AnckSuNamun said:

OK , i understood

Btw , come to think of it no one in my neighbourhood calls their parents by their first name
Apparently it's not comon for dutch people
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I *hated* my name growing up. I hated being asked, "Where's Chachi?" or being called Joni Baloney or Joan or when it was mispronounced Jonny (wtf?). In junior high I decided to go by my middle name, but I forgot that was my plan so whenever teachers would call on me I was like, "Who are they talking to?"
That lasted about a week.

I don't *love* my name, but I like it alright...it's somewhat uncommon without being crazy weird. And sometimes I let people think I was named after Joni Mitchell even though my parents weren't cool enough to do that. I was supposed to be named Tricia, but someone else in my very small hometown of 800 named their baby Tricia so Joni it was. I'm so not a Tricia!

(Same thing happened with my bro. He was supposed to be named Matthew, but someone else in my hometown took that name so he got Darren instead.)

Dewrede said:

ok

Lammastide said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

*cue Sanford and Son theme song*

The other day I was watching a soccer game on TV, Brasil vs Argentina.
Anyway Brasil won with goals by Elano and Kaka.
I mean, what the hell? Their names in Spanish mean The-anus and Poopoo!!!

I wonder if they know that.

I quite like my name wouldn't change it... there are some names I really really am drawn to but will name any children I might adopt with those

Natisse said:

err sweetheart,

most children who have been put up for adoption have names already.

but anyways, i always liked the name Tonya

it's not even a nice name (apologies to any Tonya's out there)

32flavors said:

Name's can be changed upon adoption. Mine was.

32flavors said:

um, hi. have we met, sorry? and, with respect, as Cloudy said names can and in many cases are changed upon adoption

Natisse said:

wow, do we have to know people before we can reply to their posts

seriously though, i have fostered children and in my opinion children need constants and stability, the key is to minimise change so they do not feel alienated. i would never consider changing their names, unless ofcourse they themselves requested it.

also sometimes it is good that they keep the links open with their past, and their names are a fundamental part of that.

dats my 2 cents anyways

32flavors said:

no not at all... you called me sweetheart so I didn't know whether this was an alter account of someone who knew me is all sorry

and I agree with you for children a little older, yep... but if they're young babies say under a year old I think a change of name is fine.

just my 2c worth also it's all good

Cloudbuster said:

well hello honey, yes i know names can be changed

i just pointed out they they already had names, most people only change the child's surname to their own.

How did you feel when your parents changed your name, did they consult you?

Natisse said:

true, i hear that

32flavors said:

I was adopted at three months old, so the name change meant shit to me, honey.

Cloudbuster said:

i bet they change your name cos it use to be something like Damien or shit head



no really

32flavors said:

It was something horrific like 32 Flavors or some such shit.

jerseykrs said:

tell 'em they're adopted!

Anx said:

you're evil!

IrresistibleB1tch said:

well, he should tell them lovingly.

Cloudbuster said:

it was something god awful like Tonya, no wait that's what they changed your name too

Cloudbuster said:

IrresistibleB1tch said:

I know that comment was meant in fun, but I always find it slightly offensive. (Sorry Anx.)

I don't understand why people joke about telling kids they are adopted as an insult. It implies that no one wants adopted kids...which is not true. I think most times the biological parents give their babies up for adoption because they want them to have *better* lives than they could provide, which is much cooler than keeping the baby and not being able to give him/her a good life. There are huge waits to adopt babies, and the families that adopt have to prove they are responsible, financially secure, will provide a good home, etc. There aren't requirements about who can pop out a baby and have a biological kid--people who adopt have to pass a lot more requirements.

jone70 said:

yeah, i know. and no need to apologize - everything's offensive to someone, i just lucked out and offended you.

while i'm not usually the kind of person who enjoys explaining his humor, it is important for me to not be viewed as an adoptionist bigot. so. given the context of the original comment, in which jers said he was sick of being called "dad", i made my comment to mean that if his kids thought their biological father was someone else, perhaps they wouldn't call him "dad". it wasn't an insult toward the adopted/adoptive community at all. some of my best friends were adopted! sometimes i feel like i might have been adopted, but i look too much like my parents. i used to fantasize about it when i was a kid, but every time i looked in the mirror, i knew i was stuck with my parents' genes. how do you think that makes ME feel?

anyway. i'm gonna go watch some 'mind of mencia' now and enjoy some nice, wholesome jokes about homos and fat chicks.

jone70 said:

very good points - you're absolutely right.

if it had been anybody other than Anx making that remark, i would have probably not found it funny.

IrresistibleB1tch said:

And some of his best friends were adopted. That old comment.

Fauxie said:

you all know that by "adopted" i mean "people who are destined for success", right? i didn't mean anything offensive by it. that would be totally faggy of me.

Anx said:

It's ok, I have gay friends (Imago), so you know we're cool.

Anx said:

No worries...I usually don't get offended by stuff people say here but I'm kinda sensitive about that issue. I know you didn't say it with malice, but there could be people who read it and don't understand how a comment like that could be hurtful, so I was responding more for that reason.

It's all good, thank you for the nice response.

Sorry to be such a thread downer...