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Milty needs a shoulder to cry on...... So it seems that my lady that I have been seeing for the past year is leaving in January to further her education and that means leaving for another country. She may be gone for around 5 years as she has always wanted to stay away and further her career once she graduates.
So this leaves our relationship in peril. more than likely we will keep seeing each other at the start of the seperation but i'm sure it will wind itself down naturally. that makes me horrendously sad. i wish she could stay...or i could go with her (that's the better option as i would want her to fulfill her dreams more than anything). we are in love and that's going to make the pain that much harder. i dunno....anyone else in a long term relationship? | |
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Aww poor baby
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Milty life is 2 short for regret and "what if's" follow ur heart | |
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sorry about that baby | |
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Milty said: So it seems that my lady that I have been seeing for the past year is leaving in January to further her education and that means leaving for another country. She may be gone for around 5 years as she has always wanted to stay away and further her career once she graduates.
So this leaves our relationship in peril. more than likely we will keep seeing each other at the start of the seperation but i'm sure it will wind itself down naturally. that makes me horrendously sad. i wish she could stay...or i could go with her (that's the better option as i would want her to fulfill her dreams more than anything). we are in love and that's going to make the pain that much harder. i dunno....anyone else in a long term relationship? i hope it works out for the best. too bad you aren't studying the same thing she studies | |
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is it feasible for you to go milty?
there is time to make those decisions... you can see how you manage after she leaves if you both want it hopefully you can find a way     She couldn't stop crying 'cause she knew he was gone to stay | |
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I managed to maintain my relationship long distance 3 or 4 months on and 5 or 6 months off for nearly 2 years, but it was very tough. You just need to talk everything through with her and see if you think you can have a go at this. If you're in love it'd be a shame not to give it a good try at least. | |
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Goodness Milton...
If ever there was truth in this saying... (Correct me, I know I have it a bit mixed up) ~Smile. If you love someone Set them free If they come back It was meant to be If they don't...  is there a second part to this... ?
(only now have I seen/felt the huge truth in this) ~Hugs. The other saying...
It is better to have loved Than to not love at all Then I found these... If you love someone.. ----- The Original: If you love someone, Set her free... If she comes back, she's yours, If she doesn't, she never was.... Now the New Versions..... ----- Pessimist: If you love someone, Set her free ... If she ever comes back, she's yours, If she doesn't, as expected, she never was Optimist: If you love someone, Set her free ... Don't worry, she will come back. Suspicious: If you love someone, Set her free ... If she ever comes back, ask her why. Impatient: If you love someone, Set her free ... If she doesn't comes back within some time forget her. Patient: If you love someone, Set her free ... If she doesn't come back, continue to wait until she comes back ... Playful: If you love someone, Set her free ... * If she comes back, and if you love her still, set her free again, repeat * C++ Programmer: if(you-love(m_she)) m_she.free() if(m_she == NULL) m_she= new CShe; Animal-Rights Activist: If you love someone, Set her free, In fact, all living creatures deserve to be free!! Lawyers: If you love someone, Set her free, Clause 1a of Paragraph 13a-1 in the second amendment of the Matrimonial Freedom Act clearly states that... Bill Gates : If you love someone, Set her free, If she comes back, I think we can charge her for re-installation fees but tell her that she's also going to get an upgrade. Biologist : If you love someone, Set her free, She'll evolve. Statisticians : If you love someone, Set her free, If she loves you, the probability of her coming back is high If she doesn't, your relation was improbable anyway. Schwarzenegger's fans: If you love someone, Set her free, SHE'LL BE BACK! Over possessive person If you love someone don't set her free. HR specialist If you love someone set her free by Offering her VRS and other benefits Then outsource her. MBA If you love someone set her free instantaneously and look for others simultaneously Psychologist If you love someone set her free If she comes back her super ego is dominant If she doesn't come back her id is supreme If she doesn't go, she must be crazy. Somnabulist If you love someone set her free If she comes back it's a nightmare If she doesn't, you must be dreaming. Rhett Butler If you love someone set YOURSELF FREE If she asks you why say you don't give a damn. ERP functional expert If you love someone set her free If she comes back, map her into your system If she doesn't, carry out a gap-fit analysis Finance expert If you love someone set her free If she comes back its time to look fresh loans If she doesn't, write her off as an asset gone bad. Marketing Expert If you love someone set her free If she comes back she has brand loyalty If she doesn't, reposition the brand in new markets. | |
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Set them free If they come back It was meant to be" Don't listen to garbage like that. That's bullshit. If you let her go, she'll be gone. It won't be a romantic movie where you two are reunited under a sky of fireworks. Not likely. She'll marry someone else. Don't let go of her. If you can, go with her. Worst case scenario, it doesn't work out, and you had the adventure of a lifetime. Best case scenario, you thank yourself for having went with her when you're married to her. The world is a comedy for those who think and a tragedy for those who feel.
