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Today is the anniversary of my father's death... He died exactly nine years and 1 hour and 18 minutes ago. I can't believe it's been that long. In some ways it seems like yesterday...but in other it seems like it was 50 years ago.
I'm going to the cemetary tomorrow. Do any of you have any rituals to remember your loved ones on these days? [Edited 9/8/06 12:23pm] | |
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my father's grave is long gone (silly germans, dig you under after 25 years), but i do remember him on his birthday and other occasions. we had a strained relationship, but i've made my peace with him. | |
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aww hon  anniversary's can be tough... hang in there
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Baby, I know you miss him terribly and I'm glad you have people around you to bring life and joy where it is missing. My respect to your father on this day. I will be going to the cemetary for my cousin in March. That is going to be really hard. Are you going to go alone or with family/friend? 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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 Thanks, my friends 
Supa, my mom and I are going...I've never gone by myself. | |
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No one close to me has passed away yet. Stay strong sweetie. | |
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applekisses said: Thanks, my friends
Supa, my mom and I are going...I've never gone by myself. I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it. I might want to be alone. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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sextonseven said: No one close to me has passed away yet. Stay strong sweetie.
Same here. Sorry about your loss, Applekisses. | |
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sextonseven said: No one close to me has passed away yet. Stay strong sweetie.
My dad's funeral was actually the first I had been to. It was like a nightmare. | |
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SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: applekisses said: Thanks, my friends
Supa, my mom and I are going...I've never gone by myself. I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it. I might want to be alone. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. Will it be the first time you've gone? | |
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unfortunately i've never had any sorta real ritual surrounding the anniversary of my mom's death, save for occasionally going to her grave on memorial day when i was younger. the best i can do is simply think of her from time to time.
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applekisses said: SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said: I'm not sure how I'm going to handle it. I might want to be alone. I guess I'll cross that bridge when I come to it. Will it be the first time you've gone? Yes. I don't know that I can really handle going right now. the 6th month mark has already passed, although with something like this I guess I'd mostly follow my heart than a specific timeline. There are a couple people I do not want to see at her grave so I feel kind of apprehensive about it. 2010: Healing the Wounds of the Past.... http://prince.org/msg/8/325740 | |
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Let happy memories comfort and keep you company Apples
No rituals here just thoughts and memories...19 years gone  I have a firm grip on reality...Maybe just not this reality   |
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For my Daddy...Ernest Janos...I miss you...
Back when I was a child Before life removed all the innocence My father would lift me high And dance with my mother and me and then Spin me around 'till I fell asleep And up the stairs he would carry me And I knew for sure, I was loved If I could get another chance, another walk, another dance with him I'd play a song the would never, ever end How I'd love, love, love, to dance with my father, again Oooooh When I and my mother would disagree To get my way I would run from her to him He'd make me laugh just to comfort me Yeah yeah, then finally make me do just what my mama said Later that night when I fell asleep He left a dollar under my sheet Never dreamed that he, would be gone from me If I could steal, one final glance, one final step, one final dance with him I'd play a song that would never, ever end 'Cause I'd love, love, love, to dance with my father, again Sometimes I'd listen outside her door And I'd hear how mama would cry for him I prayed for her even more than me I prayed for her even more than me I know I'm praying for much too much But could you send the only man she loved I know you don't do it usually But dear lord she's dying to dance with my father again Every night I fall asleep And this is all I ever dream [Edited 9/8/06 12:59pm] | |
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applekisses said: For my Daddy...Ernest Janos...I miss you...
Back when I was a child Before life removed all the innocence My father would lift me high And dance with my mother and me and then Spin me around till I fell asleep Then up the stairs he would carry me And I knew for sure I was loved If I could get another chance Another walk, another dance with him I’d play a song that would never, ever end How I’d love, love, love to dance with my father again Ooh, ooh When I and my mother would disagree To get my way I would run from her to him He’d make me laugh just to comfort me, yeah, yeah Then finally make me do just what my mama said Later that night when I was asleep He left a dollar under my sheet Never dreamed that he Would be gone from me If I could steal one final glance One final step, one final dance with him I’d play a song that would never, ever end ‘Cause I’d love, love, love to dance with my father again Sometimes I’d listen outside her door And I’d hear her, mama cryin’ for him I pray for her even more than me I pray for her even more than me I know I’m prayin’ for much too much But could You send back the only man she loved I know You don’t do it usually But Lord, she’s dyin’ to dance with my father again Every night I fall asleep And this is all I ever dream 
that's beautiful | |
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August 16 was the 8th anniversary of my own father's death. | |
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my Mum's anniversary was a couple of weeks ago... it's the day before my Brother's Birthday and my only ritual this time of year is to try and ensure he is ok on both days  | |
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TMPletz said: August 16 was the 8th anniversary of my own father's death.
