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Reply #30 posted 09/20/06 5:28pm

nurse	Not really, I tend to tell the truth harshly-so people don't like it .
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Reply #31 posted 09/21/06 2:13am

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susannah said:

i think so....they tell me so, but then it depends what the situation is as well, sometimes I think to myself "fuck! I have no dea what to say about this!" but its all about experience I suppose...and also having the ability to see when a person is actually looking for advice, as opposed to just looking for someone to listen. I know a lot of the time when Im upset, Im such a stubborn little cow that Im not listening to any advice they give me, and I get quite offended that they give me it! lol

but thats me...

And Alun - You really are!!! hug

You've been nothing but excellent to me this last year....jesus has it been a year?! eek

THANKS, susannah. eek

I appreciate that. hug

You gotta be there for your friends... nod

As StDrew says, though, it's implementing your own advice that's the hardest part. confused

But anytime... hug

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Reply #32 posted 09/21/06 2:16am

Natisse	onenitealone said: it's implementing your own advice that's the hardest part. definately
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Reply #33 posted 09/21/06 2:35am

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susannah said:

(it's) also having the ability to see when a person is actually looking for advice, as opposed to just looking for someone to listen. I know a lot of the time when Im upset, Im such a stubborn little cow that Im not listening to any advice they give me, and I get quite offended that they give me it! lol

but thats me...

I meant to respond to this part of your post...

I think that's very important too. nod

Sometimes people just want a friendly ear; they're not looking for answers. Everyone likes to vent now and again.

The only problem I've ever encountered is when people - and I'm talking really, really close friends here - have asked me for my *honest* opinion/advice and got it. Suddenly, the truth is too hard to handle. confused

*How* you say things is obviously important - that goes without saying - but, as far as I'm concerned, there are no half-measures with being honest. You either are or you aren't. So my friends know better than to expect a bullshit answer. If I ask them an honest question, the least I'd expect is an honest answer.But I've learned that not everybody feels the same way.

Is it possible to be too honest???