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if u can afford it and if things will be safe for you to do so, go with her...
if you feel that things are serious enough that you see a long beautiful future with her, go with her follow your heart, and if it's leaving with her, you know what to do.. ...go with her. | |
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The transition will be hard but if the love is there then it will work out somehow and in the way that you least expect. Life surprises you sometimes. | |
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Milty said: So it seems that my lady that I have been seeing for the past year is leaving in January to further her education and that means leaving for another country. She may be gone for around 5 years as she has always wanted to stay away and further her career once she graduates.
So this leaves our relationship in peril. more than likely we will keep seeing each other at the start of the seperation but i'm sure it will wind itself down naturally. that makes me horrendously sad. i wish she could stay...or i could go with her (that's the better option as i would want her to fulfill her dreams more than anything). we are in love and that's going to make the pain that much harder. i dunno....anyone else in a long term relationship? I may be knocked for saying this but she is choosing her education/career over your relationship. Move on. | |
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| Try and find a way to spend as much time with her without really having to give up on either of your dreams.
Will she be moving around a lot? Couldn't you do what you do now close to where she'll be? Don't give up on something beautiful [Edited 9/19/06 0:28am] | |
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Long distance works sometimes - my boy moved to Japan and we managed to keep it going.. untill he moved back to the UK!! But Que sera sera, whatever will be will be. The Hottest chip of them all - www.hotchip.co.uk - Get down with Prince
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just to clarify, this is something she always intended on doing before we met. we both knew this before getting into a relationship that this might happen so it's not a surprise.
i can't go with her cuz i'm not American. She'll be in NYC. she actually has U.S. citizenship. and no Spats, you wanker, she did not choose her career over the relationship. | |
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Milty said: just to clarify, this is something she always intended on doing before we met. we both knew this before getting into a relationship that this might happen so it's not a surprise.
i can't go with her cuz i'm not American. She'll be in NYC. she actually has U.S. citizenship. and no Spats, you wanker, she did not choose her career over the relationship. Start applying for jobs in NYC than  | |
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Milty said: So it seems that my lady that I have been seeing for the past year is leaving in January to further her education and that means leaving for another country. She may be gone for around 5 years as she has always wanted to stay away and further her career once she graduates.
So this leaves our relationship in peril. more than likely we will keep seeing each other at the start of the seperation but i'm sure it will wind itself down naturally. that makes me horrendously sad. i wish she could stay...or i could go with her (that's the better option as i would want her to fulfill her dreams more than anything). we are in love and that's going to make the pain that much harder. i dunno....anyone else in a long term relationship? If you both are truly in love, you will not lose her.....think about it....  "Love and compassion are necessities, not luxuries. Without them humanity cannot survive."
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| If it's doable, I say try to go with her...true love comes along rarely. | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: Live your future life with huge doses of reality. Long term successful long distance relationships are rare
Milty-----> <-----SupaSupa is right (of course) but they can work you just need to decide how you feel. I moved to the US for 2.5 years after meeting a girl only ten days before I left the UK. We maintained the relationship with many expensive flights and long holidays together and of course good old webcam. That girl is now my wife and mother of my son. I can't imagine ever having got on that plane knowing I would never see her again and I nearly didn't go because of it. Living apart was sooooo incredibly difficult, at times nigh on impossible but I just wante dyou to know that it can be done. All the best, whichever route you take. Happy is he who finds out the causes for things.Virgil (70-19 BC). Virgil was such a lying bastard! | |
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Milty said: just to clarify, this is something she always intended on doing before we met. we both knew this before getting into a relationship that this might happen so it's not a surprise.
i can't go with her cuz i'm not American. She'll be in NYC. she actually has U.S. citizenship. and no Spats, you wanker, she did not choose her career over the relationship. I think If the relationship was the most important thing above all else then she would stay close to you. | |
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