There is no woman that lovable.

Spats said:

This statement does not reflect a reality that women are not loveable, but rather your inability to love. Love is infinite. It is found in the one who loves, not the object of love.

7ellusion said:

Because you are dependant on another person for almost everything. An independant person does not need a "partner". You have to answer to that "partner" or consult with that "Partner" on everything. No independance is involved.

Spats said:

Ya see i have a girlfriend but i am still independant as hell. What the hell do i rely on her for other than helping me with my computer?? I do what i wanna do, when i wanna do it, for as long as i want to do it. I don't have tell her what i am doing or when i am doing it, blah, blah, blah. I don't even have to talk to her every day.

Spats said:

okay your first comment is narrow minded...your second, is a reflection on you and it's not a good one because what you're actually saying is that you're only concerned about yourself which simply means you're selfish and being selfish is not the same as being independent.

brownsugar said:

You made a couple good points. Marriage is not for independant people. And the thought of being with one person forever is depressing. There is no woman that lovable. Closing off your options in life is not good.

Spats said:

Wellll I'm sure with your attitude towards women, you've got alot of options Spats.
Marriage begins with loving another enough to want to spend the rest of your life with that person. Not everyone is capable of this and shouldn't ever get married. (Even divorced couples start out with a level of optimism and faith)
There are legal protections, joint property, medical issues, etc which have been mentioned.
There's a mature understanding of the fact, we're not perfect, and are willling to stay committed in good and bad times.
Marriage isn't cookie cutter. I know a couple with children who are "Swingers".
Works for them.(god only knows how)

Since there seems to be a "why commit to a ring" flair, I have an unfortunate statement affecting women. In my career, successful professional men who have live-in relationships with women, TRADE UP after 7-10 years and find younger stuff. All that time and commitment with nothing to show. Common law exists in some states but I wouldn't rely on it.
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heartbeatocean said:

I am able to love. Just hard finding a woman worth loving.
[Edited 9/19/06 21:13pm]

I don't get the question, but here goes a shot at the answer.

I got married cuz it seemed like it was the rite time in my life to settle down. The actual "choosing" of the guy I married. Ahhhhh BAD choice.

I'm STILL married cuz I have two babies to raise and I don't have a job and my husband pays the mortgage.

People get married because they are afraid of being alone. Insecurity. That's pretty much it. And women for whatever reason dream about when they are little girls.

Getting married is pointless because there is nothing you can do married than you cannot do unmarried. Sorry to break that to all the married people.

Spats said:

This is my point exactly.....but people still marry....why?

bluesbaby said:

Joke all you want. But there is some insecurity there and they think marriage will correct that. Marriage is just a waste of money.

DexMSR said:

Because since they were young girls women have dreamed of the fairytale wedding. To be proposed to, the stupid looking gowns and silly ass ceremony. I don't know why little girls dream of that though.

I think it is being independant. Because i don't depend on her for anything and i don't have to answer to her or consult with her on anything.

Spats said:

....and look how that attitude has probably made her DROP your ass.

http://www.prince.org/msg/100/203493

TMPletz said:

Well being independant is the best way to live.