would someone who was very nice on several dates, we had a good time, told me he had a crush on me, I confirmed my continuing interest in him, etc. suddenly just stop talking to me?

Why, oh why don't people have the decency to simply say, 'hey, this just isn't working out...'?

I'm a big girl. I can handle someone deciding they just aren't interested. But I HATE being treated rudely.


Sorry. Needed to vent.

CarrieMpls said:

Because he's a

would someone who was very nice on several dates, we had a good time, told me he had a crush on me, I confirmed my continuing interest in him, etc. suddenly just stop talking to me?

Why, oh why don't people have the decency to simply say, 'hey, this just isn't working out...'?

I'm a big girl. I can handle someone deciding they just aren't interested. But I HATE being treated rudely.


Sorry. Needed to vent.

I'm sorry, hon...this has happened to me before too. I do wish some folks would realize that the truth is much better than just disappearing out of someone's life. It's a very cowardly way...and you deserve more than that. Keep your chin up, beautiful

applekisses said:

But the person doing the disappearing does not know how the person will react. A lot of people can't handle the truth. What was i gonna say? "I am sorry but this relationship is boring me?" Or "You are just annoying the f**k out of me". It was easier to get out and avoid confrontation or hurt feelings.

Do a couple of days mean that much just yet? Sometimes I don't talk to girls for like a week and a bit even if I like 'em because I'm too damn busy. I call em when I get a decent opportunity to chat.

Do a couple of days mean that much just yet? Sometimes I don't talk to girls for like a week and a bit even if I like 'em because I'm too damn busy. I call em when I get a decent opportunity to chat.

JustErin said:

As far as I can tell, that's irrelevant.

We'd had 4-5 good dates over a month or so. He sent me a message on Monday to ask about my recent trip (I got home Saturday), I said we should get together soon and he hasn't responded since. It's become obvious to me on his myspace profile (no, I didn't meet him that way!) that he's dating someone else. Which really is fine, it was pretty casual anyway. But to just not respond to me after he initiated conversation?
What an ass. lol.

CarrieMpls said:

Maybe he died.

minneapolisgenius said:

sometimes it's best to wait a while and see, without making any assumptions about why someone isn't around

Spookymuffin said:

Same here. I have gone days without talking to the babe or past girlfriends. Or girls i was interested in. I call when i feel like it.

Do a couple of days mean that much just yet? Sometimes I don't talk to girls for like a week and a bit even if I like 'em because I'm too damn busy. I call em when I get a decent opportunity to chat.

Spats said:

Neither of those is necessary. A simple 'this just isn't working' would suffice.



In other news, the guy sent me long apologies and whatnot today. So we're ok for the time being. He just can't mess up again.

CarrieMpls said:

Just disappearing is cruel and cowardly.

Oh well eh?!

applekisses said:

That does not say much for me i guess.