Let someone tell you how much time you could spend online? Say for instance, your mate,lover, spouse or whatever tells you that you have a limited time online but then they themselves spend hours online.....Would you stand for that or tell them the same rules applies to them also?

I would NEVER let anyone dictate how much time I spent online. How much time I spend on the internet is my business. If someone doesn't like it, TOUGH, that's their problem, not mine.

Grown people telling other grown people what to do and expect blind obidiance ? Sounds like the military or slavery, take your pick.

psychodelicide said:

I completely agree. I was just wondering if any one else thought the same way lol

StDrew said:

I was thinking more prison

StDrew said:

It sounds like marriage.
[Edited 9/19/06 22:07pm]

eVeRsOlEsA said:

You're not alone, I'm with ya.

Spats said:

BINGO!!!!!

I think if you feel you're both spending more time online than with one another and its affecting your relationship and set a rule for both partners it's ok...but, for one to have a limit and the other not to...screw that

They can tell me, I just wouldn't listen.

I know this is different, but when I was younger (from 13-17) my parents restricted how long my sister and I spent on the internet. Stupidest thing ever. Unless your kid is seriously showing signs of addiction, why would you do that? ALL it did was cause endless friction.

applekisses said:

That is what I am getting at. I can see if both were spending too much time online and it was affecting the relationship. But to set rules and not follow them too is pretty fucked up ;shrug;

eVeRsOlEsA said:

rules ?

Lord NO...there is no place in my relationships for rules

applekisses said:

That's what I was thinking. If a loved one came to me complaining I was spending more time online than with him, well, I'd have to think about why he felt that way.
But if its a petty argument, then that's just silly.

CarrieMpls said:

Co-sign.

If someone had an issue, well that's time to go and assess what they say, see if it is valid, see how I can improve the situation.

If it's not valid...

I dont like people telling me to do anything..so let alone tell me how long to stay on the computer
They better get over themselves

DanceWme said:

Same here. Nobody tells me what do. Especially a girlfriend.
[Edited 9/20/06 7:48am]

I have an inkling where this is coming from and you know my view already Steph

2 blindly dismiss that kind of remark from somebody as 'controlling', especially some1 close 2 U, is a little selfish and unfair.
They may well have good reasons 4 feeling that way.
Does it impede on quality time spent with Ur spouse/children 4 example?
We all know how addictive it can B
Openly discuss it, it may well b a genuine concern.

Spats said:

agree. except, as in boyfriend.

i'll listen, and consider what's being said, but in the end i make my own decisions.

eVeRsOlEsA said:

Once upon a time my wife and myself had one computer. We found it fair to split the time in half. Now adays we have his and her computers. We are on the computer at the same time.

A time limit,Prince, and the org r 3 reasons that I'm single 2day!

christos7 said:

I think you are missing what I am saying Is is fair to tell your mate how much time they can spend online and then YOU spend twice as long online.

eVeRsOlEsA said:

No!

susannah said:

AMEN!!!!!

eVeRsOlEsA said:

Depends what each of U r doin online I guess...
Don't believe that trash about the goose n the gander.
Discuss trust issues 2gether asap.
Noone here is qualified.

christos7 said:

well good thing this isn't my problem It was just a question. You have raised some valid points. But You are STILL not seeing what I am getting at