My first kiss with one of my ex's was horrendous, but everything after that was just perfect... and the sex was amazing. I'd just give it another try or two.

Natisse said:

That's true, too. I dated a 28 year old once who had no idea how to give oral sex. He was willing ot learn though. And I mean, his attempts were horrendous. So finally I just spoke up. He aimed to please, and I bet he's off these days making some other chick quite happy!

Just think of it as an opportunity to teach him some great kissin.

Not everybody is a natural good kisser.
Same with sex, you might need to get to know each other a bit better to enjoy it.
If all other things are ok it might be well worth working on it.

Just try and talk about it (although that's usually a tough one)

CortestheKiller said:

I guess it all comes in time... hopefully

Natisse said:

Eh, the most important thing to do is establish some comfort in talking about the things you like or dislike. It's not really about whether or not someone knows how to do something. We're all born, I think, with a basic idea of the hump. Either that, or I figured it all out from all the hours of porn I watched when I was a teen and just thought I had been born with a basic knowledge of humpage....

One thing I always try to remember, keeping in the spirit of this thread, is to tell a guy, "That was okay, but I would really like if you...." It's not a bad shot to the ego if you shield it with a semi-compliment.

CortestheKiller said:

That's a classic I love it.

Oh Lord!

Help him along!

Anyone can be taught to be a good kisser so it depends on whether he was a bad kisser because of technique or the experience was bad because of lack of chemistry between you. If the former, I'd say go with it and teach him how you like it; if the latter, it's probably better that you say goodbye now and find someone you're more attracted to.

x

meow85 said:

NO! No second chance. Not worth it. There are a million guys out there, DON'T SETTLE!

DO



NOT




SETTLE!!!!!

ugh, bad kissers are the worst. i had one that would leave like the lower half of my face wet, it was horrid.

meow85 said:

teach him how to kiss your way!...oh the practice sessions!

purplerein said:

NO! Forget THAT! Dump his ass, and start over! DO NOT SETTLE!!!!!

i think it's romantic when a partner attempts to enclosethe entire the lower half of your face with their lips.

meow85 said:

shame on you...how shallow are you?

meow85 said:[quote]And things were going okay. We had a lot in common, and got along well.


But then we kissed.


It was fucking awful. Not kinda bad. BAD. It felt like Prince's movie kisses look. Unforgiveable.


"I feel like a shallow bitch for not calling him back since, but everytime I think about him I think about how damn unpleasant kissing him was. :ill


Can you describe what was so yucky about the kiss? It might help those who need assistance. (bad breath, poor oral hygiene, too wet, mouth too open? I'm thinking of the lousy kissers I've encountered)

Don't do it!!! If he can't knock you out with a kiss don't go back! I tried reforming horrible kissers and it has never worked. If I can't get turned on by someone's kiss I really can't entertain anything serious because kissing is that important to me

CortestheKiller said:

Actually, everthing after that first kiss was not perfect or he wouldn't be an ex!

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

what if Bunky wasn't a good kisser?...wouldn't you teach him?

purplerein said:

I would try! But really, I have had really just perfect looking men that ended up real shitholes in bed and I can only go so far with that

meow85 said:

Erin--always there with the support.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Smart ass.

Maybe I just like to dump perfectly good men to go on to another perfectly good man?

But, in fact, I had meant to say all the smooching and such like that was perfect after the initial piece of suck. There.

Oh Lawd!!!!

I hate to be like this but I have a problem with guys that can't kiss. It ruins everything.


M

CortestheKiller said:

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

I once dated a girl who told me she and her friends categorized guys by how they kissed...there was the..
Blender...self explanatory
Slobber monster.."
Lip Biter..
tongue sucker...

kissing like any other act of sensuality is give and take, and both parties need feedback on how to be better at pleasing their partners.

This is what you do. ask him

When we kissed? What did you feel? Find some way to inquire about about the kiss. If he thought it was good, leave. If he knew it was bad or awkward than give it another shot.

SupaFunkyOrgangrinderSexy said:

Did you mean to be nitpicky as hell?

althom said:

Like I said, it felt as bad as Prince's movie kisses look. I wish that was a joke.

CortestheKiller said:

xplnyrslf said:[quote]

meow85 said:

Too sloppy, mouth too open, too pushy -dude put like all his weight onto his lips.