Never been married, but have been in relations.

Relationships, up to two generations back, meant marriage. Back in the day marriage was forced on you by society; the church demanded it, if you wanted to fit into society. I think the reason that relationships these days often do not last long is because there is no rigid society pushing you into certain roles. If something goes wrong, people assess their situations out of different points of view than back in the day, besides the fact that there are no so many options for people.
Most women back in the day had NO way to get out of difficult situations.

But one of the reasons relationships these days do not seem to last long in my eyes is that there is so much distraction going on. Look at this site, for instance. People focus on the wrong things.
Another might be that people hop into a relationship for all the wrong reasons. Even though our options seem so limitless, people still get married because it is expected from them and because society still pushes these forms of being together upon us; from young age on we are drownded in iamges that spell out to us that marriage should bring us bliss, but the reality is that a relationship is hard work.
And when people realise that, through the feeling unhappy, those distractions I spoke of just take us into another direction and we throw the towel into the ring maybe a bit too easily.

Mach said:

Because if it is going great...there is no reason to. What is out there that makes you want to marry if you two are going just fine and dandy as it is. What will "being married" actually do to enhance? This is my question.

DexMSR said:

i see

you mean the slip of paper that says you're "married" in society's eyes/laws ?

you are right

Nadda

and also you are right that most marraiges do little to enhance the actual long term relationship

and at 40 do i see marriage different then at 23 ...yes

would i do it differently

perhaps

though ... it would still be with the same man

Mach said:

I love you girl!!

Whap!

DexMSR said:

i know


wanna marry me ?







love you too my friend

Fury said:

i am SO stealing that.

i don't want to get married. i think instead, i want to find a couple i really like and see if they'll adopt me or make me their long-term exchange student or something. i'd like to be a wacky live-in butler like mr. belvedere or alice. you KNOW alice got some brady action now and then. and really, i don't mind cooking or light cleaning. so that's my goal. i aim high.

Anx said:

You're HIRED!!!*








*as soon as I become a rich neurologist

HereToRockYourWorld said:

snap to it! my student loans ain't gonna pay themselves, ya know!

Anx said:

You've caused a fundamental shift in my worldview. I now realize that my perfect life involves you as my/our butler (you'll really like Mary, I think). I must now dedicate myself to making this happen. Hang in there, I'll sort it out.

HereToRockYourWorld said:

now, let's get this straight: i'm not going to be the tuxedo and british accent kind of butler. i'm going to be more like the boy version of nell carter on gimme a break, or like the boy version of whatsherface on "we got it maid" or whatever that show was. my services are less about formalities and more about hijinx.

Anx said:

Oh, I completely understand. It's not like I hadn't ever thought of having a butler before. It's the hijinx part that hadn't quite occured to me. Wouldn't work with just anybody, either.

Perhaps we should come up with a better title than 'butler'. Ideas?

now, let's get this straight: i'm not going to be the tuxedo and british accent kind of butler. i'm going to be more like the boy version of nell carter on gimme a break, or like the boy version of whatsherface on "we got it maid" or whatever that show was. my services are less about formalities and more about hijinx.

Anx said:

Marry me! You'd soon pick up a British accent if you lived over here, or at least some British germs.

Justin1972UK said:

He can't marry you. He's going to be my live-in he-maid. Pay attention.

Anx said:

Marry me! You'd soon pick up a British accent if you lived over here, or at least some British germs.

Justin1972UK said:

if you moved in next door to here2rockyrworld, you could be the wacky neighbor and that would up the hijinx factor. just sayin'.

if you moved in next door to here2rockyrworld, you could be the wacky neighbor and that would up the hijinx factor. just sayin'.

Anx said:

if ya'll need a live studio audience, i want in on the action.

ThreadBare said:

Answer the damn question!!!

The Bible defines the sort of relationship I ultimately want with a woman as one ordained by Him between a husband and wife. My hope is that it'll be a godly, progressive, nurturing, strengthening union that will produce all sorts of good things, including (but not limited to) children.

ThreadBare said:

Plus it would make the down-low more exciting!

Just kidding.