I knew they were close...did you do anything to mark it? | |
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Natisse said: my Mum's anniversary was a couple of weeks ago... it's the day before my Brother's Birthday and my only ritual this time of year is to try and ensure he is ok on both days
it's a hard time, sweetie...I know... | |
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applekisses said: Natisse said: my Mum's anniversary was a couple of weeks ago... it's the day before my Brother's Birthday and my only ritual this time of year is to try and ensure he is ok on both days
it's a hard time, sweetie...I know... | |
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applekisses said: TMPletz said: August 16 was the 8th anniversary of my own father's death.
I knew they were close...did you do anything to mark it?I haven't been. The first couple of years, I made phone calls to Mom to make sure she was handling it alright. Since then I guess I don't really do anything special, but I think about him a lot that day and many other days during the year. I've had weird dreams where he's still alive yet I know in the dream that he's been dead...so he was somehow brought back to life. Those are kind of disturbing.  | |
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Natisse said: applekisses said: For my Daddy...Ernest Janos...I miss you...
Back when I was a child Before life removed all the innocence My father would lift me high And dance with my mother and me and then Spin me around till I fell asleep Then up the stairs he would carry me And I knew for sure I was loved If I could get another chance Another walk, another dance with him I’d play a song that would never, ever end How I’d love, love, love to dance with my father again Ooh, ooh When I and my mother would disagree To get my way I would run from her to him He’d make me laugh just to comfort me, yeah, yeah Then finally make me do just what my mama said Later that night when I was asleep He left a dollar under my sheet Never dreamed that he Would be gone from me If I could steal one final glance One final step, one final dance with him I’d play a song that would never, ever end ‘Cause I’d love, love, love to dance with my father again Sometimes I’d listen outside her door And I’d hear her, mama cryin’ for him I pray for her even more than me I pray for her even more than me I know I’m prayin’ for much too much But could You send back the only man she loved I know You don’t do it usually But Lord, she’s dyin’ to dance with my father again Every night I fall asleep And this is all I ever dream
that's beautiful When my sisters and I were little...my dad would put the stereo on in the living room and have each of us, one at a time, put each of our feet on his feet and he would dance each of us around the room before bedtime... | |
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TMPletz said: applekisses said: I knew they were close...did you do anything to mark it?I haven't been. The first couple of years, I made phone calls to Mom to make sure she was handling it alright. Since then I guess I don't really do anything special, but I think about him a lot that day and many other days during the year. I've had weird dreams where he's still alive yet I know in the dream that he's been dead...so he was somehow brought back to life. Those are kind of disturbing. I have those dreams too. | |
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applekisses said: TMPletz said: I haven't been. The first couple of years, I made phone calls to Mom to make sure she was handling it alright. Since then I guess I don't really do anything special, but I think about him a lot that day and many other days during the year. I've had weird dreams where he's still alive yet I know in the dream that he's been dead...so he was somehow brought back to life. Those are kind of disturbing. I have those dreams too. | |
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applekisses said: He died exactly nine years and 1 hour and 18 minutes ago. I can't believe it's been that long. In some ways it seems like yesterday...but in other it seems like it was 50 years ago.
I'm going to the cemetary tomorrow. Do any of you have any rituals to remember your loved ones on these days? [Edited 9/8/06 12:23pm] Its been only 3 years sence my mom has passed! She passed away on the 4th of July.... so one ritual I have is I save a special firework for her and @ 10:10pm (the time she passed) I light it of and outloud tell her how much I love and miss her... It helps me!! | |
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shayblackfeather said: applekisses said: He died exactly nine years and 1 hour and 18 minutes ago. I can't believe it's been that long. In some ways it seems like yesterday...but in other it seems like it was 50 years ago.
I'm going to the cemetary tomorrow. Do any of you have any rituals to remember your loved ones on these days? [Edited 9/8/06 12:23pm] Its been only 3 years sence my mom has passed! She passed away on the 4th of July.... so one ritual I have is I save a special firework for her and @ 10:10pm (the time she passed) I light it of and outloud tell her how much I love and miss her... It helps me!! That's beautiful, Shay | |
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I cant even imagine creating your own ritual would be a wonderful thing | |
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applekisses said: TMPletz said: I haven't been. The first couple of years, I made phone calls to Mom to make sure she was handling it alright. Since then I guess I don't really do anything special, but I think about him a lot that day and many other days during the year. I've had weird dreams where he's still alive yet I know in the dream that he's been dead...so he was somehow brought back to life. Those are kind of disturbing. I have those dreams too. Me too, about my dad and my aunt who raised me like a mother. With a very special thank you to Tina: Is hammer already absolute, how much some people verändern...ICH hope is never so I will be! And if, then I hope that I would then have wen in my environment who joins me in the A.... | |
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