality probably just needs time to adjust and form that connection.

CortestheKiller said:

my daughter looked liked an alien


I just said....awwwww....hopefully she'll grow into her looks


the ugliness fell off in a matter of some days

2the9s said:

or headbutts you, starts to cry and looks at you like its your fault. All you can do is make sure your jaw isn't broken from their tough skulls!

Mazurack said:

Wow. I can't imagine that...