and a strong drink... hitt the door running...

does that count?

Puhchoolee said:

Please explain.

Spats said:

You have to
see the film
to get it. A
character in
it says some
things that
sound like
your much-
maligned view
of intimacy.

Puhchoolee said:

Puhchoolee said:

What does every one here consider intimacy? Because i love making out and having sacktime.

Spats said:

Letting your
guard down to
your squeeze,
man. Try start-
ing there.

Puhchoolee said:

What do mean?

Puhchoolee said:

Oh far out...and 2 think I got banned 4 a couple o days 4 sayin someone got knocked up!

Whateva said:

That's not true. I let them come to my home and stuff. You don't want to give to much away though or else there is no mystery. Things will get boring. It's best to hold stuff back. You don't want them to get to know you too well or know EVERYTHING about you. You have to have some privacy and space. The babe and other past girlfriends have always wanted to see photos of me when i was a kid and wanted me to tell them all about myself and other sissy stuff like that. I have just never been into that. I am not interested in seeing pictures of them as a kid or any of that stuff. Is all of that intimacy?

Spats said:

Dude, the fact
that your ap-
proach is one
of defense is
what folks are
talking about.
Holding stuff
back... Love
is about giving.




Take Buck here.
Buck Turgidson
was all about
being open to
love.


.
[Edited 9/21/06 11:39am]

IrresistibleB1tch said:

(((shhhhh!!!)))

Puhchoolee said:

Or even ask Bob, here:

Puhchoolee said:

My approach is on defence? You mean because i want them to make the first move?

My friend, in
the "game" of
love, yours
is definitely
a defensive
strategy. You
venture no-
thing. You
risk less. If
the slightest
chance of pain
surfaces, you
cut bait and
hide behind
the ruse of
having higher-
than-normal
standards. The
fact is no one
wants to be
hurt. But love
-- in its tru-
est and purest
forms -- is
worth the risk.

Puhchoolee said:

"True love in its truest and purest form" rarely ever happens though. I don't think it's wise taking risks on something that is likely never gonna happen.

Because i don't approach women it means i venture nothing and risk less? What about the majority of women on this planet that don't approach either?? I just got tired of putting my ass on the line all of the time. The Dating world is tough and letting the women do it makes it much easier. Back in the day when i did all the approaching a lot declined. Say i approached 10 women. 6 to 7 would not be interested. and the 3 or 4 that were were not even the hottest of the 10. That shit wears you down. But things turned around for me when i started waiting for them to do it. I knew for sure who was interested and i could pick and choose. I am in control of what happens for a change. The only problem being most women don't do the approaching. So it can take awhile sometimes.

The only times i cut bait with women is when i was bored or they were becoming annoying. Not to avoid pain.