Or are you a better listener, someone who people can tell their problems to, and being able to keep it to yourself? Some people are very good at giving advice, and always seem to know what to say to another person to make them feel better. Others (like myself) are not good at giving advice, but are great to have around when a friend or family member needs a shoulder to cry on. Which one are you?

i can do both. it depends who i am with and what the situation is as to which is stronger - advisor or comforter.

madartista said:

I know what you mean. If it's a coworker or someone you don't know well who is telling their troubles to you, I don't think you would give them the same advice that you would to someone you do know well (such as a friend of family member).

Absolutely, I am the poor mans Dr. Phil. I can solve all problems except my own.

StDrew said:

Dr. Phil. I'm sure you're nicer than he is, he tends to be a little harsh sometimes.

I'm not a good listener or advice giver. I have enough trouble making my own way. Than trying to show, someone a certain way. I tend to observe alot and learn from my own and others mistakes.

psychodelicide said:

Unlike Dr. Phil, I usually have hidden motives

I've been told I am good at both...

people seem to think that i do..i mean basically i just think about a situation and try to be as sincere as i can.
the problem with giving advice is that it can come back and bite you in the arse.
i think in this world we have to be very careful in what we say.

I am. Because i tell it like it is. Brutal Truth. I have advised buddies what women to hook up with and who to ditch, etc, etc.

I get alot of satisfaction. Tell people
the right advice, they never listen, and then they either dismiss my previous input or take credit on their own. They must feel like a dildo cause they couldve avoided a heap o'crap.

I think I'm good at comforting and encouraging, but advice? No.

I'm better at giving advice than receiving it.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

I'm a fair listener and advice giver. But I know I'm always trying to be a better listener.

Nope. Terrible at it.

psychodelicide said:

I'm not good with advice... but I hope I'm a good listener
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minneapolisgenius said:

give it a few years!

IrresistibleB1tch said:

I'm serious. I almost get panic attacks when friends come to me with their problems. I have no idea what to say. I can't even make a single decision for MYSELF in life, so how could I know what to say to them?

edit to say that I can't wait a whole 15 years though
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minneapolisgenius said:

Thats me. I just didn't know how to explain it.

minneapolisgenius said:

Both, I hope.

I'm both but more of a good listener. I don't give advice unless I'm asked to..but I'm always here to listen and never judge

I'm pretty good at both...

I think Erin gives good advice or is at least good at listening.

Ok, Nancy, this is your time, Sis, give me some advice.

minneapolisgenius said:

awww, come on. You've often given me good advice.

"Go out tonight"

"have ANOTHER drink"

you know, the important stuff

I hope I'm good at both since that's really what I'm paid to do.

No one ever listens to my advice.

Probably cuz it's usually "Go to Hell."

i think so....they tell me so, but then it depends what the situation is as well, sometimes I think to myself "fuck! I have no dea what to say about this!" but its all about experience I suppose...and also having the ability to see when a person is actually looking for advice, as opposed to just looking for someone to listen. I know a lot of the time when Im upset, Im such a stubborn little cow that Im not listening to any advice they give me, and I get quite offended that they give me it! but thats me...


And Alun - You really are!!! You've been nothing but excellent to me this last year....jesus has it been a year?!