would someone who was very nice on several dates, we had a good time, told me he had a crush on me, I confirmed my continuing interest in him, etc. suddenly just stop talking to me?

Why, oh why don't people have the decency to simply say, 'hey, this just isn't working out...'?

I'm a big girl. I can handle someone deciding they just aren't interested. But I HATE being treated rudely.


Sorry. Needed to vent.

aww... sorry to hear that Carrie. not nice to be treated like that but there's plenty more fish in the sea (as they say )

Thanks, Natisse.

And its for the best I find out early on, I suppose, but it just baffles me.

CarrieMpls said:

people in general often do... baffle us all that is. always surprising

is this the co-worker?

CarrieMpls said:

I have done that before. I don't know why this dude did it with you but when i did it it was because the woman did something to turn me off.

If you don't want to be treated rudely then stay away from the dating world. Because Rude behavior is everywhere in it. It can be brutal.

Just move on. There is always someone better out there.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

No, this is a different one.

ah well.

Dating is overrated anyway, is what I'm finding out.

Oh Boy Carrie! you have spats advice. What a lucky gal

CarrieMpls said:

Because he's a

Did you sleep with him?

Ok, I know that's a personal question (and you don't have to answer, of course), but I am just trying to put the puzzle pieces together.

JustErin said:

As far as I can tell, that's irrelevant.

We'd had 4-5 good dates over a month or so. He sent me a message on Monday to ask about my recent trip (I got home Saturday), I said we should get together soon and he hasn't responded since. It's become obvious to me on his myspace profile (no, I didn't meet him that way!) that he's dating someone else. Which really is fine, it was pretty casual anyway. But to just not respond to me after he initiated conversation?
What an ass. lol.

LleeLlee said:

Maybe he couldn't pluck up the courage!

fathermcmeekle said:

He's a chicken, y'see?

fathermcmeekle said:

fathermcmeekle said:

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LleeLlee said:

That's a ladies coat!

CarrieMpls said:

Agreed!

fathermcmeekle said:

I was too embarrased to get yours

CarrieMpls said:

You were asking why some people do this. Some people are just looking for casual sex and will lie to get it, then they just disapear once they get what they want.

But you explained how it was between you two. My guess is he just didn't want to hurt your feelings and wanted to avoid confrontation.

I've been out of town on business, cut me some slack!!

CarrieMpls said:

Because they were not good enough for you. There loss, you're a darling.

jerseykrs said:

If it were you, I'd forgive ya.

I don't know if he reads the org or what, but he just started im-ing me.

That's kinda spooky.



ah well.

CarrieMpls said:

Tell him to cluck off!

fathermcmeekle said:

I'll get LleeLlee's coat...

don't let it slow ya down...if this is how he's doing you, then there's no point in wondering why, just believe what you said and be happy you saw his true colors at this point in the game. there's better out there, and you deserve better.

fathermcmeekle said:

CarrieMpls said:

Oh Lord, I don't know, but if you find out, please share the wealth.

I'm sorry Carrie.

Maybe he really DOES like you a lot, but is afraid of his feelings for you?

CarrieMpls said:

Marry me!!!!!

CarrieMpls said:

Similar thing just happened to me.

Some people just have no manners, or "home-training" as Prince/Christopher Tracy might say.




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